Many people have calculated it, and the result is amazing. The figure below shows the total cost calculated by a netizen from the birth of a child to graduate school, which is about1-30,000.
However, this is still a relatively basic version, and many expenses are not included. For example, the cost of going out to play and the cost of interest classes are seriously underestimated. Take the cat father himself as an example. Now my daughter is in the second grade, and the annual interest class costs about 40 thousand. It will cost about 240 thousand in six years.
In addition to spending money, the time cost and energy invested by parents in raising their children is a huge expenditure. For Ma Bao, pregnancy and childbirth will definitely affect the development of the workplace. Whether she is pregnant in October or on leave after childbirth, Ma Bao's energy will be transferred to her children. In today's workplace environment, this means that women will stay away from promotion and salary increase, and even face the risk of unemployment.
Parents have to spend a lot of time and energy to take care of their children from the birth. Every task will consume parents a lot of time and energy. When children reach puberty, they will face psychological problems such as rebellion.
Finally, parents should worry about their children when they get married and have children, and even help them look after them after marriage. Parents' life is really a life of breaking their hearts for their children, so now there is a popular saying on the Internet: Will the money for raising children be used for old-age care in the future, and will the time for raising children be used for fun? Why do you have to have children?
This statement seems very reasonable, and it also has great temptation to young people nowadays, but is this really the case? Next, Papa Cat asks some questions to young people who don't want to have children, and suggests that they consider these questions carefully before deciding whether to have children.
1. Can you really save money on raising children?
First, talk about income. Now the parents of children are still so hard in middle age, largely because they have children to raise. If you lose this pressure, will you still work hard?
Secondly, talk about the cost. In life, it is easy to tell whether a person has children or not. If a person lives a chic life and is generous, especially willing to spend money on himself, then most of them have no children, while most of those who are cautious in consumption and frugal in food and clothing have children to support.
Therefore, we actually saved a lot of money for raising children. Suppose we don't have children, is your mobile phone always the latest model, clothes are limited, and all kinds of restaurants punch in every day. This is our imaginary chic life, but the money for raising children is not saved for the elderly.
Second, is life without children really chic?
First of all, talk about the relationship between husband and wife. Mother cat often tells me, "If we didn't have a daughter, we might have divorced a long time ago." So I don't know if children are the crystallization of love, but they must be the bond of marriage. A marriage without children will certainly not last.
Secondly, are you really happy to go out to play every day? One of my former colleagues has never had children. She has a good job and good family conditions. She has been traveling since she was a child. Every time she talks about her travel experience, we are especially envious, but she also said that it is meaningless to go out to play often, especially when she is alone.
Third, there is no child's interpersonal relationship. You can play all kinds of games with your friends when you are young, but most people will eventually get married and have children. Your girlfriend has a child, and she has to go home to help the child with her homework after work and play with the child on weekends. What do you do? Even if we go out occasionally, friends at the dinner table are talking about children. What are you talking about? Will it be awkward?
Third, is it really reliable to support the elderly in nursing homes?
When we are old, the meaning of children's existence is not only to take care of you, but also to entrust you to a nursing home. The nursing home should take care of you, not for you, but for your children. The existence of children is a potential reaction, and you can't and can't live without it.
There is another problem that we must consider. When you are old, you have no children, no daughters, no brothers and sisters. Who will sign the operation if you are sick? I remember a time when Dad Cat took a bus, and two old people in the bus talked about it. Their neighbor has a daughter, but abroad, once her neighbor suddenly fell ill and had to go to the hospital. When they call an ambulance for her, the people in the hospital must follow her children. They won't accept it without children! The final conclusion of the two old people is that children are better around.
Finally, many young people don't know where the nursing home is, and there are contradictions in that place. What if a fragile old man is bullied there? Old people with children will be wronged for him. If it really doesn't work, they can change him to a nursing home, but what about those who have no children?
Last August, my mother ate something bad and had a stomachache. She kept vomiting, and her blood pressure suddenly came up, and everything was spinning. I remember my mother was the same when she was young, but she managed to go to the hospital, but she called me that day. After I answered the phone, I quickly took a taxi home from the company. When I got home, I did nothing but help her clean up, but my mother miraculously got better and didn't go to the hospital at last.
In her words, she was relieved to see me back, and she was not so uncomfortable and afraid. These are our parents. They are not the powerful people we remember as children, but an old man who needs our shelter!
So seeing this, do you still think that nursing homes are more reliable than children's old-age care?