However, feelings are indispensable in our life, especially between men and women. It is hard to say clearly, and there are too many joys and sorrows.
story
My friend Xiao Lei (a pseudonym) and her boyfriend have been in love for three years, and their feelings are very deep. Among all relatives and friends, it is also recognized that they will step into the besieged city of marriage.
As we all know, fate sometimes likes to play jokes on people.
Even they themselves thought it was natural to get married, but this man unexpectedly fell in love with another girl and broke up with Xiao Lei anyway. She really didn't want to lose her relationship for three years easily, but the man said that he just didn't love her and had no chance.
In desperation, she left the city where she worked and her boyfriend with pain. In the six months before returning to her hometown, she was confused every day, knowing nothing, and had a miserable life.
Occasionally send a message to a man. Sometimes the other person replies and sometimes ignores her. The more she does, the more she can't let go. Her parents told her to stop contacting her ex-boyfriend and let her try to let it go. Then someone introduced her to a job.
She listened to her parents' words, forbearing not to contact her ex-boyfriend, and devoted herself to her work, living a full life every day.
Under the introduction of colleagues, she started a new relationship. Her boyfriend is considerate and doesn't love her, but he doesn't hate her.
After nearly a year together, she has forgotten some things about her ex-boyfriend, gradually adapted to the present relationship, and has plans to get married.
And a sister around her has also experienced her story. Seeing my sister in Lacrimosa every day, she enlightened her sister with her own experience, saying, "After being lovelorn, I was very miserable. I regain my happiness in three ways: no contact, getting busy and falling in love.
Want to forget someone, just don't contact. If you want to forget a kind of pain, you must keep yourself busy. If you want to forget a relationship, you have to fall in love
First, don't touch
After a failed relationship, if a woman wants to let go of that man completely, it is best not to contact and pester each other again. Since the fate between you and him no longer exists, it is better to be completely clean and happy than to entangle and hurt yourself.
The reason why the other person can fall in love with someone else and break up with you is because he doesn't deserve you to continue to feel sorry for him, let alone have any unrealistic illusions about him. At this time, you should help each other decisively and don't waste yourself.
No longer entangled in a relationship, no longer contact with the ex. Whether he is good or not has nothing to do with you, let alone who he is with. As time goes by, time can help you forget everything and let go of your love for love rat.
It's hard to let go of that person after a relationship fails. A very important reason is that after breaking up, two people are still in contact.
Although we broke up, you still have each other's contact information. Every day you will unconsciously want to know his recent situation, and even ask your friends about his recent situation.
If you break up with a person, but still silently care about or pay attention to each other's dynamics, and are unwilling to completely cut off contact with him and occasionally take the initiative to contact, then the woman will eventually hurt herself. Only when you don't contact, the pain left in your heart will be cured.
Second, get busy.
Love makes people busy, but lovelorn makes people idle.
After breaking up, a woman immersed in sadness will find that she has enough time, so much time every day to miss the person who hurt her.
When you have a lot of free time, you might as well go out and find a job, which will not only earn money, but also make new friends.
When a person is sad, only by keeping himself busy will he gradually forget his inner thoughts. Life and work are busy enough for me, so I naturally have no time to think about other things.
There is no leisure to recall the past. When you don't have the time and energy to miss the people and things in the past, the next step is to forget them completely.
After a woman breaks up, she can't let go of the people and things in her last relationship. Then, keep yourself busy, don't indulge in past love and hate, and live in the present, so that she won't feel pain.
However, women can also make their careers independent when they have time, so that they will not rely on any man and will not forget a failed relationship.
Only when you live with confidence and confidence, will you become more and more outstanding, let go of those unworthy, and find your own happiness.
Third, fall in love.
The best way to heal emotional injury is to start a new relationship, which is very effective for both women and men.
Especially after being abandoned by men, women are the most vulnerable. At this time, don't stand still, don't wait for the person who hurt you to come to their senses. You should move on with your life.
If you meet a new lover and the right man in the process, don't resist. This is the best time to heal feelings.
Since we broke up, it means that the last relationship and person were not suitable for you. You should have a clear understanding of every relationship. Recognizing this, when you meet new feelings, you will want to start a new life.
Women can learn from a failed relationship and then start a new relationship and life, which is responsible for themselves.
Only when people keep moving forward will they meet fellow travelers. Once you meet someone who really excites you, don't hesitate, don't wander, you might as well take the initiative, be brave, be enthusiastic and accept new feelings.
The best way to completely let go of a person is not to contact the other person actively, not to keep the contact information of the other person all the time, and not to have any illusions about that person. A man who can easily fall in love with others is not worth relying on.
Even if your ex really wakes up one day and wants to get back together with you, women must remember that they can't promise, especially the man who betrayed you, and they can't forgive.
Once a relationship breaks down, it is difficult to return to its original perfect appearance. Even second time around will leave all kinds of ugly cracks.
When the relationship is broken, there is no intersection between the two people. Be decisive and don't waste too much time on a hopeless relationship.
Instead of wasting time on things that are not worth it, spend more time managing yourself. Only by constantly improving their abilities can women become more and more outstanding, even attract the attention of the opposite sex, and finally find their own happiness.
Women must learn to love themselves in order to get more love.
When a woman has a brand-new love and gets the happiness she really wants, she will naturally let go of the man who was not worth it. Women sometimes can't let go of a person, often because they haven't found their own happiness and met the right person.