As a husband, it is really difficult to encounter such a problem, on the one hand is his ex-wife, on the other hand is his own mother, "the fish and the bear's paw can't have it both ways", in the end, whether to choose the wife or to choose the mother, is to make people feel sad. However, I think, blood relations can not be changed, this "evil mother-in-law" is also very difficult to change, but if you really like the ex-wife, you can actually choose to live independently, instead of letting his wife and mother-in-law live together, resulting in daily conflicts, family disharmony
This is the first time that I've seen a woman in the world who has been in the same situation as me. strong>......
The family has an evil mother-in-law, most women really do not want to remarry.It is said that "every family has a difficult time reading the scripture", but many families will encounter the same or similar mother-in-law and daughter-in-law conflict, and this, there are a lot of by the acrimonious, love to make things difficult for their daughters-in-law "evil mother-in-law" caused by. Because "mother-in-law is not a good person", many women can not bear to live with their mothers-in-law, especially the husband has always been "to help relatives do not help reason", unprincipled on the side of the mother , resulting in the wife eventually The first thing you need to do is to get a divorce.
So, as long as the "evil mother-in-law" is still there, after remarriage may continue to face "evil mother-in-law" difficulties, most women are not willing to remarry. After all, people in a pit fell over, but also again in this pit fell, it is really their own stupidity ...... so want to remarry with his ex-wife, we must dispel her concerns.
"Mother-in-law is not a good person", the pro-mother has no choice, and it is difficult for you to change her.
"Blood is thicker than water", the blood relationship between mother and child is not going to change with age, from the time you were born, she is your mother, you can not abandon. And you have grown up, you should understand that her temper has been formed, it is difficult to change her character, point of view. It's so difficult to start with her that it's almost hopeless. So really don't try to change your mother's character, but try to deal with the problem in other ways.
Smaller contact and separate lives can greatly reduce the "mother-in-law-daughter-in-law conflict". From our life practice experience, sometimes the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law conflict, because often live together, inadvertently amplify the contradiction between the two sides, resulting in any problems between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, it is difficult to communicate and solve the problem. Especially living together, must be temperament can not get along, it is easy to cause disputes, quarrels and other problems. But on the contrary, if you do not live together every day, keep visiting once or twice a week, the relationship will be relatively good.
So in the case of conditions allow, try to live separately from their parents , do not be a "mom and pop", do not live in the shadow of their parents, but to run their own "small home" with their wives! "The first thing that you need to do is to get your own family life together. Of course, to do so, is bound to lose the original living at home with parents to care for the comfort of a lot of things have to face their own couple. But since you want to remarry, if even this thing can not do, and how to let his ex-wife believe that you can bring her a different life it ?
Don't be "kidnapped by affection" or "kidnapped by love", be true to yourself. However, neither your ex-wife nor your mom should be a shackle on your life. Sometimes, you should consider, is what kind of person you want to be, to live what kind of life, and then go to choose with whom to live, to realize their own ideal lifestyle ...... rather than because of "affection", "love", and put themselves in the "love", "love", and the "love". love", and trapped themselves under the requirements and expectations of others ......Loyalty to your own, both to yourself and to others is responsible for the ......