1, do not dwell on the matter.
Suspecting that Mr. has an extramarital affair, women usually can't help but confirm it and want to find more reliable evidence. Once such a concern occurs, you will really find a lot of suspicious evidence of your husband. If you perceive that your husband is having an extramarital affair, put it on hold and wait for a while, it is better to tell him frankly about your inner concerns and see how he reacts.
2. Don't publicize it everywhere.
Men care more about their own social impression, he will have a strong sense of self-protection. If outsiders are aware of his extramarital affairs, in order to avoid others to say that he is playing with women, moral corruption, he will blindly say that he did not love his wife, the original marriage is painful, will take the initiative to file for divorce in order to prove that he is a victim. Not to mention that our culture says "marriage without love is immoral".
3. Don't tell your relatives about your husband's affair.
Especially the old mother-in-law and father-in-law. Otherwise, the man will go to his wife's home in the future is very embarrassing, this is, after all, the husband and wife privacy. Not to spread to the unit, some women go to the unit to make trouble, so that the leadership to control their husbands, or to give him a lesson, this is to lead to the marriage split invalid behavior.
4, whether you end up divorcing the man or continue the marriage, go to heal their wounds, do not procrastinate.
Healing your wounds is the beginning of your rebirth as you let go of the affair. It doesn't matter if you are divorced or continuing this marriage with a man, if you don't heal the hurt, you will live with a man cheating on you for the rest of your life.
Methods to get out of the hurt
1, confiding method
It is to tell others about their psychological pain. The method of confiding is a method of treating psychological imbalance that has been advocated by medical psychology in recent years. After the frustration if the disappointment and anxiety blocked in the heart, will coalesce into a kind of uncontrolled force, it may destroy the normal function of the body, resulting in the body of the toxin breeding. Moderate talk, can be out of control force with the language of talk gradually transformed out.
2, the advantages of comparison
After the frustration is sometimes difficult to find the appropriate object of complaint in order to tell the heart, they need to try to balance the psychological. The advantage of the comparison method requires to think of those who are more frustrated than themselves, more difficult, the situation is worse. By comparing the degree of frustration, their out-of-control emotions are gradually transformed into calmness.
3, re-tree goals
Frustration interferes with one's original life, breaks one's original goals, and needs to re-find a direction to establish a new goal, which is the goal method. The establishment of goals, the need to analyze and think, this is a negative psychology to rational thinking process.