So, what does it take to really change yourself?
You can start with these three points.
First, change your thinking
In our subconscious mind, we think it's hard to "change yourself". So we don't want to spend a lot of time trying to change."
Why is it that the first step to change is to change your thinking?
Someone once said, "If the mountain won't come, I'll go."
It means, "When you change your thinking to face something with a proactive attitude, you will get a different answer."
An individual's thinking mode determines the individual's way of thinking. When a mountain standing in front of the eyes, positive thinking and negative thinking, at the same time facing the mountain, the positive thinking will take a positive and proactive attitude to face the mountain, the mountain can't be moved, I can walk over. And negative thinking will find it difficult, what do I do?
The two different kinds of thinking get very different results.
Positive thinking is a proactive attitude, whereas negative thinking is a sufferer's attitude.
For example, the main character in "Waiting for the Rabbit" was lucky the first time he encountered a rabbit that had inadvertently crashed into a tree."
The main character's greed leads him to make the wrong choice.
The pony crosses the river and encounters a lot of skepticism, he makes a mistake, and when he returns home his mother tells him, "Son, the depth of the water can only be known by trying it yourself."
The main character who waited for the rabbit after getting a run-over rabbit was not willing to go to labor, and waited under the tree every day, fantasizing that he could get the rabbit again without working. Greed leads him to be haunted by hunger.
The ponies are stuck in a dilemma. Is the dilemma they face a pattern of thinking that holds them back?
Later in the story, we are told that the master of the keeper is getting himself killed by his greed.
The pony was inspired by his mother's words, and the next day, he stopped listening to the voices of others and bravely quipped across the river.
The protagonist who waited for the rabbit was just lucky if he could change his thinking and take a positive and proactive attitude to face the matter of picking up the rabbit. I think. His fate would be very different.
The pony that can cross the river smoothly is a change in thinking, as well as his brave attitude to help it cross the river smoothly.
Different individual thinking patterns determine different answers.
Second, bravery is more realistic than imagination
The pony's ability to cross the river was inspired by his mother's words, but there was another aspect to his bravery.
In real life, we also encounter many difficulties, some of which we can solve, and some of which we can choose.
As the saying goes, "There are always more solutions than difficulties."
The bravery of the pony is the result of making a choice, when it faces the words of the crowd, it is timid, do not know what to do with themselves?
So it went home to ask its mom for help. Mom told it, "In the face of adversity, we can only find the answer by trying ourselves."
The pony who got his mom's positive language made a choice, and the next day, set out again to find out for himself, and to experience it for himself is the best experience.
Difficulties are not difficulties, and what can stop us from solving them is not external factors, but our own thinking. Thinking about simple problems to complicate.
The protagonist who waited for the rabbit to die, if he knew how to choose, face the reality, and no longer guarded under the tree waiting for the rabbit to be knocked to death, he would not be starved to death.
His death tells us a truth, that is, to change their thinking, encounter surprises we have to treat differently, can not sit on the fence, not to mention greed. A moment of good luck doesn't mean it's always there.
In the face of good luck, to take a positive thinking about it, it is not the arrangement of God, more not for granted, just by chance.
It's not a matter of taking it for granted, it's just a coincidence.
If you want to be rich, there is no shortcut to take, remove the effort, or effort. In addition to bravery, there must be positive thinking paired with a proactive attitude.
In this world, there is not so much to take for granted, there is not so much chance, all the results, are from their own actions, choices, thinking, pay and so on.
Third, from small steps to big steps
Is it difficult to change yourself?
There's this question on the web. One highly favorable answer said, "It's not hard to change yourself, it's hard to change your thinking."
To change ourselves, we can start with small things, such as developing our hobbies, such as square dancing, baking, learning to write, reading books and so on.
Starting with small things is easier for us.
The first time Xiao Mei went to learn to dance, she was especially nervous, she was afraid that she could not learn and would be made fun of by others, with a nervous heart, her first dance was not very good.
With the accumulation of time, Xiao Mei is no longer afraid of the outside world's eyes, gradually Xiao Mei unloaded the nervousness of the heart, dance well.
When we learn something new for the first time, we are always afraid that we can't learn it well, and we are troubled by external factors. When we take steps to accumulate little by little, we become confident and brave.
Why are we so nervous about accepting something new for the first time?
There is such a word in psychology, "factor."
We are always worrying about how we will be judged by external factors, and the fear factor is at work inside. If it hadn't accumulated, I don't think we would be the brilliant people we are later on.
The factor is like a sword, when you face it in a state of skepticism about yourself, it presents the factor relationship. When you have accumulated experience, it presents the bottom factor. Different states achieve different answers.
Starting with small steps, whether we learn dance or anything else, we allow ourselves to take our time. Anyone who has the first time, anyone will have failure, from the first to many times, accumulation before experience. Failure is the mother of success, there is some truth to it.
All the excellent from hard work and accumulation, all the answers come from the willingness to choose, and willing to pay. And change your thinking.
If learning to dance Xiaomei does not change thinking, first from the acceptance of their own will not dance, to later accumulate experience to learn to dance, I'm afraid that not yet learned to dance to give up learning.
This society is not black and white, as long as you are willing to learn, start from small things, in fact, to change themselves is not so difficult.
Write to the end
There is no shortcut to change yourself, as long as you are willing to change, pay the action, you can get relative results.
As the old saying goes, "It's action and dedication that get results."
Agreed.
Change yourself, can not rely on external factors, can only rely on yourself, is not willing to change.
The premise of change is to be proactive, willing to pay, willing to work hard, to change thinking, to make choices, to take small steps, and then to take big steps closer, and finally, our change is the real change.