What's the best way to maintain the plastic friendships of middle-aged women when you have a baby?

Some of our friends have formed a ? hot mom group? The time, the place, the person? The abortion. Friend A exasperated said: no longer organize trips, this group has no need to exist, tomorrow I resolutely retreat! I asked: Why not now? She said: Can you still chat happily? I'm not sure if you want to be a part of it, but I'm not sure if you want to be a part of it.

The group burst into laughter, although the trip plan failed again, fortunately, the ending to the happy ending. I remember when I was single, we basically had a party every month, and said go, now I have a baby, how can it be so difficult to get together? If this continues, as my friend said: how can the plastic friendships of middle-aged women be maintained?

Why is it that old mothers never have time after having a baby?

Remember the last time? activist? Friend A initiated a party that consisted of a group stroll to the park with the baby, followed by lunch, and then after lunch to the beach, where the kids dug in the sand and we explored the beautiful life of a middle-aged woman.

This arrangement is seamless and perfect! Give the wee ones a chance to explore the outdoors and meet their buddies, and give the middle-aged women a ? How to raise a baby? and a chance for middle-aged women to talk about their husbands, food and dieting. So I was the first to jump in and show my support. Then the second, and the third were supportive, and the fourth couldn't, as she cracked out a bunch of stuff: this week my daughter has dance lessons, next week my daughter has a kindergarten performance, and the week after that my daughter?

One high-frequency word appeared throughout: ? My daughter? My friend B got angry and said: "Wouldn't you take a day off? I'm tired of taking the kids to learn this and that all day long, aren't you? She smiled and said: ? Didn't you say don't let your child lose at the starting line? This friend, for the nth time, refused a party invitation (now, we have a party basically directly PASS her).

And another friend who could not attend, her answer was: baby recently sick with a cold, inconvenient to go out. And so, with five and two absent, the party was declared ? abortion?

Have a baby after the old mother why never have time? First, for the baby's great future running around; second, the baby's body will appear at any time; third, do not care to be with you. All said? There is no time that can not be squeezed, only do not want to go to the appointment? This is like the cloud spouse at home, let him take time off to accompany the child is basically a pipe dream, but the reunion can make him run faster than a rabbit. The best way to deal with people in this world who are never available to you, I think, is to just blacklist them.

Where do old mothers waste their time?

Often see online videos of foreign mothers with children, a mother is basically three children such as the standard, in China many of them are a child 6 adults to provide, but mothers are still busy every day. Where do the moms who don't have time to party spend their time?

My friend is one of these people. She enrolls her kids in 8 hobby classes, and she has classes every weekend, so she's in a constant state of ? I'm not sure if you're a good person, but I'm a good person. In her eyes, the only way to get ahead is to study hard at the moment and then study again later. I'm not sure if you're going to be able to get a good deal on a new product or not.

When single, we call is Miss so-and-so, married is so-and-so wife, have a child, it becomes so-and-so mother, this name is the most durable, to continue until the child finished school. And, we have to be in N? Mom's group? to keep the exposure high. Attend the gathering of toddler parents group, elementary school parents group, the birthday party of the child so-and-so's classmates, with two children, such a party is even more three days, you say who still have the time to go to the party of friends ah?

Most middle-aged women would rather turn down their friends' invitations than miss their children's classmates' mothers' invitations, and it's all about pulling the strings for their children. Gradually, the child's network of relationships is rock solid, the old mother's network of friends falls apart, and the middle-aged woman's boat of friendship is overturned.

You might say that a classmate's mom can be a friend! is possible, but this relationship is usually not lasting, the general kindergarten on the elementary school, kindergarten that batch of relationship network is broken, on the secondary school, the elementary school that batch of relationship network then killed in action, although there are exceptions, but this kind of ? There are exceptions, but this kind of exception? The first thing you need to do is to get a good deal of time to get a good deal of time.