If you are not a rich second-generation official second-generation, I do not know what you have worth the other party to spend on you, is it in order to figure you color?
You have this kind of feeling, can only show that you usually is so to treat women, as to why you will have this kind of unusual view, there must be a reason, the biggest possibility is that a certain thing happened in childhood on you, of course, this thing may be your own do not know.
Also, there is a possibility that you usually read novels, movies and TV shows and are influenced by the female characters in them, and think that every female is as scary as the ones acted in them. If that's the case, then it's really quite sad.
The fact is that people have a heart, regardless of gender, because people themselves are selfish animals. But the one with an extremely heavy heart like the one you mentioned is actually pretty easy to spot because she shows it in everything.
So, let go of your guts and socialize with the opposite sex, and just maintain normal communication.