A friend of mine, who we all call Sister Wang, is a mom full of love and positive energy. She has a lot of experience in the field, and she has a lot of experience in the field, and she has a lot of experience in the field, and she has a lot of experience in the field, and she has a lot of experience in the field, and she has a lot of experience in the field.
Wang's children were once left unattended. One side of the elderly is too old to bring, the other side of the elderly do not give to bring. It's really hard for a mom who works and brings up her kids at the same time.
Since the birth of her daughter, Wang's difficulties have not diminished.
Because there are no elderly people to help, Sister Wang has hired a nanny for her menstrual cycle, a distant cousin of her husband.
This cousin was nearly 50 years old at the time and had been a nanny for many years, but she had never served a baby.
In this way, Wang spent the whole month in stumbling.
Other problems are still secondary, the most headache for Wang's sister is that her cousin takes leave too often, and every time she doesn't say hello in advance, and every time she is caught off guard.
Because they are relatives, it is not good to disallow leave. The first time I saw this, I was able to see the woman's face, and I was able to see her face.
The child's time in kindergarten is much easier than in previous years: the child can talk, it is the most fun time; kindergarten is not much of a problem, so the child is under less pressure.
But the good times are always so short, and it's time to go to elementary school. The child's schoolwork is becoming more and more burdensome, and it's becoming more and more difficult for her to work and take care of the child at the same time.
Only the very well-behaved daughter, gradually showed learning problems: procrastination, not enough independent learning ability.
On the one hand, there is the teacher who leaves all the homework correction to the parents, and on the other hand, there is the increasingly busy work, and Wang feels more and more tired.
When she was a child, Ms. Wang lost out on college because of family problems, so she didn't want her daughter to make the same mistake, so she has always put a lot of emphasis on her daughter's studies.
As the saying goes, you can't have it all, but work is important, and so is your daughter's study. If you're looking at both, you're not going to have enough energy, and you're not going to be able to do anything right in the end.
Ms. Wang thought about it and discussed it with her husband over and over again, and finally made a decision: full-time.
Without having to run around for work, Wang has more time to take care of her daughter.
She made her daughter's meals every day, and had more time to watch her homework, so her daughter's grades improved steadily. Although the process of primary and secondary school exams are stumbling, but the college entrance examination is very smooth, a move into a 985 school, Wang sister husband and wife are really very pleased.
Before going to college, Wang's daughter said, "Mom! Thank you for all these years for me to pay, for me you gave up your favorite career. I know you've always wanted very much to be able to step into the workplace again, and now that you don't have to take care of me, it would be nice if you could continue to work! But you are long past your professional prime!"
Sister Wang said: "Daughter, you really do not need to worry about me, these years I am not all wasted, take advantage of this period of time mom I took a few certificates, self-tested bachelor's degree, although find a job is certainly very difficult, but to do things by themselves is still no problem. Over the years, I know a few full-time mothers like me, we have all these years, no other experience, for the child from elementary school to university training experience, we are very full. So we decided to capitalize on that and do something together. "
After hearing Sister Wang say this, her daughter felt very relieved and said, "Mom! You are so proud of me!"
Since her daughter went to college, Sister Wang and a few good friends said they would do it, and immediately started their business.
As the saying goes, everything is difficult at the beginning, and it wasn't smooth sailing for Ms. Wang and her friends at the beginning.
They chose to work in the field of childcare and thought they had a lot of experience. But when they really got going, they realized they were far from being experts in the field of parenting!
The parenting knowledge they shared was met with two reactions from the audience: the older mothers were convinced, while the younger mothers did not buy it at all, and thought that Ms. Wang's ideas were too old. So Sister Wang realized that she had to learn the most advanced knowledge! How to learn? Reading professional books, listening to expert lectures, living the life of a "student".
But after all, the age is there, the energy is certainly not as young as when. Gradually, a few friends have been discouraged.
"Originally I just wanted to have fun, I did not expect so tired. I also do not lack the money to spend, it is better to go to a square dance, travel! "
"Yes, we are not specialized in this!
"Yes, we are not specialized in this, just play a little bit, no one listens to us, we do not bother with that!"
In this way, more and more people gave up, and in the end, only Wang and her other friend remained.
It would be a lie to say that they weren't discouraged, but Wang and her friend regrouped: they couldn't give up on the business they were starting again, and they had to grit their teeth and keep going.
In this way, with the full knowledge and help of her college-aged children, Ms. Wang went from being clueless to being able to get started, and then to being comfortable.
Finally, in the year when her daughter graduated from college, Sister Wang and her friends got their careers on track, not only earning money, but also living a very fulfilling life every day.
After her daughter graduated from college, she went on to graduate school, and saw that her daughter was so motivated that she couldn't help but be happy.
Now, her daughter is at home on winter vacation. The two of them talked about their daughter's future marriage and children.
Sister Wang said: "Daughter, mom I will always be your backing, in the future you have a child, if no one to bring, I will have no choice but to help you bring!"
Daughter said, "Mom! These years you pay too much for me, when the time comes I do not want to let you suffer again! I'll take care of my own kids, just like you did back then!"
"Ah?" Sister Wang was shocked at hearing this! Did she raise her daughter with all her might back then so that she would be a full-time mom in the future as well? She never thought it would be like this.
Seeing her mother's reaction, Ms. Wang's daughter "giggled" and laughed: "Mom! See how scared you are! I'm not like you back then, do pure full-time mom! Times are different now. There are many freelance jobs available, so I can bring up my children and work at the same time. I'm not going to be out of touch with society."
Ms. Wang said solemnly, "It's easier said than done to work and raise a child at the same time!"
"Mom! You worked full-time for me for so many years, and aren't you successfully restarting your career now? I believe I can do it too!" Sister Wang's daughter said firmly.
For the sake of their children's better growth and better learning, there are very many moms who choose to work full-time, which is a kind of helpless concession. But full-time does not mean that you will lose everything, as long as you have the heart, although it is difficult, you can still open the second spring of the career.
Take myself as an example, after successfully completing my studies, I began to become bored with school, and at one time I didn't like to read. I've never been able to find a job that I liked, and I've never been able to find the energy to do it. But since I have a child, the child's tender little face, completely inspired my desire to protect. My motivation came back up, and I became fond of reading books again.
Mom's motivation is a positive encouragement for the child.
Many mothers choose to work full-time for the sake of their children to grow up better, is a kind of forced behavior. It's still best to learn to do a little bit of everything once you have the chance. So that the child can see what mom is trying to do and get positive energy from it.
Some people may say that such a mom is also too tired.
That's right, choosing to have a child is actually choosing a path of suffering!
In this life, you choose to be a full-time mom for your child, and on this basis, you make an effort to get ahead, in order to give her a good example; in the future, your daughter for her own child, how will choose, that is her own road, she should walk by herself, is not it?
And besides, with mom's positive influence, your daughter won't be any worse off.