Old people with wives can still have someone to talk to, but for those single old people, they face a cold pot every day and come back with no one to talk to. The scene is undoubtedly very bleak, and they also have the need for heterosexual communication and companionship. At this time, the law that "the economic base determines the superstructure" is even more powerful. The most direct embodiment is that single elderly people with pensions are single but not lonely, and often hold the initiative in the process of choosing a spouse in their later years.
Therefore, it can be said that the quality of life of the elderly depends largely on whether there is a pension, and the amount of pension is considerable. Even for single elderly people, having enough pension is enough for them to live a comfortable old age, thus creating a prerequisite for meeting the needs of spiritual communication.
The single life after retirement is still rich and colorful, and the country does not lose young people.
Laos is 66 years old and has retired for several years. Both his sons got married in other places. When his wife died in his early years, he brought up his two sons by himself. Because he was afraid that his sons would be wronged, he never got a second wife. Now that he is old and retired, people are relaxed at once.
My son has his own small family in other places and has no time to take care of himself. However, this does not prevent Laos from enriching their lives. When he is free, Laos likes to travel with old friends, dance square dance and participate in community activities. Because he was well treated in the system before retirement, he has a generous pension every month after retirement, which is enough to support his material life.
When you dance square dance in the community at night, you will always see Laos and different partners. When there are activities in the community, many aunts are willing to plan activities with Laos. The most unexpected thing is that Lao Fang's physical quality has been good, and even a single aunt in a nearby community hinted that she would be a nanny for Lao Fang and take care of his life.
Laos is not confused. He knows that some women have different starting points. Although he lives alone now and really needs someone to talk to in his life, he will never go to those aunts who want to do something. Therefore, in daily communication, Laos deliberately keeps a distance from those aunts and tries not to give them the wrong signal.
The sons saw that their father was really lonely in his hometown, and from time to time hinted at encouraging him to find a wife to spend the rest of his life. However, Laos said that he is now considering this matter. After all, people have lived for most of their lives, and their thoughts are not as simple as those of young people. How much do they want? Keeping a clear head is to reduce unnecessary hidden dangers and troubles for your son.
Because of this, I participate in various activities from time to time, and now I feel very fulfilled. Through these activities, I was fortunate to find like-minded partners. A watched pot never boils. Only by maintaining a normal mind and rationality can we know who is right for us.
Your own reason is not understood, but it has become the focus of discussion around you.
Lao Fang's idea has been recognized and understood by his sons. They think that their father can handle the matter of choosing a spouse in his later years. They also encouraged his father to go out and meet more friends, especially some single aunts. Only when there are more people can he have more choices.
However, my own considerations have caused bad comments from people around me. Some neighbors living around Laos have seen Laos have new partners from time to time, and sometimes they have seen some aunts deliberately approaching Laos and even taking the initiative to go home with Laos. Therefore, neighbors think that Laos is disrespectful and has a bad personality. They are all the same age. They can't do whatever they want just because they have two pensions. Even if they find their own wives, they can't do irresponsible things under the guise.
These words were heard by Lao Zhu's old friends for many years. Out of kindness, he reminded Laos not to be too conspicuous, to pay attention to his influence and to accumulate fame for his two sons. However, Laos repeatedly complained: "I am single and want to find a wife. I will go dancing. Some single women insist on working with you. You said you couldn't put your face on others, right? Some women go too far and think that going to my house to help me with housework will make me excited. In fact, I really don't want strange women to come to my house to avoid being criticized, but people know where I live and have to shine. I am very talkative and proud, so I am also very embarrassed. "
Lao Zhu laughed off Lao Fang's complaint: "I'm not talking about you. Why are they staring at you? Why did you, a 66-year-old man, become a lighthouse? Don't you have any in your heart? " It's not just that you've been single and your pension is high. People must find a way for you. Those women are smart. You must be more careful. Don't be confused. "
"Can I not understand what you mean? I know exactly what you mean. That's why I'm careful, contact and know more, so that I won't be confused and I'm responsible for my two sons. I can't rush to find a wife. In the end, I got chicken feathers all over the house, which was full of contradictions and not worth it. "
Lao Zhu nodded frequently, indicating that Laos was really considerate, but this remark made the three men become tigers, and his caution and helplessness sometimes became the focus of discussion and negotiation among people around him. Obviously, he is not that kind of person, but he has become a typical example of the old man in the mouth of his neighbors, so he comforted Laos and just followed his own ideas. As for the remarks around him, don't care too much.
When you can't balance your inner thoughts with the eyes around you, you need to know how to choose.
In all fairness, Fang Shu's consideration is actually quite rational. The reason why it will cause outside discussion is mainly because it is impossible for everyone outside to understand Fang Shu's consideration. They look at the problem from different angles. Uncle Fang is based on his own needs, and the people around him are a group of people who eat melons. They believe that "seeing is believing" and associate and define it according to the "facts" they see.
This involves a problem. What should we do when our own needs are not known and understood by the outside world? Personally, I think that only we know ourselves best, and it is often unrealistic to expect people around us to understand ourselves. Some things are bound to be controversial and will lead to discussions among people around them. Therefore, when criticism is inevitable, we should relax our mentality and not be too confused by outside comments. After all, our own confusion cannot change the outside world's view. Even so, we might as well concentrate on being ourselves.
On the other hand, for Lao Fang in his later years, he has also become a hot potato in the eyes of many single aunts. The reason why those aunts are so diligent may not be because they care about Laos, because after all, both sides care about people and don't know much about them. This is a beautiful lie, so there is only one explanation left. Those single aunts really just want to live a rich material life for the rest of their lives, and then they will respond enthusiastically.
When people are full of strong material utility in the process of choosing a spouse, the emotional space is bound to be squeezed, so those single aunts only like the material resources brought by Uncle Fang himself, and his generous pension plays a decisive role. Although it is unrealistic to talk about feelings without talking about material things, it is heartless if marriage only talks about material things without talking about feelings. Therefore, Fang Shu wants to strike a balance between the two, hoping that the other half in the future can have some feelings for himself. This is not a fantasy.