Recently, I read the book "Speak Well" by Venerable Master Xue Cheng, who explained the significance of speaking well from a Buddhist perspective.
Society is a big social network, family, friends, coworkers, strangers ...... Some people can let people speak like a spring breeze; some people can make people sick of talking; some people can make people speak with admiration. Language is a basic human skill, and the results it brings are closely related to how that skill is used, that is, how it is spoken.
The left wing of a bird is compassion; the right wing is wisdom. A bird can't fly with one wing
The effect of speaking on yourselfWords are psychologically suggestive, and if we say every day, "Believe in yourself," "You can do it," "Keep smiling," then our hearts and minds are in a state of flux. If we say "believe in yourself", "you can do it" and "keep smiling" every day, then our hearts and behaviors will gradually align with your words and move in these positive directions. Just like the marketing company, every morning morning meeting, we read the "performance is king" slogan, dancing passionately, everyone seems to be like a chicken blood, this way is to carry on the psychological implication, to enhance the enthusiasm of everyone; if we say every day "so annoying! "If we keep saying every day, "I am so unlucky" and "I am finished", we may get worse and worse, just like Lu Xun's Sister-in-law Xianglin, from sympathy at the beginning to numbness and impatience at the end. As Master Xue Cheng said, "Positive language can lead you to a better life!"
The impact of speaking on others"Good words are warm in winter, bad words hurt people in June", and often, words are what we say to others, hear them in their ears, and go straight to their hearts. Some time ago, the boisterous Tesla rights incident, the person in charge of the Chinese region in the face of the owner's questioning, hard to carry to the end, a direct reply to the customer, "unreasonable claims are not compromised", set off a piece of public opinion, the quality of Tesla's vehicles became a hotspot for a time, leading to Tesla's performance in China and even a large number of the world downturn, and only today, through the price reduction strategy to warm up. price reduction strategy to rebound. If the person in charge had talked to the defenders properly when dealing with the problem and handled the crisis PR well, perhaps Tesla would not have been trapped for months.
Learn to listen
Sometimes it doesn't matter what you say when you're communicating with someone, it's the listening that counts. Maybe the other person just want to communicate from you to seek comfort, sometimes do not need your response, just listen carefully. Listening is not only to hear the other side to finish the words, but to listen with all your heart to hear what the other side of the heart really want to express. Listening is not only a way to gain the trust and goodwill of the other party, but also a way to understand the other party's heart and help make the right decision.
Be compassionate
Be compassionate when you speak. Here it does not mean to be compassionate to others, but to correct your position. For example, if someone else is sharing his success with you, you should congratulate him instead of saying a few sour words with the mentality of not being able to eat grapes. Speak not in the "I" point of view, but "his" point of view. This is the only way to make the words come out more pleasing to the ear.
Manage the "happy to say"
Some people like to talk, no matter familiar with the strange, no matter men and women, young and old, are chattering. This is a very good way to get the most out of your life, and it's a very good way to get the most out of your life. This is also a kind of "desire". It is the desire to speak. This is a sign of ego. Any occasion, are not necessarily all their own home turf, so to control their own mouth, do not because of their own "can talk" to take advantage of other people's first opportunity or let people bored.
To be frank and frankly fast-mouthed
In describing the character of the person "straight and frank" is a very obvious label, and still neutral words, can say that the person character is good, but also can say that this person does not have a brain, the key lies in the "mouth". The key lies in "fast-talking". There are many cases of trouble coming out of the mouth, all because of "fast-talking". You can be "straight" and have a pure and clear mind, but you have to think twice before you speak.
Save your words
Save your words doesn't mean that we should cherish our words and speak less, but rather that we shouldn't talk too much. "Today I left the company, and the company has nothing to do with" "so-and-so performance is not good, do not do well" such words are too absolute. An employee who leaves a company may one day be associated with the former company, and a poor performer may turn a bad job into a good one. So there is always room for manoeuvre.
Stopping words
Stopping words means that there are some things you can't say, such as official words, big words, and useless words. You often say what words, will become what kind of, say big words, official words, useless words, over time, will also be regarded as a person who likes to brag, posing, such a person is not worth deep friendship, and thus will make your social circle is getting smaller and smaller.
Everyone is an independent individual, have their own way of behavior, speak a variety of ways, we do not have to learn how to talk to others, only need to adhere to the principle of good speech on the basis of the formation of their own unique way of speaking, it will bring different surprises to themselves and others.