Each of us will have the nurturing and companionship of our parents from birth, the companionship of our friends when we grow up, and the companionship of our partners when we enter into marriage. But there comes a time when these people will gradually move away, parents pass away, friends move away, and sometimes the partner also leaves.
So how do we get through this lonely world? Perhaps someone will say, there are children, we raise children is to prevent old age.
Indeed, raising children to prevent old age is an inherent concept that has been passed down from China to the present day, but very often, when you are really old one day, you will realize that the children are busy with their own small families, or busy with their work, and even more so the children are unfilial, completely ignoring you.
So, a lot of objective uncertainties will leave you without the necessary security in your old age.
Life can not be guaranteed, psychological loneliness is also no one to talk about. In front of the reality, all the emotions will instantly become extremely small.
Of course, there are children who are filial and have the ability and energy to take care of their parents, which is a blessing for them and something they should enjoy in their old age.
But after all, not everyone is so well off, so there's no guarantee that we'll be able to rely entirely on anyone in this life, whether it's a partner or a child. It is only in your later years that you will realize that the one person you can really rely on is actually the one you know best, and that is yourself.
The promise that you made when you entered into a marriage is one that some people will keep for the rest of their lives, and others will give up halfway through.
Promise never to give up, always love you, must be your favorite person, but life is unpredictable, there is always a person will leave. The old companion can't become your lifelong reliance, leaving you alone to face this cold and warm people.
So, we should all understand that, the gathering and separation, by no one. Only by learning to be alone with yourself can you make a better living.
Zhang A granny sent away two years ago, her partner was sick and hospitalized, Zhang A granny inch by inch care, but her partner still can not withstand the torture of the disease, away from the granny.
Her children are far away, and she stayed at home every day for a year, only going out when she was buying groceries.
Aunties in the neighborhood came to her door to ask her to go to the square dance, but she politely refused, blocking herself in her own world.
A few of her old pals are very anxious, fearing that she is bored out of her mind, so we think of a way, finally knocked on her door, and gave her to do the ideological work.
Slowly, the aunts went to her home a few times, the heart of Grandma Zhang was slowly melted, the frozen heart began to accept others.
Now every time the community organizes activities, Grandma Zhang began to actively participate. The company's website has been updated with the latest information about the company's products and services, as well as the latest information about the company's products and services, and the company's website.
Once she and one of the aunts said: "People, this life, in the end, can only rely on themselves. The one who loves leaves, is gone with our love, and the one we leave behind, has to live well with his love."
Children from the moment of birth, it means is the first separation from their mother, and then the children in the rush of time gradually grow up, go to school, work, marry and have children, leaving our side, is again and again we see them off.
Children, like a feathered bird, eventually began to fly, belonging to their own sky, so parents can not be tied to their own side, which is another constant in life.
And raising children to prevent old age has long ceased to adapt to the needs of today's times, when we enter the moment of old age, we should have long understood that the children have their own lives, and we do not want to add to their burden, the dependence of the late years, in the old companion to leave, there is only themselves.
What's more, after all, children can't be with them all their lives. After they reach middle age, they have jobs to fight for, children to raise, families to take care of, and no way to spare more energy to take care of us.
And as the old saying goes, "There is no filial son before a long illness." Although the children are with their own blood relatives, but if the old man is sick in bed for a long time, even if the filial children, sometimes will feel bored, and even there will be people directly regardless of their parents.
This is a phenomenon we often see in our lives. It is a very common social phenomenon.
We have to understand one thing: there are some things that can only be done by one person. The first thing you need to do is to get your hands on a new one, and you'll be able to do that. The first thing you need to know is that you can't do anything about it.
Life is lonely, that's why we continue to recognize different people in each stage of growth. Until the end of life, but also their own alone away.
So, in just a few short decades, there is always time to treat yourself well and plan for the rest of your life while you still have time.
In the TV series "Old Girlfriends", Auntie Irene has a good image and good temperament, but lives alone, with her son far away. But she's in a particularly good place in her life. She works as a leader in a senior modeling team, is beautiful and busy every day, and gets along with a few old girlfriends who share similar interests.
Usually a few old girlfriends together, play and have fun, together with cross-stitch, life is especially full, even if she finally got sick, very desperate, but also in the help of friends, her spirit has supported, and finally cured out of the hospital.
So, you have to know how to love yourself and treat yourself well, when you are young to take care of your children, after middle age or for the children and family, old age, the children have their own families and have a home.
Now to live well for themselves, more for their own consideration, leisure time about three or five old friends, trekking, enjoy the flowers, fishing, sitting together to drink tea and chat. It's not a bad idea to have a leisurely life in old age.
People to the old age, do not always block themselves in the dark small world, in addition to the family, in addition to children, but also to contact the outside world more things.
Children like to be alone, want to enjoy their own world, are not willing to often stay with the elderly, we are also more to go to make some good friends belonging to us, so that the later years of life is more colorful, have to rely on.