Such as family matters, the Qing official difficult to determine, and such as mother-in-law-daughter-in-law relationship, a thousand years difficult to solve, this, how is it good?
In fact, in the opinion of White Lotus, treat with sincerity, there is no bad people, there is no bad thing to do! People and people's aura are echoing each other, unless there is a predestined karma, another story.
After becoming a family member, I moved about a dozen times (more adjustments within the unit), and I've been in a lot of neighborhoods, and I've gotten along with them like a family. I sometimes meditate on myself, this is how much it should be the creation of God to give a good life, have always felt that White Lotus is a blessed person. So whether it is the neighbors, or friends and family, and whether it is a casual acquaintance, or day to day, White Lotus are treated with sincerity. I'm grateful for every encounter, acquaintance, knowledge, and companionship in my life.......
2. White Lotus grew up in the countryside, where the people are simple, harmonious, and friendly. Do not say that the children playing in the street are recognized, who's pigs, sheep, cats and dogs lost know that the owner is which family, to whisk back. Although life is tight, only enough to eat and drink, but the road is not lost, very few people lost things.
Even if the occasional loss of items, the heart also has a seven or eight, things lost to count people! Are neighbors and relatives, generous heart forgive once, next time to come again will be embarrassed to go along with it, their own home also keep a heart.
This kind of thing rarely happens, the motive is poor, forced to make a living. People are poor, sometimes it is inevitable to have evil thoughts, neighbors because they understand, so compassion. People have left their names, geese have left their voices, confused once by the mercy will be resolved, remembering the neighbor's tolerance and generosity, and since then it is correct to do people!
Honestly, at that time, there is nothing to take home, and who entered the door, the neighbors can watch with their eyes! Into the door empty-handed, out of the total can not piggyback, does not belong to their own goods it. Of course, borrowing is another matter, but wherever you open your mouth, as long as there are, borrow socks, even shoes are given.
Hometown in Bailian's impression, that is, Tao Yuanming's "Peach Blossom Garden", the land is open, just like a house, there are good fields, beautiful pools, mulberry and bamboo belonging to the countryside, road traffic, dogs and chickens heard each other. In the countryside, there are many people who are like outsiders, with yellow hair and tufts of hair (tiáo), and they are happy to be there. I've been living in this environment since I was a kid, and I'm a family man in my neighborhood, so I've learned from my mistakes.
The idea of victimizing people is not to have the heart, but to prevent people from being victimized is not to have the heart.
3. Neighbors, usually have a bump in the road is normal, are some trivial, unimportant small things. Sometimes the misunderstanding is big, who can not pull the face and talk to anyone, then each of them, and do not bother each other, not to mention the harm.
The family encountered red and white wedding, to ask the deacon in advance to help take care of, this time, and then the big face is no more overnight revenge. The men carry a pack of cigarettes, a family to ask the neighbors to help over the matter, the women's family early prepared the wine and food, good food and drink good hospitality. I don't want to hit the door guests, and then the big dry, can't withstand the big thing of folks, please please, or good brother, a cigarette took over, followed by the home to go.
After three rounds of wine, tea and rice, not counting the former, what is not the matter, can not let people look at jokes! The host family came to the door to ask for help, we can not know how to appreciate, old age, death, funeral and marriage, who have something in the future, but also count on the neighbors to help each other it! If we are given a step, we should take it. Although I can not speak so much axiom, do is to walk end of the line, not half a point of the bullet leisure (dislike).
4. Rural red and white wedding, living is the harmony between neighbors!
One family has a problem, eight parties support. Red things are to dip a happy, the host family thanked the townspeople to help support, eat well, drink well, friends and family greeted well, inside and outside are red hot and lively, a peace and quiet!
The white matter is a little messy, the host family's grief is self-evident, the relationship between the next door to the door as early as possible to put down their own things, take the initiative to help. So many things don't need to be arranged, they all go by the book, women help to calm the emotions, take care of the housekeeping, cooking, ushering in. Men build stoves and scaffolding, set up shopping, and their own things exactly the same, if it is the family or respected elders, but also wear mourning to show respect for the memory. Can't let the relatives of the eight villages, laugh at the next door to the door do not know the etiquette.
