According to the Ministry of Civil Affairs announced in the first half of 2018 marriage data, China has 1.93 million couples divorced, which translates to more than 10,000 couples divorced every day, from a provincial Higher People's Court published data can be seen in the whole body of 2018 all the divorce cases in the first place is not derailment, is not domestic violence, and is not poor, but intermingled with mother-in-law and daughter-in-law contradictions of the trivialities of life, I can not help but Some people will ask, there is no natural love between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, there is no natural hate, but why there will be so much conflict, this answer so far no one can give a standard answer, there are people who think that "take the mother-in-law as a mother to treat, take the daughter-in-law as a daughter to treat," is not good, that is "mother-in-law and daughter-in-law". The relationship between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law as mother and daughter", today I want to discuss with you "mother-in-law and daughter-in-law as mother and daughter" relationship is really good?
My name is Liu Yun, 27 years old, but has experienced a failed marriage, not long ago I and my ex-husband for divorce, divorce is not because of our feelings and not because he cheated on me, not because I dislike him poor, is because of the inability to deal with mother-in-law and daughter-in-law contradictions, and I'm not willing to compromise themselves, so I chose to divorce, but just married, my mother-in-law and I really good relationship, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know. The first time I was married, my mother-in-law and I had a really good relationship, and people who didn't know better would think that my mother-in-law and I were mother and daughter, and that's how a good relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can turn into a trigger for the breakup of a marriage.
My husband and I met in college, he is the kind of humor and fun boys, very popular with girls, and he likes sports, especially basketball, every time he went to play basketball, there will always be a lot of girls to give him water, and I am also in the middle of it, and it is not that I like him, only to be pulled by his roommates, to see him in the stadium Chihuai look, I also think it's very handsome from the bottom of my heart, and after he finished basketball, a few girls scrambled to give him water, and I also feel very good, and I'm not sure that I can do it. After he played basketball, a few girls scrambled to give him water, but he did not pick up, walked to my side, took away my hands have not drunk the water, which makes the girls next to both envy and jealousy, so my husband launched a chase to go, in his love offensive we soon determined the relationship, after the love of his and other girls can keep a distance, and never behind my back with others ambiguous, which makes my heart greatly satisfied.
After graduation, we chose to return to our hometowns to work, and when the work is stable, we decided to enter the marriage hall, he took me to see my parents before the wedding, honestly, the first time to see my mother-in-law let me a little surprised, because she is completely different from what I imagined, she will play WeChat and microblogging, and also chased the idol drama, but also like to shop Taobao, which makes me think that my mother-in-law is a very fashionable people, so The two families briefly discussed the matter of marriage, my husband and I entered the marriage hall, after the wedding, my mother-in-law and I have a very cordial relationship, because she is not at all old-fashioned, and some new things are willing to accept, we are as good as mother and daughter, every time you talk to people, she will be very proud and others to show off.
After 2 years I was pregnant, which can make my mother-in-law happy, she was busy cooking for me, but that time taste is very strange, no matter how my mother-in-law do I do not eat, and finally I gave my mother-in-law said I want to go back to my mother's home to live for a few days, my mother-in-law also did not say anything, so after 2 months, my mother-in-law in the square dance, accidentally fell to the ground, injured the tailbone, and had to stay in the hospital for a period of time. A period of time, this time the husband and father-in-law busy, this time the mother-in-law began to mutter that I am pretentious, the family is in such a mess, I hide in the mother's home leisure, loss of their own so close to me, in the end, the daughter-in-law is not a daughter.
Mother-in-law often muttered these in her husband's ear, coupled with the work is not good, the husband's heart nested in the fire and can not be rushed to the mother-in-law hair, he came to his mother's home rushed to my parents and I sent a ton of fire, said I do not know how to do things, but also said that the parents are too used to me, parents do not want to be subjected to this kind of aggrievement, and her husband quarrelled, and her husband said in a huff, "this just I heard my husband say this, I cried immediately, my husband not only did not comfort me, but also cursed and left, looking at my husband's back, at that moment my heart completely dead. Later, I went to the hospital in the company of parents to do induced abortion surgery, and then and her husband chose to divorce, how I could not imagine that the harmonious relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in these trivial matters in front of the surprisingly become so unbearable, and I am full of disappointment in the marriage.
Small reply I have to say, your husband's approach is too chilling, such a marriage do not want to, because he is not worthy of a husband, more worthy of a father, as for the mother-in-law-daughter-in-law relationship, I would like to say that from the outset you are wrong, the mother-in-law is the mother-in-law, the mother-in-law in the mother-in-law's position, it is a smart choice, because the mother-in-law-daughter-in-law is more like a kind of equivalency between the two, two do not have any blood relationship and the intersection, a little bit of emotional foundation. Intersection of two people without any blood relationship and no emotional foundation, can not immediately do the heart to heart, only in the continuous exchange and accumulation, mother-in-law-daughter-in-law relationship can become harmonious, this exchange is like a bank to save money, you save some, I save some, the days are long, the money has become more, the interest is also more. So the best mother-in-law-daughter-in-law relationship is not as close as mother and daughter, but to do a good job of equal exchange.