Pressure is divided into large and small. Small pressure such as the first time on stage performance nervous, a class ball game worry, the first time to go to his girlfriend's home when the apprehension. This kind of pressure is short-lived and vague, just as the mosquito bites, after the itch is not worth remembering the heart. Bigger pressures such as the desire for a house when you are poor, being betrayed by your partner when you are in love, or suffering from illness when you have an old man and a young man. This kind of pressure is like a flood of beasts hitting the human heart, stirring the human spirit. If you don't handle it well, you'll have a nervous breakdown, or even die of despair.
How do you face the pressure of life and the near collapse of the spirit? The first thing that you need to do is to get out of the house and get out of the house, and then you can get out of the house and get out of the house. The first thing you need to do is to get a good deal of money to pay for the services you need.
First, we must be brave to face the huge pressure when it comes down, we will never do as if it is the weak, to be a warrior with the spirit of the sword. The story of "Yugong Yishan" tells us that only in the face of it, firm confidence, in order to overcome the difficulties.
Secondly, we have to minimize the problem. In the face of great pressure, we should be from the psychological trivialize it, in the specific solution to pay attention to it. For example, the death of the patient, many times the disease itself is not enough to take life, is the fear of the disease to make him desperate. Therefore, only by trivializing the illness and following the doctor's instructions can he recover. The same is true of stress.
Third, we must be good at decomposition. When a huge pressure, we need to know how to break it down and cut it into small pressures, and then overcome them one by one. For example, young people are often anxious and confused by the pressure to buy a house. Now the pressure to buy a house is broken down into finding a job, renting a house, improving business skills, expanding contacts, saving money. After overcoming one by one pressure, buying a house will also be the way to go.
I hope my advice helps you to get rid of your stress.
I am a young man who is being pressurized by life, helpless and helpless, at the same time, but also in their own way to properly solve, looking forward to get out of the predicament as soon as possible.
I think, the more pressurized airtight, the more strict control of their own, on time to sleep, on time to get up, on time to eat three meals a day, adhere to the exercise, if you can adhere to the interests of reading, writing, etc., to withstand all the pressures and glare, endure all the injustice, find a stable place to work, no matter how brilliant once, and now they are nothing, is to survive.
Friends, the more this time, the more self-control, from the solution of their own three meals a day, must believe that they can get back up, must believe that later will thank God for their own set up of these ditches, their own in the difficulties of the harvest will be more precious. When appropriate, you can also drink a glass of their own, in moderation on the line.
The path of life is very difficult to go smoothly, many people will encounter a variety of difficulties, confusion and pressure, and some even overwhelmed and overwhelmed.
The key is to force yourself to calm down in spite of everything, only calm down to objectively look at the situation and analyze the situation, so as soon as possible to find a way out of the pressure. You can try the following approaches:
1. Pressure, your mood will have great fluctuations, is not conducive to your calm thinking. You can put it down for a while, ask a few friends to confide in you, get drunk, or play ball games and swim, so that you are extremely tired and have a high-quality sleep. After that, you can make plans again. Remember, just get drunk and sleep, and never get drunk every day, so depressed.
2. Analyze what kind of pressure you are carrying? If it is economic pressure, then turn on the full power, more part-time jobs and earn more money, whether it is to pay off debt or buy a house, make a list, and watch every month as you get closer and closer to your goal, it will encourage you to continue to work hard, and never to be lazy for the sake of comfort.
3. If the work pressure, first analyze whether you can leave this job to find another sky. If you can leave, be prepared to leave decisively, open up a new world.
4. If you can not leave or a variety of reasons can not leave, then do a little bit of thinking differently, take a look at their own successful colleagues around how to deal with the work, pay attention to the way they learn from them, from the beginning of the change in their own, I believe that a positive effect will occur.
The best way is the need to release, Chinese medicine says that depression is stagnant, when the gas long-term accumulation in one place, it leads to qi and blood, not through the pass. You can see how important it is to release.
How to release it? Way too much, as long as you are willing to exercise can be, to a sweaty run, fitness, ball games, climbing, square dancing, pressure unknowingly with the sweat away; or to cultivate a hobby, focusing on hobbies, and fellow exchanges of insights, pressure with the joy of the clouds dissipate; even about three or five friends, looking for a stalls, late-night snacking, drinking, farting, loudly say the heart of the unhappy, the next day woke up and disappeared, the pressure is not as bad as it was. The next day, woke up, the pressure also disappeared; even if you do not love sports, no hobbies, will not be able to play a musical instrument, no confidant most of the time to find a doctor of the heart, find a priest, or abbot, or a person in the wilderness in the heart of the words you want to say, want to curse the words of the brain out of the back of the earth, you're going to be you again.