5. White Lotus for the children to go to school, more than the mother of the three moved once. Ten years to educate people, a hundred years to educate the tree, Bai Lian just a baby girl, but also want to see the daughter into a phoenix. The child went to school was already very hard, the family house rent out, in the school neighborhood in the rent is the same, but also to save the time on the way to school.
The child grew up listening to the school bell because it was close to the school. In kindergarten borrowed to live in a friend's dormitory, which was a silo of the Institute of Education in Dapiyeon. *** With toilets and plumbing, the kitchen was the hallway, and it was also very lively.
We were on the first floor and just a couple of young single teachers lived there. Every meal time, I cook, those guys and girls, back from work to rest to see, can not help but look at a few more eyes. They even asked, "What are you cooking, sister-in-law? It smells so good! Our building has been without fireworks for a long time. Some older moved to the family building, we are young and single have lazy to do, to see you cooking, just like the feeling of home!"
At that time it was also twenty-seven or eighty-eight years old, after all, is still older than them, will also respond with a smile: "Shammy noodles oh! I'm not sure if I'm going to be able to get the best out of it, but I'm sure I'll be able to get the best out of it. Then they braised more soup, fished out the noodles, and served them in bowls. Sometimes boiled rice, stewed soup also left a bowl. The first time, the delivery of the smooth, eat at ease.
The young people do not eat for nothing, the unit issued benefits, back home to take the specialties are given to some of the white Lotus, to share. Once, cleaned the electric heater in the windowsill under the put, the afternoon collection is not in, the little girl inquired, the original is a rag collector came in thinking it was a garbage collection, it trusts people to me to come back to the home to send. Also said Bai Lian: sister-in-law, this yard for a long time, the tenants mixed, not good management, outside to put things are not safe, in the future there are things you just talk.
In Xi'an, married women older than themselves, greeted the mouth are called sister-in-law, White Lotus really did their sister-in-law.
It wasn't long before the girl was having fun with the kids in the front building. Books, toys, snacks, sharing with each other, today your home, tomorrow my home, happy together happy! Adults also know each other because of the children, today you make delicious food for your family to taste, tomorrow my family has rare things, also give a little bit of knowledge, and have a good time. Sometimes children occasionally have a small friction between the adults do not care, most say their own children, to be more generous. Children's home, dog skin socks did not anyway, not two days and good, do not have to care so much.
Daughter in the bungalow days, as I was a child as happy, just less broader field world.
6. After going to elementary school, I rented a flat in the Delford Lane neighborhood, where the bathroom and kitchen are indoors, so I don't have to come out when I enter the door. The first thing you need to do is to get a good deal of money to pay for the services you need, and then you have to pay for the services you need. In addition to our two families, I did not see anyone's family to visit each other, always feel that something is missing, and I can not say.
Friends said that now you have come to the good, the child finally have a companion, usually after school, go home and write homework, time is almost up, also lazy downstairs. The two girls are crazy about each other. The two of us also send the child to and from school together, exercise, reading, knitting, shopping, grocery shopping and cooking. Sometimes who have something to do, to help pick up and drop off, take care of the child is a common thing, the love is more than a golden big sister and little sister.
Sometimes see the same floor of the neighbors, but also only a symbolic greeting, after all, people's age than we are older, can not be rude.
There is an opportunity to go to the children's school to work, friends of the girl also went to junior high school moved away. We are also like friends at first, upstairs in the door and not out. At that time, the lover's unit is far away, not often home, the girl occasionally asked: "Mom, Dad is very busy working? Why doesn't he come home? I feel like I'm a child of a single parent family?
In the face of the child's question, I was speechless ......
is that I give the child that the father is busy at work, can not be on time every day to go home, accompany her to study, eat, play. The only thing I can do is to force a smile on my face and ask my child: "Is mom's love not enough? Do you still miss your dad? The first thing you need to do is to get your hands dirty.
"Not particularly want, just feel very bored, go out to play, and do not know other children. Besides, after writing homework, it was dark, and no children went out to play. They say there are big bad wolves outside at night that will take the kids away!?"
7. The DeFu Lane neighborhood also belongs to the school district, and 80% of them are outsiders. A neighborhood of three gates, in the middle of the night, the chicken fly dog jump, often happen. Not to mention the dogs and cats, that is, the children who do not recognize the family, in a few floors and a few number is no knowledge, and can not be asked to others, this is from the beginning, where is the intention?
