If you can't do it, just hire your own nanny, because your mother-in-law doesn't have the obligation to help you with the kids. To put it in a way that doesn't really help, but we can all agree on, this is a case of the government and men shirking their responsibilities and leaving the kids with their moms or mothers-in-law, or grandmothers.
The women are really struggling. If the government has childcare centers like in the US and nurseries like in Japan, do we still need to argue whether the mother-in-law should take care of them or not?
The fact that there are so many cases of child abuse in kindergartens nowadays, and that most of the kindergarten teachers are girls, shows that there really aren't many adults who can enjoy bringing up children, and that it's really hard and irritating. I just want to salute the women who take on such hard work for free, whether it's a mom, mother-in-law or grandma.
Back to myself, my mother-in-law refuses to take care of it, not a day goes by. Her freedom, her desire to square dance, no amount of begging from us as a couple helped. We overcame a lot of difficulties and I, who never used to take a penny from my parents, had no choice but to take financial assistance towards my mother's family.
She's living it up now, I'm tired and I hate her. I don't think it's even a problem and I wouldn't threaten her with retirement. Because I'm so unhappy with my husband for the past few years, I feel like I've gone half way through my life in the years I've been born and raised, and I've been left with a disease as well.
So now that my children are older and in school, I will only focus on improving myself and taking care of my children. Husband, mother-in-law, if you can live well, live well, if not, let nature take its course, but in the future I will certainly not control my mother-in-law.
Anyways, after these few years of bonding, she can't spend a single penny of our small family's money, and won't be able to in the future. Of course as long as her son is willing, we divorced then whatever her son. Not as long as I'm around anyway, and not in the future when she's old and sick.
You see, the encounters of the past few years have taught me this most practical truth. Just be yourself and mind your own business, because really, you can't mind anyone else's. So I no longer have to wrestle with the question of whether or not my mother-in-law should have the kids. Figure it out for yourself. Without breaking the law, everyone is free to do what they like or don't like.
She's not afraid of public opinion saying she doesn't bring up the kids, and I'm not afraid of people calling me unfilial in the future. It doesn't matter. Isn't it just a matter of who is tougher than who?
We now see each other on New Year's Eve, and every time I smile, mom long mom short. We have to learn from the mother-in-law, attitude to be good, things resolutely do not do, whether or not it is an obligation I do not want to do it, and does not violate the law, regardless of what others say.
If my mother-in-law is sick and needs to spend a lot of money in the future, I'm sure I'll get a divorce, or I'll spend all my money and ask for a divorce. Sue me all you want my mother-in-law, divorce me all you want and see if her son wants to. I only return fire with fire, I don't want to pay back with fire, that's a saint, I'm a mundane. The above are all the mental pillars that support me now to pick up and drop off my kids every day, do housework and still want to work hard.
So, if you have no one to take care of your kids, close your eyes and get through it, your kids will always grow up, and the older they get, the better they get. And the mother-in-law will only get older and older. The first thing you need to do is to be kind to yourself and your child, and all the rest is just clouds.