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As the saying goes, "Retirement, not rest, old age."
A person's greatest fear, not busy, but always idle.
Many retired elderly people, realize the life, so every day, the time, are full of arrangements, than the work of the moment is also busy.
In ancient times, Tao Yuanming left the workplace, planting, reading, writing, teaching children, and drinking with the village people.
Now, we don't have to worry about making a living, we can go to play cards, see the scenery, square dance, watch fireworks, and do public service activities. As long as you're willing to shine, how old you are, you're a fit young man.
There is a way of life called "mind your own business". If a person is involved in right and wrong, good intentions can be bad. There is a limit to enthusiasm, and it should not be overdone.
In general, the following "five things", do not care, to avoid trouble.
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First, no matter what the unit of broken things, a good horse does not eat back grass.
My old colleague Lao Li, before retiring, was responsible for technology development work in the unit. Because he is technically sound and has a good character, he is loved by his superiors; he has also brought a few apprentices, all of whom are very grateful to him.
After his retirement, Li took the initiative to continue to work, and do not want to pay, as long as a little subsidy. At first, everyone respected him, but after a few months, a few disciples began to dislike him, thinking that his presence, blocking the way of everyone's promotion and salary increase.
When Lao Li and his colleagues fell out, he had to leave the unit. But the good impression left in the workplace is swept away.
Retired, do not care about the original unit of broken things. A unit, the lack of who, will go round and round, to believe that the young people than you do better, take over the boss, there will be more wisdom.
Back to the original unit to drink a cup of tea, no excuse, but to deal with some of the trouble, or do some unnecessary work, it is redundant.
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Secondly, regardless of other people's family affairs, when the outsider.
During the Three Kingdoms period, Kong Rong worked under Cao Cao as an errand boy and was highly regarded. But he had one shortcoming - he was tongue-tied.
There was a time when Cao Cao and Cao Pi, father and son, both loved Zhen Mi.
Kong Rong said, "When King Wu conquered Zhou, he gave Daji to the Duke of Zhou."
Once, when Cao Cao and his ministers were discussing world affairs, Kong Rong said, ""For those who have the world, why do they need a daojin sword."" The word "卯金刀" means "Liu", which stands for Liu Bei.
The Ziji Tongjian records that Chan suspected that the construction of Rong's theory was gradually broadening, and was more afraid of it.
Because everything is a crossbar, Kong Rong became the antagonist.
There is a saying that it is difficult for a clean official to intervene in a family matter. Everyone has to separate his own family from others; to separate the levels of people from each other.
You manage other people's family affairs, is to put their own feet, into other people's shoes, obviously inappropriate.
Whether it is a husband and wife, or parents and children's feelings, just like shoes, whether it is appropriate, only they know.
Some old people, for the people around the twilight of love, sons and daughters to college, daughters married outside, etc., said a lot. Say more, naturally, there will be some words that make people uncomfortable and offend people.
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Third, regardless of the relatives' nagging things, treat people with courtesy.
Idle no matter what, go to the relatives' home to walk, go to the happy event to make a fuss. Retired elderly people, most of them have such feelings.
Relatives gathered, drink a cup of wine, nagging, this is the inevitable link, if not control their mouth, will inevitably be involved in the right and wrong.
Let's say that a relative's daughter, more than thirty years old, is not married. You think, this is something abnormal, have to inquire about the situation. Unintentionally, you will find out that the daughter of the relative's family, because she was cheated by her boyfriend, resulting in a lot of pain inside.
Some things, do not know than know better; know, do not say, than to say out better.
Kiss or not, a family, not because of nagging, fall out. You are a retired old man, you should be more qualified, do not and general relatives.
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Fourth, regardless of the education of grandchildren, to face the "generation gap".
The next door neighbor, Lao Zhang, often quarrels with his daughter.
The daughter wants to send the child to the tutorial class, the old Zhang insisted on teaching himself. The old Zhang said: "Daughter ah, when I was so educated you, and now this is how to educate the grandson."
Lao Zhang was born in the countryside, his sons and daughters went to school, there is no tutorials all over the world. Now the conditions are different, how can you look at it with old eyes?
As the saying goes, "Three years old is a generation gap."
Grandparents and grandchildren, do not know how many generations apart. Normally, it is still welcome to manage the life of the grandchildren, and it is better to obey the arrangement of the children for the education.
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Fifth, regardless of the network of disturbing things, it is difficult to distinguish between true and false.
Open the TV, see Zhu Geliang help Liu Bei fight Jiangshan, success, clap, failure, accompanied by tears. Such a person is a fan of the theater.
But you do not want to get too deep into the theater.
The network era, no one can guarantee that the reproduced news is true. A lot of things are "posed"; a lot of information is fabricated. If you do not know the difference, you may be fooled, or spread negative energy.
Retirement also means that you are getting older, your thinking is falling behind, and your awareness of society is weakening.
As a human being, it is important not to believe in rumors, not to spread rumors. Regardless of the disturbing things in the network, your mood will change for the better. After all, your happiness, not in the net sea, in the circle of life.
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After retirement, return to the family, planting their own acreage.
Retirement is the ideal; retirement is the reality.
People should be enthusiastic, but enthusiasm should be given to the right person, put the right place. It is recommended that you pay more attention to your family, greet your partner more often; go out and participate in public welfare activities more often; speak, surf the Internet, and pass more positive energy.
In the future, be a person with a sense of boundary. No matter who you socialize with, keep your distance.
Watching from afar is not indifference, but respect.
Written by Roughing It in Cloth.
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