Outside the neighborhood is the bar street of Defu Lane, where Xi'an's nightlife starts at the beginning of the night. In which the lights are out and the hangover is hard to wake up in the intoxication, Bai Lian went to work during the day with his children, and went home with his children at night, and occasionally went shopping, bookstores, supermarkets, almost two points a line. Sunrise and sunset, daytime through the bright windows, imagining the aroma of coffee and the mood of red wine, Bai Lian is clear about his mission, never once lighted.
Once a friend came to town to play, about to go together, came to this quaint green stone street, saw the light of the nightclub bar. Joked about Bailian, : "You live in a good place, how lively?!" Priggishly told her, never went in any of them, do not know what it looks like, not to mention what kind of joy!
Go to the most is the end of the alley "Xiangzi Temple", to one of the eight immortals Han Xiangzi incense blessing, enjoy the fragrance of the ancient acacia, blossoms and falls, unknowingly do six years of neighbors.
8. 2008 Wenchuan earthquake, Xi'an tremor particularly strong, but also rumors of a larger aftershock, the epicenter is Xi'an. The time that will always be remembered has been fixed at 2:28 minutes. The children had just begun their lessons and were preparing for their lunch break when their frame beds shook so much that they almost dropped Bailian from the top bunk. The windows and wall crackles vibrated and rattled, and the wall cracks seemed to be visible in bright light. Carrying his shoes and lunch break colleagues staggered and staggered out of the dormitory, standing in the small playground still unsteady on his feet.
I don't know who said, like an earthquake! Everyone put on their shoes and ran to their respective classes to assist the substitute teachers in evacuating the students to the large open playground to gather. This critical juncture, no one hesitated, are to safely evacuate the evacuation of children.
After counting the number of people, to ensure that their class of children all safe evacuation, Bai Lian remembered their own children. Looking around, the child is running from the farthest northeast corner is running in my direction, hurry up and tightly embrace the girl. I realized that their class was the first to run to the playground, and the teacher said to run a little farther to leave space for other classes. This will be each class count are almost the same, the teacher asked me to come to you.
Bai Lian's tears in that afternoon flowed I do not know how many ...... are derived from moving
First of all, holding those timid girls, like the old mother hen to protect the chickens, I can not wait for their wings to grow a little longer, and more to appease the warmth of a few terrified at a loss for words, crying out to their mothers' children, tears, involuntarily. The first thing you need to do is to get your hands on a new one, and you'll be able to do it.
Then it is to hold the daughter of the safe and sound, listening to her tell the teacher's big heart, once again quietly tears.
That afternoon, the cell phone could not be reached, the lover called the unit office to determine the mother and daughter safe, dragged the colleague to bring the message let me call back to report safety. The last big hearted parents to pick up the child is already seven o'clock in the evening, holding the child's hand, said: I also want to come early to pick up, and then thought, where is not as safe as the school, so come late. I can't see her expression, thank you for your great trust, said really big truth, where is not as safe as the school.
On the way home with the kids, the roadside stores were closed without exception. The first thing you need to do is to get your hands on some of the most popular products and services in the world, and you'll be able to do that. Soothe the child to write homework, their own calm clean up finished, remembered the phone, I do not know the family should be more anxious, out of the cell phone or can not be connected, how is this good?
9. White Lotus thought of the neighbor's sister, usually just to say hello, and now venture to the home at night to call the right? Try it first, it is always right to be kind to others.
The child knocked on the door, the door opened, a look at us, the big sister said happily: "You're back, can not hear the door ringing, the people worry about, come back to good, all right on good!" I was apprehensive about the heart immediately melted! Choking back tears, I asked my big sister if I could call home to report safety. "Quickly come in, quickly come in, that's the phone, quickly go to the phone, only landline can get through!"
Walked to the sofa and picked up the receiver and handed it to Bai Lian: "Quickly give it to hold, hurry to dial the number, the family does not know how anxious into what?"
Just dialed, I heard my mother-in-law's anxious voice called my name, clearly sitting next to the phone waiting to report safety! The first thing you need to do is to get your hands on a new car, and then you'll be able to get your hands on a new car, and then you'll be able to get a new car. I couldn't say another word and let my tears flow freely. The first thing you need to do is to get your hands on the phone to your mother-in-law and tell her that she is a neighbor and that the mother and daughter are safe, and that everything is fine at home, so don't worry.
