To be able to ask such a question shows that you are a filial child, well aware of the loss of the father, the mother faced with the loneliness of a person, the heart is not a taste
I know of a sister, her husband died of cancer in his forties, she silently brought her children to move forward, fortunately, the son has been married with a child and the daughter is about to graduate from the university, the son at that time, he could not pick up the family burden, but also She had to take care of everything at home. Their husband and wife were very close, but the death of her husband made her dizzy all day long, with tears in her eyes all the time, and she was afraid of the long dark nights, couldn't sleep all night, turned on the TV all night long, and looked forward to the morning, and only by bringing her grandchildren during the daytime, and working non-stop, could she forget the pain for a while. This is the lonely and wounded heart of a mother.
We can only do our best to encourage our mother to do what she is interested in, to give the warmth of the family, so that she and her grandchildren have more time together with the joy of the family, to dilute the loneliness of the mother's heart
Most of all, as a mother of their own heart to be strong, and can never live in the eyes of other people's secularism, no longer coy, afraid of the front and the back, and quietly find a way to find yourself, because more than 50 years old age It is not old, let yourself have something to do, move up, and fulfillment. If you can really run into a person who makes your heart sing, to talk about a love affair is also not bad. The first thing that you need to do is to get a good deal of money to pay for the services you need!
From the literal point of view of the question and answer, this is a filial child's question. I am "green all over the world", I will answer this question. I hope I can help you.
In today's world, a mother in her fifties is not that old. At this age, there are a lot of women who have made it to the big time, and there are a lot of women who are just starting to make it to the big time. For now, let's just talk about the most common people around me. Most of the people around me at this age are usually raising their grandchildren or grandchildren. The children, who are naturally active, stir up the adults' hands and feet, and the adults also enjoy the joy of heaven in the busy green, with little loneliness.
"Loneliness", whether mental or physical, is "idle". People who are so busy that they are exhausted and just want to rest do not feel "lonely". I suggest that mothers in their fifties, whether they live in the countryside or in the city, if they are physically fit and do not have any special hobbies or good careers, they had better do what they can to make themselves "useful". This on the one hand reflects their own value, on the other hand, in doing things, can continue to improve their own, can experience the joy of progress.
The most reliable approach is to help the 50-year-old mother to let her own awakening, consciously and voluntarily into the things to do, perhaps accidentally successful? There is such a thing as an unintentional willow. It's a joy to think about, not to mention a relief from loneliness.
Try it.
Is a mother in her fifties lonely? If you're not helping your kids with the grandkids, you're too happy. Before the age of fifty, I was so busy at work that I didn't have time to do the things I liked, but after I retired, I had a lot of time on my hands. You can sing, dance, write poems, paintings, travel, what not to do? If she is lonely, she has to find the reason from her own body, others can not help. I am fifty-two this year, busy time is not enough, send a picture everyone see, welcome friends comment!
The attentive companionship of children, to be out of the hollow period.
The older generation of mothers basically for the family to work, very little self, or hobbies. Slowly accompanied, guided, until she found her hobbies, then her time will be dispersed into various areas. Loneliness will also be slowly reduced.
Learn to use modern communication tools to facilitate communication and deal with emergencies.
If you don't live together, it is inevitable that there are things that need the help of your sons and daughters in ordinary times, learn to use smart phones, WeChat, voice calls, video calls. You can shorten the distance between the children and their mothers, so that the distance is no longer far away, the affection remains. Will not be lonely, free time or not with a cell phone to send a short greeting, see their children and grandchildren. Life is always full of sunshine. Loneliness is also a rare time memories.
Nurture and broaden your mother's interests.
For example, singing, dancing, calligraphy, tea ceremony. Even if there is no interest can be slowly cultivated, through the companionship after having understood her once dreams or preferences can be targeted, square dancing is the most popular social activities, help to alleviate the life of the elderly loneliness and helplessness. Music can relax the mood, the dance can exercise the body, every day, every week, regular regular practice, can have a sense of belonging and identity. After a long time, they have their own companions and close friends, the first free time can make time to accompany, later slowly into the collective, she also enjoys.
