Being able to spend your time freely is really something that makes you very happy. Being home for two months in the summer, I can imagine that two months is enough time for me to do a lot of things.
Born and raised in the Northwest, I've always wanted to learn how to dance Tibetan, and this time I went to Qinghai, where my brother is from. Every time I go for a walk in the square, I am attracted by the beautiful Tibetan square dance. That dance is simply too beautiful, rich Tibetan characteristics, see with your own eyes that kind of feeling is still very shocking, really have an impulse is to follow the dance. So I said to myself, these two months I must learn Tibetan dance.
After a few days of dancing, I realized that it was actually quite difficult to dance, especially for someone like me who is not coordinated with his hands and feet, and it was not easy to get that feeling. After a few days, I never went back to dancing.
The result was that two months passed and I didn't learn to dance Tibetan dance after all.
When I left home, I was suddenly very emotional, just remembering the words "I want to learn how to dance the Tibetan dance", and the rest seemed to have drifted away with the wind.
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I think the reason is that there is not enough motivation. The reason why I want to learn Tibetan dance is that I am attracted by the beautiful dance of others. I thought that if I could learn a folk dance, it would be a great way to show it to my friends. So, my motivation is just to dance folk dance looks very high, can show with friends, not how much I love.
When I realized that it wasn't easy for someone like me with uncoordinated hands and feet to dance, I gave up easily. I was just mesmerized by the beautiful surface of the people, not thinking about the hard work behind the people.
In fact, if I really want to learn, then I should be there at 7:30pm every night, but it might be 7:00 or 8:00pm after I finish eating, and I'm already too lazy to go out at this time. That means I don't plan my time wisely.
To do something well, you have to have a strong motivation, one that is strong enough to sustain you to continue. This is what psychology calls internal drive.
Candidates for the college entrance examination must have a strong desire to get into a good university, and then they may put their best foot forward in their studies; people in the workplace must have a strong desire to be promoted, and then they may willingly go to promote themselves in their next job; people who are trying to lose weight must have a strong desire to lose weight, and then they will stick to the exercise.
Strong desire is the premise, and then it is a sustained action, the next waiting for time to harvest the results.
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My cousin is a senior student, a very smart and humorous boy. We all thought that with his wit and cleverness, he could get into a good university, but in fact the results of his exams were a big shock to me, even the second line did not go up.
I asked him, "You are usually quite smart, I always believe that you can get into a good university, how do you test into this?"
I asked him, "You are usually quite smart, I always believe that you can get a good university, how did you get this?" He said, "Why do you believe me so much?
You see, in fact, he does not believe that he himself can get good grades, his desire to get into a good university is not so strong, and even the desire to get into the second college is not so strong, no wonder it will be this kind of result ah.
I realized that he was transferred to the back row by the teacher because of his love of talking, and was treated by the teacher as a typical problem student to educate.
I realized that he was moved to the back row by the teacher because of his talkativeness.
There are also people who say, "Look, I have a strong desire to be strongly motivated, but I'm still not doing good things. Internal drive can make us as energetic as chicken blood fighting spirit, can continue to act, however, there are skills and methods, and the power of faith.
Some people shout every day to lose weight, but the method is not right, and the desire to quickly lose weight, is not a daydream? Time is also the power of ah, this is necessarily a process.
In the end, we do a good job to have a strong desire, to have the right method skills, to wait for the accumulation of time, to have the power of faith. This in itself distinguishes which kind of person we are, and which kind of person we want to be lies in our own thinking and choices!
May we all have the strength of conviction!