The daughter was stunned by my loss of form, and what happened to her mom? Straight to me with a small hand to wipe tears, mom does not cry, mom does not cry.
Hearing the warm and cordial words of the elder sister, and the daughter's comfort, which calmed down the emotions, picked up the microphone to let the mother-in-law do not hang up the heart. His old man's eager tone has been to me said: "good on good, do not cry a, the afternoon phone can not be reached, people are anxious, called the unit to let you call back, can not wait, more anxious, this call is assured! The night and wa sleep wake up point!"
After playing the phone call, Bai Lian went up to hold tightly the hand of the big sister, thank you. Sister's hand is very warm, like the hands of the family, the words are even warmer, straight to the heart: "There are things to come to me, we are neighbors miles!"
There was a time when Bai Lian's health was not good, and her mother-in-law came to Xi'an to help bring up the children, and she became good friends with her sister. The two of them were good friends. They were able to chat with each other and share their good food with each other, and they became good sisters again. At the insistence of her mother-in-law, Bailian called her sister an aunt and her child a grandmother. My mother-in-law said, "When you are out in the world, you have three generations to go to, so you should keep your mouth shut and use your words as money. The neighbors are older than you, how can you call her sister?
Listening to the words of her mother-in-law, Bailian went back to her childhood village.
When we left, and auntie reluctant to part, so far left contact information and WeChat, from time to time interactive chat. This year over the ancient meeting, the aunt specially came to the hundred years old oil workshop to buy vegetable oil and cinnamon ball rice.
10. children in junior high school, moved to the Big Wild Goose Pagoda, the streets are spacious and bright, clean and tidy, where scientific research units, institutions are concentrated. Cuihua Road, a street, two colleges and universities, three middle schools, three elementary school, and other scientific research units scattered. Walking in the street, speak softly, are smiling, the daytime traffic, the night is very quiet, vehicles and pedestrians are very few.
This is the life that Bailian very much preferred, completely out of the hustle and bustle in Telford Alley, and full of shit luck, just can not let go of my good Chinese neighbors Auntie's family.
In the morning, the Big Wild Goose Pagoda Square exercise morning dance, the door is the morning market, buy food is very convenient. I also enrolled myself in a vocal class, literature class, in the process of learning to meet a lot of dance friends, singing friends, poetry friends. In the learning process, they are friends who have forgotten years of friendship, and in life, they are Bailian's teachers. It is a good teacher, but also a good friend, but also all the way across, a good neighbor adjacent to the hospital.
11. A staircase two-family door is also a deep love, the former tenant is my friend, when I came to deliberately introduced to the door, said that people are very good, you can not help but trouble people with their children, and each other to get to know each other, this is one more good neighbor.
Sometimes go out did not come home on time, the child and did not bring the key, the big mother's home food and drink all inclusive, but also wrote homework. As a token of gratitude and reciprocation, Bailian shared her food and Dad's fresh vegetables with Big Sister.
Our son's wedding and grandson's full moon our family received invitations and wedding candies from Big Sister, and were guests of the neighborhood. Big Sister also loved the life of Bailian, took classes together, danced and sang, and from neighbor to mentor, the relationship was elevated to a higher level. Of course, there is no lack of the precipitation of the years as a song, and the tenderness of the passing of time. More thanks to the good neighbors of the White Lotus, mentors and friends of my care and help.
12. more than Mengmu that one move is a necessity, the landlord is very good, we live in the signing of the contract, said their grandchildren go to school and the contract difference of one year, they rent their own outside, do not let us in the toss, moving home is not easy. White Lotus remembers this love and loves the corners of the room. Since living in, is their own home, cleaned windows, windowsill with green plants and flowers, vibrant, comfortable and cozy.
The landlord came to collect the rent, looking at the clean ground is not to enter the door, said: "I have lived for more than ten years, I do not know that the room can be cleaned up this way, do not feel like their own home, embarrassed to go in, afraid of the ground step on the dirty."