Pressure is everywhere, and inevitable. How to face frustration and pressure? The following is my organization for you to recommend some ways to face pressure, I hope to help you.
Ways to face the pressure
One: Recognize the source of pressure
1: Excessive expectations; 2: Pressure between the employee and the boss (power); 3: Pressure from coworkers (competition among each other); 4: Pressure from the emotional; 5: Pressure from the family side of the
Two: Peaceful **** with the pressure
Avoidance The best way is to get along with the pressure, be a person with a heart, throw away the old pressure, meet the new pressure, and overcome the solution to create a miracle
III:Relieve stress
1:Meditation can relieve stress:1) training of attention; 2) face the control of the thought process; 3) to improve the ability to deal with stress; 4) to help the body to relax
2: pain Times. Tears can also relieve stress
3: Physical exercise is a panacea for stress
4: "Four steps" to deal with excessive stress
1: Gradual adaptation; 2: Slipping out of the way; 3: Staying calm, 4: Forgetting about the grief: extreme shock, denial, sadness, guilt, anxiety, shirking responsibility.
V:Adversity is success
1:Adversity should take a positive attitude
2:Adversity will become a step of good luck: no matter what kind of predicament they are in, they always keep the initiative, they will not let the development of the situation to sway their own choices, he will be active in exploring and recognizing the main contradictions of adversity, and objectively face the problem. Objectively face the problem, and try to find a way out of the adversity of the opportunity
3: reflect on the failure, do not close themselves
4: out of the predicament of the road, the key is to make the right choice: 1: to have full reason; 2: insight into their own deep and stable hobbies and interests and aspirations, 3: to recognize their own strengths and weaknesses, and 4: the courage of the enemy is the magic weapon to win
Six. How to face the pressure
1:In the face of pressure, break through the self-fence
2:In the face of pressure, get rid of stereotypes
3:In the face of pressure, don't self-denial
The solution to face the frustration and pressure
People hope that their lives can be more joyful, less painful, and more smooth and less frustration, but life is inevitable. Inevitably, we will encounter loss, pain and frustration, and a life without pain and failure is not a complete life. Balzac said: "setbacks and misfortunes, is the genius of the steps; believers in the baptism of the water; capable of the priceless treasure; the weak bottomless abyss." This is the truth of life. To get joy you must be able to withstand pain and frustration, which is the refining of a person, but also a person must go through the process of growth.
So, when we suffer setbacks, how should we face it?
1, to face with a positive attitude, the pressure into power. To realize that only after experiencing loss and setbacks, you will become mature, and more and more professional and life experience. When you suffer setbacks, you should analyze them calmly, think of better ways to improve, and summarize your experience in a timely manner to learn the lessons. Nowadays, a lot of young people are pressurized by their parents and lack the opportunity to exercise their will,
Once they encounter a setback, they will be easily crushed. For example, you can't properly face the frustration of losing your love. In fact, the loss of love is no big deal, do not carry a heavy mental baggage, waste time to worry about things that can not be changed, to bravely face the reality. Remember, in the face of setbacks, do not be afraid, and do not regret, because growth is bound to pay a price. To learn to self-relief, tolerance of frustration, and even more do not for love, abuse themselves, buried their own great life.
2, know how to self-adjustment. People in the frustration to make themselves able to maintain upward, optimistic and open-minded state of mind, it is necessary to timely transfer their emotions and energy to useful activities, which is the best way to get rid of the pain. For example, through their favorite reading, writing, photography, listening to music, watching movies, sports exercise or travel, etc., to divert attention, so that the mood can be adjusted to regain self-confidence.
3, learn to vent, relieve pressure.
When you have a hard time, you can cry and vent your low emotions. The best thing is to find people you think are trustworthy and understand you, pour out your heart, because "the authorities are confused, the observer is clear", you will get family, colleagues and friends very good guidance and psychological counseling. At the same time, from a mental health point of view, catharsis is also a self-psychological rescue measures, it can make the bad mood to be diluted.
4, to be a little "Q" spirit, self-deprecating. When suffering setbacks, to face the unfair treatment with a kind of transcendental mentality, do not exaggerate their own misfortunes. With the "lost horse, how do you know is not a blessing", "I do not know how many people in the world with me, or even worse than me" and so on to comfort themselves. We should believe that "gold will always shine", learn to change roles, and use humor to adjust the mind. At the same time, we must believe that time will wash away everything. If you are faced with a situation that can not be changed, such as Churchill to patience and wait, we must know that the time has changed, time will certainly help your favor.
5, to be alert to their own psychological crisis may occur. When you encounter setbacks that you feel psychologically unable to withstand, it is necessary to turn to psychological counseling in a timely manner.
