What kind of man doesn't like a woman with a lot of tenderness? We can often see in the popular discussion of the bar, many men want to marry a Japanese wife or a woman like a Japanese woman, married or even expect their wives to learn from Japanese women. Let's look at a few points respectively to see how the Japanese woman is a wife.
1, the image of the Japanese wife. Japanese women pay attention to the external image, it seems that the pursuit of beauty is a humanistic culture , the embodiment of the natural love of beauty, no more than Japanese women, so they tend to care a lot about the external image of the dignified. A makeup to cover a hundred ugly, although not everyone has exquisite features, but with makeup, dress fashion can also dress them unusually eye-catching and durable. They don't disregard their image because of their status, and in the streets of Japan, you rarely see women dressed casually, but you can see all kinds of eye-catching beauties everywhere, and even older women will wear lipstick and go out beautifully.
Of course, nowadays beauty is not limited to Japan, and people who love beauty have their own ways of doing it, but we will find that there is still some difference between the two. Is it tradition? Or is the time sink of this trend different? It is not known. Just relatively speaking, we often see the square dance on the chest of the big moms do not wear underwear directly boiled, and pajamas home slippers also on the street, swollen waist sitting in front of the mahjong machine with cigarettes and men to fight, or married women with smoky make-up, big bags under the eyes and yellow skin, said that "make-up is a siren" and refused to dress up their own. The list goes on and on, and the style of the Japanese wife is so different.
2, the Japanese wife's daily life. Japanese women basically let their men enjoy the clothes to reach out to the meal to the mouth of the "emperor" treatment, prepare breakfast, the husband's traveling clothes and hats, from this point of view, they are a little bit like China's domestic helper role. People serve their husbands, just like our ancient Chinese courtesans like meticulous, that kind of humble attitude is to let the man impeccable. At night when her husband came home, the Japanese wife is always smiling, help men hang up their hats, put a good briefcase, wait for dinner, put a good bath water, more importantly, people will be the flavor of the world in the night to release to their husbands.
The role of the Japanese wife is variable, they are housewives, maids, wives, lovers. They never need their husbands to worry about things at home, the so-called housekeeping, counting on the honor of the Japanese wife to appreciate. At the same time, can provide to the husband's physical satisfaction, on the conjugal life will not feel ashamed of this aspect need not be said.
Back to look at our housewives, rich housewives either depressed feel depressed, or suspect that their husbands outside to raise a mistress; general economic conditions of the housewives, either more and more live without dignity, more and more degradation from the community, become out of shape but also sensitive to the temper, family relations are often filled with chicken and dog jumping, the husband back to the either pull a long face or yin and yang.
3, the Japanese wife's pride. Japanese wives on the "housewife" word never shy, on the contrary, quite proud. And Japanese society has always believed that women take good care of their husbands and children is a good dedication to the country, therefore, many even if the original quite successful women, once married, they took the initiative to choose to do a housewife to preside over the housework. This is a choice with a high degree of hierarchy, and it can be said that this identity has been given a sense of dignity by them from the society to the individual.
This is a little different from us. When we ask a housewife around us, "What is your job?" The other party will stammer for an answer, or avoid saying how they used to be, and only after a big detour will they say that they are taking care of their children for the time being. Such a mentality will make them not so psychologically justified, and it will also make men feel that the wives are worthless. The phenomenon of society also tells us that housewives are not dealing with family relationships very well, so even if they are tired, they have to think about going out to work to prove their value.
4. The cultural level of Japanese wives. Japan attaches great importance to the education of the people, so the high level of education of the Japanese people is also very famous in the world. For the Japanese housewives, generally are highly educated and even no lack of doctoral degrees, the lowest also has the equivalent of China's college education. In Japan, a higher education is a necessary condition to marry a good man and become an excellent housewife. Therefore, some Japanese girls choose to be housewives after graduating from university, and some will enter the workplace after graduating from university, but no matter how much she accomplishes in her work and how high her position is, she will choose to quit her job and work as a full-time wife without worrying about it until she gets married or has children. In the past two years, there have been some changes in this aspect of Japanese society, but the mainstream remains the same.
With this level of education, there is not much of a gap in communication between a wife and her husband. In addition, having a high degree of education and still willing to return to the ordinary life, which in itself is a realm (perhaps they do not think it is a realm but I think it is). Both are positive for their marriage.
We are not comparable in this regard, there are too many factors involved in education, some of which are out of our control. However, it can be a source of inspiration that women should pursue self-improvement, whether unmarried or married, and perhaps not in the form of education.
5. Japanese wives are submissive to their husbands. Japanese wives to their husbands will hardly yell at their husbands, and will not easily oppose their husbands' decisions, they are always docile like a kitten. This is probably what Chinese men value most when they want to marry a Japanese woman. Of course, Crayola's mom is an exception.
Modern women are becoming more and more independent, and many of them are pursuing independent personalities and equality between men and women. Can not say that there is no reason, just that we find that women are moving farther and farther away from this road, and even dump their husbands, or finally turn their relationship with men from husband and wife to enemies. Husband and wife quarrel, the final loser must be the man, the voice of the original is a man's characteristics, but in the husband and wife quarrel in favor of the woman always prevailed.
6. The purpose of Japanese men to marry. The purpose of Japanese men to get married is generally not because of love, just want to work after a woman can take care of their own, so they do not want women to go out to work. This may be our women's expectations of men, however, we expect not only a man's support for us to be a full-time wife, but also dedicated love, tenderness and thoughtfulness and even pouring foot-washing water for themselves. That's the difference.
How many people who were married to love end up destroying it because of a lack of support and understanding of each other's roles in the family? We all agree that the ultimate direction of marriage is probably mutual warmth of affection, but the material civilization has improved, our needs have also increased, greed is also more and more exuberant, and so with the behavior of the denial of our point of view.
Finally, let's talk about the divorce rate in Japan under such a Japanese marriage. Perhaps many people can not believe that Japan is the Asian countries, the lowest divorce rate, only 35%, many people can not imagine Japan's relative openness, but so much lower than China's divorce rate.
In line with the above, Japanese women are choosing to be full-time wives, fully support the men's work, and rely on their work pay to survive. In a way, it is a relationship of support and mutual aid for each other's roles. They even know that their husbands go to izakaya every time they get off work to get bored with girls and look for freshness, but they don't ask about it in the slightest and never look through their cell phones etc.
Perhaps some people may think this is a kind of cowardice, or consider it an incomprehensible practice. However, having chosen marriage, this is desirable from the point of view of stability, and from the point of view of the man, the woman, the marriage, and the offspring, the practice of the Japanese full-time wife has a positive significance, about which more will be said later.
In short, to be a wife, we still have to study Japanese women.