I believe that many young people are very familiar with the issue of urging the birth of a child, in the smooth graduation, job stability, you will face the family's urge to marry and urge the birth of a child and other issues, married and then have to rush to be urged to give birth to a child, a series of steps as if it is set, every young people are so step by step down, with the society more and more progressive, the pressure is also more and more, gave birth to children and because of the not have enough financial strength and energy to raise, headaches.
In China there is a phenomenon, that is, young people have children after the elderly with, young people only need to go to the workplace to fight, parents will help with the money and effort, which is why said that "the family has a old such as a treasure". Of course, there are many families, parents are not willing to take children or have for various reasons, at home to do a full-time mom, this time mom is very envious of the mother-in-law to their own families with children, feel that this is worrying and save time.
But the problem with every family is not as smooth as it may seem on the surface. It's as if my best friend Xiaohong's family has a mother-in-law who helps with the kids, but she's not very happy and has a lot of opinions.
Best friend every day after work to return home, mother-in-law rushed to the child into her hands, and then go out and the neighborhood of the old sisters with the square dance to go, the home is only Xiaohong and the child two people, Xiaohong work a day is very tired, and come home to take care of the child, the heart is particularly sad and aggrieved.
The more she thinks about it, the more she feels sad, always recalling many of the small details of her mother-in-law's treatment of her own children, and thinking that her grandmother may not really love her children, so she calls and complains to our sisters, a handful of bitter tears, and can't count them all.
In fact, the grandmother of the grandchildren love is not false, but due to the era of growth in different backgrounds, the two generations with different methods of bringing up children, so the elderly sometimes take care of the child's method of bias caused by the contradiction, and the elderly also have their own life and hobbies, so the older generation should pay attention to what aspects of bringing up children?
First of all, it is timely to tell parents not to speak about family conflicts in front of the baby, things between adults can be communicated with each other to solve the problem, the child's view of the three has not yet been formed, so they just need to grow up happily enough, do not let the child premature exposure to family conflicts.
The second thing is to communicate with the parents time, they also have their own hobbies, such as playing cards with friends, dancing, in the care of the baby after these recreational time are greatly reduced, so according to their own work time and the mother-in-law to communicate with a good specific time, neither delayed recreation, and also not delayed to take care of the child, so that it will not and the The first thing you need to do is to make sure that your mother-in-law has a good understanding of what you are doing.
Third is the education of children to communicate in a timely manner , many older people with children is a good, spoiled children, and even to the extent of spoiling, but the education is neglected.
So tell the elderly usually more in all aspects of guidance for children, such as more children with more communication with the outside world, teach them some basic knowledge of Chinese characters and so on, this is to make the grandchildren more and more excellent practice, spoiling is not love.
Parents actually do not have to be too anxious, may wish to usually more coax the elderly. As the saying always says: old children, old children. The old man is small and children, so there is time to talk with them more, buy them new clothes, so that they are in a good mood in order to family harmony.
Family together and beautiful is the most important, which grandmother does not hurt children. Many times it is the way of communication and growth background of different bias, so be sure to communicate in a timely manner, everything is in order for the child to be able to grow up healthily.