01
Dong Qing, the host of the Chinese Poetry Conference, is a man of great talent and has gained a lot of popularity. In the "First Lesson of the School Year" broadcast not long ago, Dong Qing interviewed Xu Yuanchong, a famous translator in China. Because the old man had difficulty with his legs and feet, he sat on the stage all the time. In order to take care of the old man's feelings, she chose to kneel down for the interview. On the stage, kneeling down, she talked and laughed with the old gentleman. Every move, every smile, every action is just right, so that the interviewee is comfortable and natural, giving people a feeling of spring breeze.
When I saw Dongqing, I realized that the highest level of a woman's charisma does not lie in how much expensive cosmetics she uses to decorate herself every day, nor in how many brand-name clothes she wears, but in the education she exudes between her hands and feet.
02
A migrant worker master in a hurry to get money, because just down from the construction site, afraid of the counter in front of the ground dirty, take off his shoes, kneeling in. The cleaning staff said, "It's okay, I can mop it again," but the migrant worker said, "I don't want to cause you any trouble, I'll leave soon."
At the gate of the property, a woman, not upset, broke a glass bottle of honey. She didn't take off and leave the sticky, hard-to-clean honey to the cleaners. Instead, she hurriedly stopped her bicycle, took out a paper towel, and wiped the ground a little. When she realized that paper towels were difficult to clean the floor, she went to a nearby store, borrowed cleaning tools, and came back to continue cleaning.
Cultivation has nothing to do with education; it is the kindness of thinking of others.
03
Square dancers have gone from being a nuisance to encroaching on the roads, from competing with students for basketball court space to hogging subway entrances. Recently, it is even breaking news, a group of big moms in the Yaxi highway dancing square dance. Dancing square dance, originally can exercise, but also can let the big moms exchange feelings. But too capricious, only care about themselves, not the slightest consideration of other people's feelings, that is the performance of uneducated.
After a concert in a place in Hebei, the audience left the stage. Just then, a six- or seven-year-old girl caught everyone's attention. She walked row by row, picking up the glow sticks left on the ground one by one, a pair of small hands to hold no more, still doing her best to pick up. What the little girl picked up was trash, what the adults left behind was quality.
The upbringing, and age has nothing to do. You think the child is young, some children are doing things that adults can not do. You think the old man is old, but there are always some old people who spare no effort to show us: it is not the old man who has become bad, it is the bad man who has become old.
04
At work, we also encounter such parents. Once, a parent came for counseling. Because there were fewer parents coming for counseling on this day, the front desk staff kept their heads down and did their own thing. The parent's footsteps were relatively light, and the receptionist didn't spot her in time. When she saw her, Kinko's immediately stood up and answered her questions. After she finished understanding that she had no intention of enrolling, Ginko put down the payment slip. Presumably, she didn't spot her in time and was angry in her mind. The parent blurted out, "I haven't left yet, so what gives you the right to put down the payment slip so quickly?" She then proceeded to yell a bunch of curses. In the gap, Kinko said, "I admit that it was my fault for keeping my head down and not spotting you in time. But please also listen to me ......"
Similarly, there was this parent. This time, the one who docked with the parent was the little mushroom Wu Shiyou. I don't know what I didn't do well enough to get a scolding from the parent. It looked like there was going to be a fight. It almost made Wu Shifu cry. Then Little Tian Tian came to relieve the situation and said, "You shouldn't embarrass a little girl." The next day, the parent came over to enroll in an unprecedented way. It turned out that Wu Shihua, who had calmed down, took the initiative to text the parent an apology. At least, that was one factor that prompted the parent to enroll.
Breeding is not about talking with aggression and fists; it's about having the courage to admit your mistakes.
05
Tell us about another parent. She's the one who made me want to write this post on parenting so strongly.
This parent called in for advice and asked how to get to the South Lake Campus of Jingchao. Pang Xiao explained to her very clearly (other parents, all of them, can follow this route and find the South Lake Campus), and she still couldn't find it. Her phone calls came one after another, and her tone of voice got worse and worse, and then we almost didn't dare to answer her calls.
Finally, it was raining heavily in Wuhan. The parent's call came again: "I don't have an umbrella, and I can't find the South Lake Campus, so you should send someone to pick me up!" The tone was very bad, as if they wanted to swallow us. On this day, the school year had just begun, and there were especially many parents who came to consult. It was already 10:00 a.m., and our staff was so busy that they didn't have time to eat breakfast. We explained to her that we were busy and asked her to wait, however it didn't work.
