Conflicts are inevitable and happen from time to time when you have different ideas about parenting. For this problem, I think there are several ways:
One, try to live separately from the elderly if you can, it is said that the distance produces beauty, the appropriate distance can make the young people and the elderly to avoid a lot of friction between them, so that each other more a good. In parenting above is the same, intergenerational pro we can understand, the love of the elderly to the child sometimes more intense than parents, can not afford to receive their own grandchildren half a point of aggression, to the parents of the education of children on the issue of adding a lot of resistance, so let the elderly, "out of sight, out of mind, out of mind," the best.
Second, if there is really no way to separate from the elderly, I think you can do:
1, not in front of the elderly face education children
If you find that the child has some bad behavior, in order to fear that the old man shortcomings or do not agree with their own way of education and the occurrence of some unnecessary conflict, I will bring the child alone to the room, close the door to education, try to avoid letting the elderly hear. I would take the child to the room alone and close the door to educate him, trying to avoid letting the old man hear.
2, take the surrounding people or news examples to the elderly to give examples, let them understand the dangers of things
We do not live with their parents, because they are far away from the same city, every time it is a long time to go home, so grandparents every time they see their grandchildren are very happy to buy a lot of food to the child. I remember one time when my grandparents bought a lot of carbonated drinks for my children, and I usually don't allow my children to drink these carbonated drinks, but my children are small and protected by their grandparents, so naturally they can't help but to take them and drink them. Seeing that the children have no control, it would not be good for me to always tell them, so I searched the Internet for some news about the negative consequences of children and carbonated beverages, and found a suitable opportunity to tell them in front of their grandparents. When they know, they also realize the adverse effects of drinks on children, naturally, they no longer buy these things for their children to drink. So when it's not good to say it outright, this is a good way to do it.
3, respect for the elderly, more listening
In fact, sometimes the old man's approach to parenting is not necessarily bad, often young parents some of the ways and means of parenting is wrong. So, respect for the elderly, when the concept of parenting with the elderly conflict, more communication, more understanding of each other, think about who in the end is right. Both are for the good of the child, whose method is right of course, choose the right one, rather than just reject the idea of the elderly.
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