Appropriately, you can watch TV dramas and see movies and TV shows in your favorite areas. You can also teach your mother to download the program on her own.
On weekdays or holidays, send a simple gift, so that the mother will not feel wasted, but with a touch of warmth.
A gift represents a trust, on behalf of a thought, so that mothers understand the hearts of children. I don't care about the value of the gift, but I want to be the emotional sustenance.
I hope my answer can help you, you can also discuss the life of the mother.
I hope my answer can help you, and we can discuss the life of the mother.
To provide you with two ways to reference:
1. To find your mother a chatty companion. People are social animals and need to interact with others. Even if it's a fight, that counts as interaction. If you're alone for a long time and don't interact with the outside world, I'm afraid you'll be bored out of your mind.
If this doesn't fit your reality, then try the second method.
2. I don't know if my mother would play with a cell phone. For example, my mother, who used to not know how to play the cell phone, every day at home in the nonsense, but also something not to call us to spit out the bitter, the whole of a spiteful woman. Now that she has learned to play with her cell phone and discovered all kinds of new gadgets, she has no time to control us at all, and she is much happier. I have a friend who said that his grandfather is over 80 years old, a few years ago, his health was not good, people thought he would die soon. As a result, he bought his grandfather a cell phone to teach him to play the phone, play the tablet, and from then on out of control, his grandfather every day happy, well, walking is also good. The phone is a great way to play with your cell phone.
So, you can teach your mother to play with the phone, the phone is a very wide world.
Or, let your mother to develop a hobby, to learn to dance, learn to paint, etc., these can let her step into the social circle. I believe it can help alleviate loneliness.
The reason why people are lonely and empty, is nothing more than idle panic, and nonsense.
Get busy! Find something to do.
The human attribute is a herd animal, the home has a fireworks will not feel lonely [yeah] [yeah], 50 years old is very young under normal circumstances should not have a sense of loneliness wow!
Generally speaking, the elderly are most afraid of three things: poverty, disease and loneliness. From the current situation in our country, disease and loneliness are the greatest threat to the elderly. Chronic diseases can make the elderly potentially disturbed, which is known ****. And the psychosomatic impact of loneliness on the elderly is often overlooked. In fact, this problem with the development of modernization and the arrival of the aging society, will appear more prominent up, how to solve the loneliness?
1. Get busy
Reading, writing, calligraphy, painting, photography, playing the piano, singing, dancing, boxing, chess, flowers, gardening, fishing, handicrafts, pet keeping ...... Each of these has endless knowledge and skills, and can open up a window for you, which is not free of loneliness?
2. Chess music
Each community has a O, happy happy an afternoon passed, feel the beauty of life, to see the colorful world
3. square dance
Square dance is also very rare O, but also know a lot of good sisters, my mother-in-law is a fan of the square dance, every day with the sisters of the video chat is very happy O [cute] [ The first thing you need to do is to keep a happy mood, and you'll have a sense of loneliness! There are plenty of things to do at this time of year. I'm not sure if I can do it, but I'm sure I can do it, but I'm sure I can do it. The first thing you need to do is to get a good deal of money to pay for the services you need.
Most parents in their fifties have reached the age of retirement, and most of them are empty nesters, and I think that easing the loneliness of parents can be done from the following aspects:
First, the children often go home to see
If you and your parents live separately, but in a city, not far away, then at least a week to go home to see their parents, to accompany their parents to chat, to accompany the parents. If you work in the field, diligently call, now the network is very developed, you can teach your parents to use the cell phone, so that parents with their parents, and parents and video calls, so that parents do not feel lonely!
