As a husband and son of this dual role, how to correctly handle the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law?

Personal experience: My family is mainly a husband-daughter-in-law relationship, my father-in-law belongs to the more egotistical and strong self-esteem, my mother-in-law is very good-tempered, and my husband has a younger brother who is unmarried. My husband has a younger brother who is unmarried. Before I got married, I was a more principled and temperamental person. After I got married, I lived with my in-laws, and there was a lot of friction in the beginning, after all, there were differences in living habits and ideas. But my husband played a very good role. First, he stood in his wife's shoes and helped her integrate into the family. As an "outsider", it is easy for the wife to put herself in the position of "outsider", and for a long time she feels unable to integrate into the family. If a husband cannot sympathize with his wife, understand her, and feel that she has made a mistake, then she will never be able to treat your family as her own. My husband will take the initiative to communicate with his parents, so that they understand that my habits are different, understand that friction is normal, and then tolerate the daughter-in-law. Second, turn your wife's meaning into your own. After marriage, especially after having children, I have a difference of opinion with my in-laws, I will not conflict with my in-laws face to face, I will close the door and talk to my husband, my husband understands what I mean, and then use his own way to talk to his in-laws. My husband understands what I mean and talks to my in-laws in his own way. You should know that a son's words are always better than a daughter-in-law's words. Even if the in-laws do not agree with my husband's meaning, at least I have my husband's support. Third, don't be a "wife", don't be a "mom's boy". Being a man, after marriage means taking responsibility. Don't think of mom and dad to accommodate the wife, or wife to tolerate mom and dad, but they have to have their own position, balance the relationship between the family of origin and the new family. If a man is "wifey", I will look down on him because he can not even take care of his parents; if he is "mom's baby", then do not marry. The so-called "both sides are not people", in fact, is their own waist is not straight. For a woman, I think to make a family harmony, the necessary forbearance or to have, this is not spineless, but the two families must go through the stage of bonding. Husband and wife more communication, mutual understanding, reach **** knowledge. Three views together is the prerequisite.?