40-year-old woman wants actually have a lot, just most men do not know.
In the eyes of men, women to the age of 40, is the "old" sign, should be at home to raise children, take care of the children, take care of the elderly, take care of the family, on the good, never to consider the feelings of women, and do not know their inner needs! I don't know what they need in their hearts.
I'm also a woman of four, in fact, we are still very fragile, still a lot of heart, just to this age, we are usually embarrassed to say, afraid of being said to be pretentious, afraid of being laughed at.
When a woman reaches 40, the most beautiful face and youth in her life no longer exist. The triviality of life, the child's naughty, some of the contradictions between husband and wife, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law conflict, often highlighted, aggrieved and pain, there is no way to talk to the mother's family, more is a person to carry in the heart. At this time, we are extremely insecure, we are afraid of the sudden breakup of the marriage, we are afraid of the mortgage and car loan pressure us breathless. We hope to have a shoulder to lean on when we are sad, and we hope that someone will say that he has been protecting us instead of thinking that we are childish and pretentious.
When a woman reaches 40, the passion of the past gradually fades, and what's left is a life of oil, salt and vinegar. The first thing you need to do is to get your hands on a new pair of shoes and boots. In the evening after work, often a person holding a cell phone, either playing games, or watching TV, but rarely talk to each other. Sometimes, each other contradictions and quarrels, but also do not communicate in a timely manner, are held in the heart. Backlog of anger more and more, misunderstanding is getting deeper and deeper, it is likely to be a touch and hurt each other. In fact, we need to communicate, need someone to take care of our little emotions.
Need money, this is our inner most real idea. A family's living expenses, children's tuition fees, as well as the family's human relations, basically, it is us women who are in charge. But at the age of 40, it is very difficult for us to earn much money in the workplace, and our monthly salary is just enough to supplement the household expenses. Sometimes I want to buy some clothes, buy a pair of pants have no money, not to mention the fashionable cosmetics. We hope that men can take the initiative to transfer some money to us, rather than us taking the initiative to ask for it.
What does a woman need most in her forties? The most basic is the physiological needs and psychological needs, people as socialized animals, like Maslow's hierarchy of needs theory, layer by layer, from low-level needs gradually to high-level needs, coupled with the special age of the woman's forty-year-old age, the needs are also manifested in a different way:
A physiological needs
There is a popular popularity of the more vulgar words called Although we can not see the physiological needs to be regarded as poisonous snakes and beasts, but to face up to the problem. The great psychologist Sigmund Freud believed that sex is the driving force behind human progress, which is indeed too narrow and biased when viewed in the context of modern society. However, for individual women, sexual needs are the lubricant of life and the foundation of a harmonious relationship between husband and wife. Now the pressure of life, physical decline, quality of life is not high, for women in their forties, this should be a relatively basic need.
Second, the need to be loved and respected
Forty-year-old women, with their own words often hanging on the lips is "old and yellow", they often laugh at themselves. Originally forty-year-old woman is the time to show the charm of the personality, due to the growth of children, is busy studying and working, ignoring the mother to protect them from childhood, they thought that their mother will always be so strong, but do not know that there is a fragile heart of glass under the strong, ignoring the feelings of the mother, the phone is less, less caring, only when you need money to think of your mother, and often come home to see can only be listened to on TV. I'm not sure if you're a good person or a good person. And the other half of the family is also busy with the cause, home from work even a cold glance, not to mention the warmth, do not get the minimum respect, can only let the heart wandering in the square dance between.
Third, the need for a successful family away from domestic violence
Wife and child are a tragedy for every family, for the forty-year-old woman, they need to home harbor to dock this half of the life of the shell of the drudgery. However, in real life, we have seen is a out of domestic violence caused by human tragedy, we see may only be the tip of the iceberg. A successful home for the forty-year-old woman is the day, there are children often around, have a husband's love, they will be contented.
The world is only good for mothers, forty-year-old women for the home to give all, please everyone to care for forty-year-old women, care for their needs.
Have seen many people and many things in the hospital. Also have a lot of feelings. What do women need most at 40? I say a few points:
1, health: Whether it is a man or a woman, 40 years old at this age is the mainstay of the family age, parents are old, the child gradually grows up, the home inside and outside all need to work hard. If there is no healthy body, then the family may collapse. I have seen many women in their 40s with lymphoma, leukemia and kidney failure. It is very sad that their families are overshadowed by illnesses when they should be in their prime. It takes a large sum of money to cure an illness, and the illness itself can devastate a person. Once a 42-year-old female patient with advanced lung cancer, spending hundreds of thousands of dollars, but ultimately died of the disease, the family's two children became orphans, her husband was heartbroken, and her mother's family also cried bitterly. So, regardless of men and women, around 40 years old, the most important thing is health.
2, understanding husband: 40-year-old women, some are professionals, some are housewives. Regardless of which category, each has its own difficulties. Women in the workplace, this time may have some achievements, but because of the busy work, will certainly be on the family Dali neglect some of them, and may even ignore the child's growth and achievements. And if it is a housewife, may be on the social dilution, fewer friends, fewer topics, life will become boring, monotonous. At this time we need an understanding husband, no matter what the role of the wife, are for the family in the effort, we should understand each other, tolerance.
3, youthful face, body: women still need to maintain, whether it is the workplace, or housewife, 40-year-old woman must not feel old, do not feel that they are old, not feel that they are old and yellow on the broken pot, or to be responsible for their own image. Not necessarily have to dress up beautiful, but at least wear neat and clean, the mask should not save, the gymnastics do not be lazy. Life is busy, the requirements of their own shape should be. Your husband also certainly hope that you can maintain with the age of the due look and figure, of course, you also hope that their husbands are always so straight and sharp rather than a big belly, this is a reason, the requirements of the body, is the requirements of life. It doesn't have to be extreme, but at the very least you should be trying.
I think the above three issues are the most important concerns for middle-aged women, and others such as money management, children's growth, parents' understanding, and maintaining friends are all important.