Second, encourage parents to cultivate new hobbies
Parents who have worked hard for most of their lives, used to worry about their children, to the age of more than 50 years old, you can have time to live for themselves, to do when they were young, they do not have the time and financial resources to do things, such as writing, flower gardening, and in particular, tourism, encouraging parents to take advantage of their legs and feet, go out and around, and help their parents to enroll in a number of high safety coefficient The tour group, to see the scenery, to meet more people of the same age, but also to ease the loneliness.
These are some of my personal views, just for reference, I wish all the parents in the world are happy and well in their old age!
A just has not been counted into the old age period, loneliness is indeed a bit of a problem, in addition to the children point to chat with them, the best solution is to help him (her) to find a second half under the conditions allowable, so that it is the best way to take care of each other, and sometimes the children are accompanied by a **** bed with the pillow of the husband and wife, find a companion to have a peace of mind that the children work free time to come back to see the better. The first thing you need to do is to get your hands on a new one, and you'll be able to do that.
I often go home to see my mother, my father went away, my mother's blindness, from then on, I just vaguely feel that their parents have a heart of deficiency, so even if the work is busy, every year, we have to make time to go home a few times to accompany my mother, although each time to and from only two to three days, but more or less on the mother is also a kind of comfort.
The mother lives in the second brother's house, whenever the second brother to go to work, she will put the door chained, and then lie in the room quietly sleep. When he came home she got up, touched the table and chairs or the wall and went out of the room, or sat in the living room, or went outside the living room and stood in the yard where two pomelo trees were planted and many flowers and plants were planted, with her head cocked and staring at the sky. She was waiting for the "dawn", but the day was gone for her, and only when we, her children, came back to her, did she light a lamp in her heart, and the smile on her face was even brighter than the sunshine.
Every time I go home, she has to rummage through the cupboards and try to find a little something to eat for us. She said, "If you don't work well outside, come back, and add bowls and chopsticks to the family anyway."
I realized that my mother had changed. She used to encourage us to work hard, and she never blamed us for not coming home for years. Whenever she wants us to bring some of the hometown specialties to the unit up, every time to see us put all their heart into the work, she will be satisfied to go home. My mother is a strong and reasonable person, she would rather suffer herself than add any burden to her children. Nowadays, every time I go back to the factory after visiting her, she is so reluctant to part with me, and even feels disappointed that I am going to leave her. I know that this is because she is blind and has lost the ability to stand on her own feet. Whenever this happens, my tears flow to my heart.
I tried to bring my mother to Xinyu to live, because my sister and I are both in Xinyu, and there should be no problem for two families to take care of one person. The first time she picked up in May 2014, that afternoon I held her hand to accompany her downstairs to walk, her hand cold cold, I took her along the neighborhood green belt slowly walking, she used her hand tightly squeezed the palm of my whole body shivering, afraid that I will abandon her like. Along the neighborhood after a few laps, her hand is a little warm, the body does not tremble, as if I have passed the test worthy of her trust. At this time I have to take a phone call, my wife is ready to replace me to accompany her, but my mother has a death grip on my clothes, do not let me completely disengage her hand, my wife said that my mother has xenophobic ideas, I nodded to admit. This time she stayed in Xinyu less than a month to make a fuss to go home, because she knows that I work almost every day,,, my wife and my sister only Saturday, Sunday rest, usually can only rely on my brother-in-law to take care of her, she did not want to give us more trouble.
The second time was in the month of May 2015. In order to be able to keep my mother for a longer period of time, I went ahead and installed a cabinet air conditioner in the living room, and my sister and I took turns taking her, trying not to let my mother find out that we were too busy at work. We often take her for a walk, or to the street to buy snacks, or to the countryside to see the scenery, she although two eyes dark, but her sense of smell and touch is particularly sensitive, we take her out every time she had a good time, but, two months later she also passed away.
Because my mother was old, she had a serious illness, and then her condition worsened, and she passed away in a few days. I still shed tears sometimes when I think of my mother.