A friend's brother asked the family hand can be convenient, want to turn 20,000 dollars to do business, not long after the return. We were wondering, his brother's family are working in the field, leaving only the old mother at home to look after two children, so four adults, there are three people a piece of money, and these years there is nothing at home, how can you still borrow money?
When I asked my friend, he shook his head vigorously: "Don't mention it, Lili (man's wife) how much is the monthly salary? Password is how much don't know, payroll card in her husband's hands, a to the end of the month, the husband did not even say hello, the money is directly Kai away."
"How could he agree? This is their own earned money ah." I asked in disbelief.
"It is not too honest, even the mother-in-law is too much she can not control her husband, not able to hold the family to keep the money, the money are letting her husband spend outside." My friend is a good friend, and she told us the truth.
Then we did not borrow with him,? After all, everyone earns money is not easy, not to mention their hands are not generous.
But every time I think of Lili, I still remember her face, a very simple one after 80, a farmer's woman, how can so arrange their own money to go?
Think of her so many years working outside, should have experienced a lot, but do not know how to grow, to run their own, both to defend the dignity, but also to maintain the interests of the family.
02
Think of my in-laws, their generation of life, should not be as democratic as we are.
My father-in-law is relatively strong, my mother-in-law what things are in line with him, my father-in-law thought where is where, want to do what to do, never see my mother-in-law step forward to block a bit, or say their own ideas, at best, behind the back of the muttering a few sentences, the voice is so low that we can not hear what she is expressing, only to know that she is a person in her own self-pitying self-talk.
Perhaps this is the way that she is venting her inner voice, a person's broken thoughts, a person's self-talking, and then the endless labor, what to do.
The mother-in-law's life interpretation of vulnerable groups, young, because the old man did not come to the male child by the family disdain, often live in the days of self swallowing bitter water, and then later I have my family and his brother, the day is finally see the sky.
In these years I met the family, but also rarely see my mother-in-law has a few times happy face, may be too tired to carry a lifetime, has lost the illusion of leisure flaws, not to mention what the years are quiet.
The good news is that now that he is older, his father-in-law can be good to her, a 180-degree turnaround, learning to cook three meals a day, changing recipes, taking care of my elderly mother-in-law.
From the good to the good, from the bright to the bright, planting cause and effect, this may be the mother-in-law's first half of the hard work, to repair the rest of the life of the good fruit.
Although her mother-in-law was not very literate, I saw in her a firm "patience", a "boil" word. The whole life of the youth are committed to the task, not much experience, just hold a belief - to keep the family, to keep the children.
Just this point, let me read her old man's glorious side, simple and kind, thrifty and enduring, for the family for the children selfless dedication to life, burned out the youth of the glory years.
03
Sister Zhang can manage her husband, but things are out of proportion.
Some time ago with the mother-in-law quarrel, an inquiry party know is owed to the mother-in-law's alimony for several years, this is not, the mother-in-law to the door, the two sides are arguing, it is really a mother-in-law has a reason, the public said the public has a reason, the usual a little bit of food and drink snacks, he was able to do as a topic of contention.
In fact, Ms. Zhang is quite good at treating others as well, only treating elders, supporting the elderly, and caring for family members is a piece of work, and I don't know how to set an example for myself and make a mirror. With words and example, personally, for their own, but also for their children and grandchildren to expand the source, broaden the wealth, the so-called and gas family, cumulative blessings also.
What we do is not just a matter of one's own? Sometimes a word, a move, a behavior, a good word, are more or less affecting the child's daily smoke.
Especially as a mother, the far-reaching impact on a family is really important, and it is not easy.
Sometimes you control your husband, but also to protect the money, do not know how to cultivate the body and mind, the posture of the intention to be shrewd, aggressive, sophisticated internal fighting, but also another kind of "lost".
Now in the countryside, although it is also a well-off, not lack of clothing and food, but there are still some groups, in order to spend a lot of money for the children are also willing to treat the elderly this is not much, but it is another kind of love.
04
In the countryside to stay half a lifetime, read through the story of many women around, but also y and shallowly tied me, rich in my farm life.
In fact, whether you are in the countryside or in the town, woman, you have to have your own.
Whether it is the heart of the road to growth, or your self-perceived mode of life, there is always the same in the heart. In order to deal with people, emotional communication, or parent-child interaction, not to be squeezed to squeeze, and not to go back to the mean squeeze.
Tolerance, generosity and softness, humility, simplicity and kindness, such as a ray of sunshine splendor Lang Lang mountains and rivers.
(a) For example, I will do products to do handmade, is to do for the family to make offerings, it is worth being respected, not in how much you earn.
(2) and secondly, I do not have the ability to make money, then keep home with children, but also in the pay, in the role of a mother. I'm afraid that some people do not love to do anything, a lot of affairs, but also some of the free time to go out to play cards and play, so that more daily companion will be angry.
(C) do not presume emotions, look down on themselves, you have your own source, your important, your pride. A small flower, a small plant can brighten a piece of spring color, not to mention the warm chime in the family, not to mention you and me.
05
Life is implemented in practice, all you and I a person's practice, a person's long night, to move forward.
Manage yourself well, to put it bluntly, is to learn to find fun for their own lives, not dependent, not to be involved, with you is the icing on the cake, without you I'm more flamboyant and independent.
The first thing you need to do is to get your hands on a new pair of shoes and a new set of shoes.
It can be said that the long nourishing fun, make good relations, and find an outlet for life.
Can be vulgar can be elegant, can be earth can be proud, can be the city can be important, life from now on more than a share of the noise, but also less of a sad spring and autumn, gossip.
There is self belief, self rhythm, all the way forward, forward!
The road of abundance, the road of family, the road of happiness, the road of growth, expanding a thorns and thorns, looking at the clouds.
Holding a normal heart, soft heart, happy heart, generous heart is the secret; often open the door to the wisdom of good skill, to keep an ordinary home, in a quiet time, put yourself, but also out of the hanging life.