Modern people's mindset may be quite a bit different from the elderly, so that when living together there may be a variety of contradictions. Some young people are reluctant to live with the elderly after marriage, but the elderly always think that they can live together with their children in order to take care of their grandchildren or to exclude loneliness, so that conflicts and even quarrels may arise. As a matter of fact, the unwillingness to live with the elderly after marriage is not because of the children's unfiliality, the main reason lies in the following 2 points
1, reduce the burden of the elderly to do housework, give the elderly more free time
In the view of many young people, after marriage, they live separately from their parents, mainly because they do not want to continue to trouble their parents. Because if the parents and their own live together, every day there are all kinds of housework need to be busy, such as laundry, cooking, take care of the baby, buy groceries, etc., once they work late at night, the parents have to follow the non-stop worry.
But if you live separately from your parents, you only need to take care of yourself, and you don't need to do so much housework every day, nor do you need to buy food in advance. If you are free, you can still go for a square dance and go out shopping with your other half, which is also very free.
2, avoid mother-in-law and daughter-in-law conflicts, so that the family is more harmonious
Has always been, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law conflict is a topic that can not be avoided, and even from ancient times there has been a saying, 10 pairs of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law inside at least 9 pairs of all kinds of contradictions, it looks as if mother-in-law and daughter-in-law seem to be the inherent enemy. Even after the marriage of two people how familiar, there will still be a variety of inner gap. Especially after having a baby, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law may have a lot of conflicts because of the care of the baby, the more serious directly threaten the couple's relationship, to the point of divorce.
But we all know that distance can produce beauty, and maintain a certain distance with the mother-in-law can make the relationship closer, and both sides do not have to deliberately change their personal habits and cater to each other. In this way the possible outbreak of many contradictions invisible can be avoided, daughter-in-law and mother-in-law together will also be more harmonious, not to the size of the daily noise.
So now there are a lot of elderly people think more open, if they have the ability to take care of themselves, they do not need and live with themselves because they feel more convenient.