In other words, is there really only one ideal partner? Still a lot?
Many times, when choosing a partner, many people often think about it from east to west, because they are afraid of making a wrong decision for a while and seeing the wrong person, which will cause lifelong regret and confusion.
Nobel Prize in Literature winner Bernard Shaw said, "At this moment on earth, there are about 20,000 people who are suitable to be your life partner, depending on which one you meet first. If you have established a deep relationship of mutual understanding and trust with the former person before the second ideal partner appears, the latter will become your good friend, but if you have not cultivated a deep relationship with the former person, your feelings will easily waver and change your mind until you meet one of these ideal partner candidates. "
Falling in love with someone is not by hard work, but by accident, which is God's arrangement, but "loving someone continuously" depends on "hard work". In the management of love, the elements of smooth operation are communication, understanding, tolerance and self-control (self-control in the face of temptation).
Many people are always confused and distressed by "chance", and their thoughts and desires are endless, but they forget that cultivating the ability to manage their feelings is the key to happiness. So don't ask who is my Mr. Right, ask me to what extent I can work hard and grow up in my present partnership. If I don't cultivate the ability to manage happiness, I will be happy even if the real Mr. Right appears by your side.
If you have a long-term partner at the moment, don't hesitate. In our feelings, it is often difficult to detect a trap, that is, "kiss their own flesh and blood, slow down their humiliation", which is the iron law of diminishing marginal benefits in economics. The longer I spend with you, the more likely I am to be numb and neglected, and the fresh "opportunity" is always so touching and lovely.
In the handling of feelings, there will inevitably be friction and unintentional injuries, and the people who offend themselves the most times are of course the people who have been with us the longest and closest; And the new love, and haven't started to have a chance to offend you, plus he deliberately please, so how cute the new love is, how annoying the old love is. But don't forget, there is always uncertainty in new love, and there is a rare sense of familiarity, certainty and trust in old love. Don't lose yourself casually in the accidental "chance" and put your happy and warm hand in the wrong place.
Therefore, Bernard Shaw's words are to remind lovers not to be too obsessed with finding the only one, but to use their spirit in learning to manage happiness. At the same time, they also remind us that if we are lucky enough to meet a rare partner, we should not be half-hearted, because we never know when we will meet 20 thousand of them in our life, so we should know how to bless, cherish our blessings and live in the present.