She continued to be bombarded with phone calls, asking us to send someone to pick her up! She even reported on line that the staff at South Lake Campus had a poor attitude. There was really no way out, so I went to pick her up. Xiaotian was afraid that we would fight and repeatedly emphasized to me, "Don't pay any attention to her, just put her words in your left ear and out your right ear." A parent who was here for counseling saw that we didn't have enough umbrellas and offered to lend me his own. It was still raining heavily outside, so I rode my bike to find her. By the time I arrived at the location she gave me, "Happy Town," my newly purchased shoes were soaked to the skin and my pants were soaked to the skin.
Calling her, I told her I had arrived and asked her where she was. She said impatiently, "I'm at Peach Blossom Drunk! Am I still standing outside in the rain?" I said I'd look for it and hung up, not really wanting to talk to her for too long. A few minutes later, she called again, "Where the hell are you? I'm at Peach Blossom Drunk! Didn't you see it when you came here? Where are the eyes? Ask anyone, everyone knows." At this moment, she completely angered me. I disliked back, "I'm not a Gaode map, I can find wherever I want, ah?"
Fortunately, I observed the change of my mood in time, and after noticing it, I smiled slightly, so this kind of words will make me angry. Instantly, much calmer. After hanging up the phone, I asked five passers-by, none of them knew where Peach Blossom Drunk was. It was hard to find it, and after picking up the parent, she repeatedly said that it was the route we gave her that was wrong. I just smiled and didn't say anything.
Later, there was a puddle of water on the road, and she said, "There is water, ah, how can this go over, wait for me to go back and bring the car over." I said helplessly, "There are only 200 meters left, and this road is so narrow, driving is not necessarily through. Let's just walk over." She reluctantly accepted my suggestion. On the way, she kept asking, "How much farther is it? It's so tiring to walk." (From her location to the South Lake Campus a **** is about 750 meters) I could only explain to her over and over again, pointing in the direction of Jingchuchao, saying, "It's just ahead."
Finally, to the South Lake campus. It was as if she didn't see the staff who were so busy that they went crazy, or the parents who were waiting in line for counseling, and she directly said out loud, "Come to someone to receive me ah! "I said, "I'll do it!" So, took a set of papers and gave her child a test. She didn't think of herself as an outsider, but walked right into the office, sat down next to me (non-staff members aren't usually allowed in the office), and asked questions. She called me "Xiao Zheng" in every breath, which was quite kind. My heart has already 10,000 head of grass mud horse ran through, I am very familiar with you?
Since I called her, she came to me ....... As if it were a ticking time bomb, she called me at every turn (with no regard for whether or not I was in class) to tell me how bad her child's math was and what to do about it. I only told her generally about my experience. She even said: the last time it rained is also you to pick me up, we two are quite fate, the school district other people I do not know, only ask you. I just lol, who the hell with you have fate ah? The first thing you need to do is to get your hands dirty.
What I really want to say is: I don't believe that an uneducated mother can raise an educated child. Even if she gets good grades, so what? Without upbringing, she'll be just as bad in society in the future, and her arrogance now will only cost her dozens, if not hundreds, of times more when she enters society. What's more, her grades are so bad that she only scored 34 out of 160 on her math paper. Parents are the best teachers for their children, so change your behavior first. However, I didn't say anything. First, she is not worth me to say such things; secondly, said not necessarily useful; thirdly, with her pattern, heard such words, I guess immediately reported me.
The difference between high and low education may affect a person's vision and knowledge base, but it can never be the determining factor in a person's upbringing. Upbringing can make up for the defects of culture, but culture can't make up for the gaps in upbringing. The first thing you need to do is to get a good understanding of what you're doing and how you're going to do it.
The real educated people, will not be in the public **** occasions noisy shouting; will not speak aggressively; will not drive always open high beams; will not casually take others to make fun of; will not let others embarrassed and embarrassing; will not be free to break through the red light; will not be in the should drive on the right side of the Chinese retrograde ...... True education is cultivation rooted in the heart, self-awareness without reminders, freedom with constraints, and kindness for the sake of others.
The truly cultured person is one who makes those around him comfortable, pleasant and relaxed.
In this society, no matter how beautiful or ugly you look, how much education you have, how much money you have, and how old you are, if you want others to respect you, you rely on the upbringing that goes deep into your bones.