In life, setbacks are inevitable. We have to actively cultivate their sound and strong personality, open-minded and optimistic attitude towards life, improve cultivation, sublimation of the spirit. As Marx said: "A good mood, more than ten pairs of good medicine can lift the physical exhaustion and pain.
Analysis of the method of facing frustration and stress
The stress caused by frustration and the resulting anxiety and tension is painful. In the frustration situation can not be improved or eradicated for a while, in order to relieve the pain caused by frustration, to maintain and keep the physical and mental health, we can also use some self-regulation methods to deal with frustration pressure, dissolve the anxiety and tension of the bad mood. This kind of method is more, we mainly introduce the following kinds:
(a) Self-suggestion method
This is a kind of modern psychotherapy, psychological training in the regulation of physical and mental functioning of the method is widely used. It is characterized by changes in one's physical and mental functions through speech or imagination, and its method is simple and easy to achieve self-help effects.
Language is an advanced psychological function unique to human beings, and it is a means for people to exchange ideas and influence each other. Through language can cause or inhibit people's psychology and behavior, the phenomenon of suggestion can be seen everywhere in daily life. For example, the ancient Chinese idioms described in the "plum quench thirst", "grass and trees", "bow and snake", etc., are a vivid portrayal of the role of suggestion. There has been such an experiment: a chemistry teacher in a large classroom, claiming to give students a test of the speed of odor transmission and sensitivity of the sense of smell. The teacher opened the bottle on the podium, poured a few drops of the colorful, in fact, odorless solution on cotton, and made a very disgusted look away from the "stench" of the podium. Soon, many students smelled the unpleasant odor, and finally, even away from the podium of the last row of students also smelled, and the closest to the podium of the front row of students, some actually because of the smell of the stench and left the seat.
The effect of suggestion on human mental activity and behavior is very significant. For example, the doctor said to a subject with a normal heart: "The heart sounds a little murmur." In fact, only a slight systolic murmur is not a problem, but the doctor this sentence, but may bring a great mental burden to the examinee, through the role of suggestion, there may be a heartbeat, shortness of breath and so on, and thus get a "cardiac neurosis". There is an electrical worker in the United States, he encountered a non-electrified wire in the work, but he thought it was electrified, in this self-suggestion, immediately fell to the ground and died, the body with all the symptoms of death by electrocution. This is because the effect of suggestion can strongly influence the physiological functions of the human body. This all belongs to the "negative" suggestion. With "affirmative" hints, you can enhance confidence, regulate their own psychological state, mobilize their maximum physical and mental potential to supplement the shortcomings, and achieve the purpose. If you see your face in front of the mirror, you will be in a good mood, and the efficiency of your work and study is particularly high; when you are thirsty during the hot summer season, you can imagine that a bowl of sour plum soup will soon appear, which can also play a role in relieving your thirst.
The use of self-suggestion method to relieve stress and adjust bad mood, mainly through the role of language suggestion. For example, when angry, remind yourself "do not get angry", "anger will do things bad"; sad, remind yourself "worry is useless, or face the reality, think of ways to do it!" Anxious, warn yourself "do not rush"; when there is a relatively large inner conflict and trouble, comfort yourself "everything will pass", "has been through a lot of difficult times, this time will also be able to go through smoothly! ", and so on. When encountering setbacks, may wish to sit down and sort out the head first, take a look at how many problems, do not let it filled in the mind and become a pile of messy hemp. Should always think: "I can do it!" Or "I may fail, but failure is the mother of success! If I keep going, I will succeed!" Regardless of what kind of resistance, to maintain a state of mind of self-confidence, to firmly believe that: "others can do, I can also do!"
The self-suggestion method is generally carried out with silent internal language meditation, but can also be through self-talk, or even in no one's place out loud to their own appeal to strengthen the effect of the way. You can also write prompts in a diary, on a banner, stick on the wall, bedside, pressed under the glass plate, etc., in order to often whip themselves.
In addition, to get a good time to suggest. Self-suggestion time should be selected in the cortical excitability reduced state, such as the morning just woke up, noon lunch break and night before going to sleep, the effect is better. In the state of high cortical excitability, it is not easy to carry out self-suggestion. If you need to carry out self-suggestion immediately, you should try to make your mind and body calm, relax your spirit, remove distractions, and then carry out in a state of concentration.
(2) Try to use your imagination in the process. This is often better than the effect of self-will efforts. For example, insomnia is very distressing, but often the more you want to sleep, caution yourself to relax, quiet, but the effect is still not good. At this time, if you imagine the relaxed state of the body after, specifically imagine that they have been in a very quiet environment, you will be able to sleep easily.