The house has been living for a long time, facilities aging, inevitably some problems. Solar repair a few times, natural gas meter, water meter with the old for the new, natural gas boiler is also time to make obstacles, and finally upstairs leakage, toilet really can not be used. The landlord, on the contrary, was embarrassed: "I also thought that your children graduated and then redecorated, it seems that the plan had to be advanced. You find a new house, I will give you a refund of rent, the furniture in the house will not be used again, you can use it that way you take . After all, it is my breach of contract first, as your compensation!"
I really like this let us all grow home, and a group of good teachers and friends good neighbors. What else can I say to a good landlord who is sincere? Thank God for the good fortune and luck of White Lotus!
13. I found a new house on Cuihua Road, which is much closer to my children's school, an old two-room house. The first time I entered the room, I saw four doors, mottled walls and floors, there is a sense of mission to reorganize the home. The sky is the limit, as long as there are people there is everything!
The child is extremely dissatisfied, for my mother can not help, this is the school district housing ah! If it's not for you to go to school, why would you want to come here to experience life in our newly renovated three-bedroom, two-bathroom home? You grew up in a honeypot, how can you know the hardships of life! Take out the White Lotus is to beat the spirit of the undefeatable small strong, hardworking hands can create everything, the way is always more than difficult!
Life is afraid of people to do, after the landlord agreed, smashed the kitchen occupies a lot of cement pool, bought their own ceramic pool, place a save a lot. The walls were painted, the floor leather was laid, the furniture was measured and placed in place according to the size, and the screens were pulled, all new .
It took more than a month to clean up the house, and finally it had the look and flavor of a home, and the kids didn't look at it with disdain. Sometimes you will be excited to tell me: Mom, our classmates also live in this yard, there are a lot of unknown classmates it! Every day we are like traveling, out, from modern times to modern times, in, from modern times through the door of time and space and then bring modern times It is also quite good.
Well, it's not because the neighbors are classmates, inspired by each other ......
14. One after another, the transformation of the perfect, this sense of crossing the home some taste, the balcony of the flowers and grasses to make the room more vivid and aroma!
Wrapped up the home, began to clean up the outside, and the child father a little bit of cleanup, a family knocked on the door to ask. After obtaining the consent, dealt with those years in the hallway piled up, heavy dust furniture and scrap. Some of the neighbors who came up and down the stairs asked, "Are you from the property? I don't know when that was left behind, and I don't know who's home, we came to live like this!
Amitabha Buddha! White Lotus just don't understand? Day after day in a pile of garbage walking, ask the rollers, in and out of the walking feeling and what is it!
As a result of the school district housing, neighbors and walk like a horse light, changed a wave and a wave, are high hit the wall two under the heart of the good neighbors, see and do not hear each other. The environment of this yard, oneself can be ignored, the girl has a neighbor is also good. White Lotus is not there are so many good teachers and friends, and now still remain neighbors!
15. perennial in front of the house, put a discarded dustpan and whisk broom, either with any special feng shui and preaching, or sweep the building every three days. White Lotus love clean, **** with the place dirty, their own home can be clean to where?
Public **** environment, who do not rejoice every day clean into the door to go home, go out to do things, the heart is also open.
Lived here for two years, swept two years. Once the former unit of the beautiful woman asked me, this unit of the hallway is clean and bright, there is no pile of debris, we also paid the property fee, why not sweep this unit? White Lotus froze for a moment, told her that she is a resident, not property, the beauty with a face of incomprehension turned away.
Work is property, White Lotus so like property? Life is inseparable from the material support, but not everything is built on top of the material. Without the interests of the drive, just get by, turn a deaf ear to put yourself in the garbage in the life!
Sweeping the building although dirty and choking, no one understands, but clean the public **** environment, and back and forth every day in and out of the family and neighbors, Bai Lian heart open! That time the upstairs treasure mother with children out, met also let the child said thank you auntie!
The joy of dedication is boundless! And also harvested love, warmth, and harmony!
16. Today's Xi'an haze is very heavy, White Lotus did not go out to exercise, the supermarket to buy food, see the hallway and dirty. Pick up the broom and dustpan to clean up, family and neighbors can again comfortably through the time tunnel.
Putting down the broom, Bai Lian's thoughts also traveled through this tunnel. Childhood memories, once good neighbors, mentors and friends were all in the memories, re-encountered once!
In a trance, looking up to see the sun, noon time is just right! Not too early, not too late to make lunch time!