I didn't expect that the child had been injured three times this semester, and the same child did it.
The previous two injuries were caused by toys and scratches next to eyes. Although Ms. Xu and her wife are distressed, they think that when children play, there are always bumps and bumps, and they have not been investigated too much after friendly settlement.
The last time the child was injured was 20 19 12 3 1, and the corner of his eye was scratched by his classmates again. Looking at the two bloody scratches on the child's face, his parents felt distressed, and his mother could not accept it.
Don't talk about parents, even if others read it, they will feel distressed. How painful it is for children, and maybe it will leave scars.
When communicating with the kindergarten, Ms. Xu said that what the director said angered her husband, so the husband was very angry, so he took his son to the classroom and asked him to call his child back: "Dad is here, do you dare to call him back?"
"My son just grabbed another child's hand and hit him," said Ms. Xu, who had dropped out of school for her son and asked the kindergarten to refund the fees for the whole semester.
From the video, Rui Rui Jr. walks up to the child, picks up the child's hand, pats the palm of his hand, and then quickly returns to his father.
Seeing this scene, many netizens said that Xiao Rui is really too gentle and kind. He just patted the slapper's palm and looked at the blood-red scratches on his face, which made him feel even more distressed for the child.
School is the microcosmic society of children. Children who enter school for the first time also mean entering a new small circle. Because every child is a child, it is easy to have disputes and fights when playing, which tests the wisdom and cultivation of parents.
Take Rui Rui Jr. as an example.
There are three reasons:
1, the child was not beaten once, but was beaten many times by the same child. This has gone beyond tinkering in the game and is suspected of intentional bullying. Moreover, children are "easy to bully", and Xiong Haizi lacks discipline.
The father of the child is very angry, but very rational. He asked the child to fight back by himself, even if he only slapped his palm, which was obviously light compared with the injury on his face, and he did not ask the child to "fight back" again.
As a supportive parent, tell the child that it is not his fault to be beaten. He has the right to resist, and his parents will stand behind him.
After the child is beaten, his parents are his strongest backing and the best think tank. If parents handle it properly, children will benefit a lot and know how to face it. Otherwise, parents will make things worse for their children.
When children are bullied, we need to judge according to the specific situation, but parents must not make such behavior.
Scold children, blame children.
Indiscriminate, advise children to be generous.
Children who are bullied and don't fight back are afraid to fight back or are afraid of being scolded by their families, except that they are relieved and don't feel bullied.
These timid children are easy to be bullied. They need more courage and strength from their parents to fight against external bullying. Parents should not only avoid scolding and criticizing their children, but also care about their emotions and encourage them to do what they can and face them together.
There are bullies and there are bullies, so we should teach those bullied children how to protect themselves, but those bullies who like to bully others should be strictly disciplined.
Professor Li Meijin, a criminal psychologist, said: "Many children's problems are caused by adults. Parents' problems are not adjusted, and children's problems are not adjusted. If you want to cultivate children to form good character and character, then the most important time period is before the age of 6. "
It must be the parents' problem that children bully and hurt others, and there must be something wrong with family education.
Many parents may be surprised that they have never taught their children to bully others. Their children usually look so smart, how can they bully others?
That's because children don't necessarily listen to you, but they will certainly imitate your behavior. Your educational methods are closely related to children.
Professor Li Meijin studied many cases of juvenile delinquency and found that most bullies came from these two families.
The first kind: parents' arrogance and rudeness.
Wei Lai, the leading bully in Better Days, which was released on June 5438+ 10 last year, has a superior family, excellent academic performance and sweet appearance. It's really hard for people to think that she is extremely selfish and vicious.
With the deepening of the plot, the answer is gradually revealed, and the arrogance of parents is the fundamental reason.
When Wei Lai forced her classmate to death, the police came to the door, but her parents' first reaction was that the children now are too fragile to commit suicide easily, coldly accuse the victims, and don't forget to show off how good their daughter is; On weekdays, the education of my daughter is also helpful to make friends with "excellent" people, and others disdain it.
What kind of person can a daughter become under this kind of education?
Arrogance will make children get carried away, and arrogance will make children ignorant. In the end, they can only raise one problem child.
The second type: parents have a bad temper, and they either fight or scold.
Parents are used to solving problems with their fists, either beating or scolding their children. Children either become weak, or become rude, bully the weak and pass on their own pain.
There was once a boy who was 10 years old. Father is not happy, either beat and scold his mother or beat and scold her. As soon as he sees his father at home, he will hide carefully, and his father can scare him with a loud cry.
However, as long as his father is not at home, he is braver than anyone else.
Being a child outside and leading a group of children to bully a weak child all day. Finally, the father of the weak child couldn't bear it, so he grabbed him and beat him up, and almost two adults also fought.
Parents' attitude towards things, children will "apply what they have learned" after learning. Therefore, under normal circumstances, if you look closely, you will find that the parents with bad temper and the children raised are also parents with bad temper and gentleness, and the children raised are polite and sensible.
We should have an aura of not being hurt, and we should have the education and awareness of not bullying and hurting others.
Right and wrong education must be carried out as soon as possible. If you don't educate your child about right and wrong from an early age, this part of the child's concept will be missing, and the child will be farther and farther away from the right path, and one day it will make a big mistake.
At that time, not only the children themselves, but also the parents will pay the price for the children's wrong behavior.
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