(3) Choose the content of self-suggestion. The choice of the content of the hint marks the nature of the self-suggestion. We should choose the positive content that can promote the health of human body and mind. If we do not do so, it will have a negative effect on our body and mind. On the basis of general hints, add special content hints, such as "I have confidence in dealing with all kinds of setbacks" (general hints), "Anger is an insult to one's own intelligence, anxiety is a punishment for one's own incompetence, and it does not help to solve things" (special hints), put both of them together, and then choose the most positive content to promote physical and mental health. (special hints), the combination of the two, the effect is even better.
(4) Efforts to achieve relaxation and "concentration". "Concentration" refers to a kind of "effortless attention" that focuses only on one's current state and activities. This can be done by first focusing on one thing, and over time, the attention naturally tires and relaxes, so that it does not focus on anything, thus leaving the mind empty and quiet. In this state of mind, the effect of self-suggestion will be better.
(5) Believe in the marvelous effect of self-suggestion and practice it over and over again.
(2) relaxation regulation method
Frustration pressure and tension and anxiety not only affect the normal life of people, reduce the efficiency of work and study, but also accompanied by some physiological symptoms, such as elevated blood pressure, headache, shortness of breath, muscle tension, fast and shallow breathing, a strong and fast heartbeat, cold sweat in the palms of the hands, diarrhea, insomnia or sleeplessness and so on. By practicing systematic relaxation of the major muscles in all parts of the body, these physiological reactions accompanying tension can be suppressed, thus reducing psychological stress and tension and anxiety. In addition, this method can also be used to treat insomnia, depression, fatigue, intestinal inflammation, muscle spasms, strong back pain, high blood pressure, mild phobias, stuttering and so on.
1. Practice points
The main points of the relaxation adjustment method is: first of all, we must learn to experience the feeling of muscle tension, that is, contracting the muscle groups, pay attention to experience the feeling; and then relax the muscle groups, pay attention to experience the opposite feeling. To gradually relax the following four groups of muscles: ① hands, forearms, biceps; ② head, face, throat, shoulders, including forehead, cheeks, nose, eyes, palate, lips, tongue, neck; ③ chest, stomach, back; ④ thighs, buttocks, calves, feet.
Practice 1-2 times a day for about 20 minutes, contracting each muscle for 5-8 seconds and then relaxing for 20-30 seconds. But this is only an approximate time, cut not due to too much attention to the dissection of the times wizards travelers common about the dry sac meat and potatoes Suo?br>
2. Practice method
The first stage:
Choose a quiet and undisturbed place, lying down or sitting can be, eyes closed.
When practicing, move your attention from one muscle to another without willful effort.
(1) Make a hard fist with your right hand and experience the tension; relax and then experience the relaxation. Repeat.
(2) Make a hard fist with your right hand and experience; relax and experience again. Repeat.
(3) Bend the right forearm and contract the biceps; relax and experience. Repeat.
(4) Flex your left forearm and contract your bicep; relax and feel. Repeat.
(5) Lock your eyebrows and contract your forehead muscles. Relax. Repeat.
(6) Close your eyes tightly and relax. Repeat. Clench your teeth and relax. Repeat. Tense upper and lower palate, relax; tongue against palate, relax. Repeat. Close lips tightly and relax. Repeat.
(7) Fall your head back as far as possible, tense your neck and relax. Rest your chin against your chest as much as possible, experience the tension in your throat and the back of your neck, relax. Repeat.
(8) Shrug your shoulders and bring your head down as far as possible, relax. Repeat.
(9) Inhale y while arching your back, hold your breath to keep the tension; relax your chest and exhale slowly, repeat.
(10) Contract your abdominal muscles and relax. Repeat.
(11) Stretch your hips and thighs tight, relax and repeat.
(12) Tighten your toes to tense your calves, relax. Repeat.
(13) Slow abdominal deep inhalation, press into the abdomen to bulge the abdomen; slowly exhale to sink the abdomen.
(14) Repeat the deep breath three times, focusing on the whole process of breathing (i.e., "mindfulness"). Allow the heaviness of the deepening relaxation to spread throughout the body, and the whole body to relax.
(15) Pay attention to the muscles of each part of the body to see if there are still tense areas; if so, then through the way of the intention of the breath, the sense of relaxation will be directed to the tense areas.
(16) Return to normal breathing.
Life is not easy, and we have to carry the weight. When we enter the society, we have to bear the living expenses of ourselves and our family alone. Social resources are always limited, and everyone has to rely on their own labor to strive for better living conditions. No one is obliged to give the green light to the convenience of others, and can only rely on their own efforts and tenacity to win people's trust and recognition.