Since you don't want to divorce for your children, let yourself have your own life circle. Many reasons for unhappy marriage are that you place too much hope on the other person, and always hope that the other person can be considerate, gentle to yourself and warm to your family. Because there are too many hopes, they eventually become disappointed. If they are disappointed, they will feel sad and feel that marriage is very painful.
But since I don't want a divorce, I'm going to let someone else live my life. After her friend's husband cheated on her, she didn't want a divorce because of her children. After being a housewife for eight years, she chose to study English, then started working and found a job as a translator. Now she often has company dinners and goes out with colleagues. When she has nothing to do, she takes her children out to play with her parents. I think her life is very good now.
She took her eyes away from her husband, but did herself well, focusing her eyes and love on her children, family and work. She doesn't have much time to be sad about her husband, and she doesn't have much time to think about why he came home late, why he didn't answer the phone and why he didn't go home.
She wears exquisite makeup and beautiful clothes, and now she lives an optimistic life and no longer complains too much about her husband. On the contrary, her husband now takes care of his family a lot. We don't know whether he will continue to contact the cheating partner, but at least he loves going home to take care of the children more than before.
So when you stop looking at others and focus on yourself, you will feel less pain.