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Famous movie star Chen Xiaochun once said, once I got married certainly will not be divorced, no matter what happens, I will think of solutions to make the marriage can be long, even if the other party betrayed me, I will only put things on the table to think of solutions, rather than impulsive divorce.
But some people, simply not be able to do this, a lot of people in the marriage of the vow, with each other to ensure a lot, will say a lifetime of love his life love him, but things come to a time simply can not do, have not been through the fresh period, the feelings between the two people appeared to be a certain problem.
If this is the case, then I think such feelings can not stand the test, couples have different reasons for divorce, in this case, I hope that each other can stick to the original heart.
Once two people get married, it means some responsibility, if you lose your responsibility in the process and do whatever you want, even if you get divorced, what happens after the divorce will make you regret.
People are developing and changing, one day does not see like three autumns, perhaps at first you look down on that person, after the divorce, will become beyond your expectations, that time you should how?
"My First Half Life" Luo Zijun is a very obvious example, before not married is a full-time wife, his husband Mr. Chen looked down on her, but after the divorce, she became a professional woman, even his ex-husband Chen Junsheng have to look at her highly.
For a woman, the most important thing is you, when you compete, the people around you will also be impressed by you.
02
Han had been divorced from his ex-husband for some time and was surprised when she met him.
But more surprised than her is his ex-husband, see in front of the eyes of the bright and shiny ex-wife, ex-husband how can not believe that the yellow face, how can suddenly become that way?
The reason why the two people divorced in the first place was because the ex-husband disliked him, and always felt that she was unkempt and would not dress up. When he looked at other people's wives and then looked at his own wife, his husband felt ashamed and couldn't hold up his head, and he never took his wife to some major occasions, and he would give his wife a face when he came home.
Married for only three years, her husband got tired of her. At that time she was often angry with her husband, but at that time she was not financially independent, she ate his food and drank his drink, and she had no way to lose her temper with him.
Every time her husband was upset with her, she just kept putting up with it, and honestly, no one wants to spend their life like that.
So did Han, but by that time even if she wanted to maintain it, her husband had already been looking at her in a bad light for a long time.
So, after an argument, her husband finally asked her for a divorce: Xiaohan, let's get a divorce, I just can't go on.
Hearing the word "divorce," Han once begged hysterically: I hope he won't give up on him, give himself another chance, and he'll definitely change.
But at that time the husband simply can not listen to anything, he always felt with Xiaohan together, not only can not bring him any progress, but also will be dragging him, so at that time, he was ruthless with Xiaohan divorce.
Men are ruthless and desperate, especially when it comes to their feelings. When he loves you, he can do anything, but once he doesn't love you, no matter how ruthless he is, he can say anything.
In such a situation, your ability to cope with the extremely important, that time, small Han hand no chicken power, there is no way to refuse, so the husband swept away.
Every woman who has been hurt in a relationship wants to be able to fight back and give the other person a nice comeback.
After the divorce, Han was depressed for a while, and then felt that if she kept going like this, not only would others look down on her, but even she would look down on herself. So she went to work first and earned some money.
After earning some money, she used all of it to dress herself, knowing that to win the respect of others, she must first dress well.
Nowadays, people look at the face, and if the first impression of you is not good, then they may not be willing to deepen their understanding at all.
After having the 1st money, she got her hair done, bought new clothes and started to learn make-up.
Buddhas rely on gold, women rely on clothes, there are no ugly women in this world, only lazy women. A woman just need to take action, the change may even feel incredible to herself.
After the change, Han is indeed much more confident. Sometimes a girl has low self-esteem because she is not satisfied with some of her outward appearance, and when her outward appearance is improved, her confidence will also be improved.
After she cleaned up her appearance, she learned to dance, practiced yoga, played golf, and learned to swim. In short, she cultivated her own interests in a wide range of areas, so that when she met people with the same interests, she could have a conversation with them.
After that, she went to work for a company, working on weekdays and attending some upgrading courses on weekends.
Lifelong learning is important for a woman. Although most men nowadays look at women superficially and only look at the exterior, there are some really rich men who will look at the woman's interior.
In the course of her studies, she came into contact with Xiao Guang.
Xiaoguang's family is financially well off, and he is considered a second generation rich man, who once had a short marriage, which was divorced due to incompatibility of personalities.
After meeting Han, Xiaoguang felt that Han had a wide range of interests, and no matter what he talked to her about, Han was able to pick up the conversation.
He felt relaxed and at ease with Han, so he began to pursue her.
During the pursuit period, Xiao Han did not forget to continue to learn, because she knew that only rely on their own a little surface knowledge is not able to keep a man's heart, if you really want to long, she needs to go to do a good job of full grasp, to carry out a comprehensive understanding.
At first, she was really extensive, but now she's starting to learn a little bit more, from point to point.
When a woman wants to work hard, good luck will come your way, as long as you know what you want and work hard for it, then it will always go in the direction you want it to go.
After pursuing Han for a year, Kuang proposed to Han. Because the two people are the second time to get married, and did not have a large organization, just invited some of the relatives and friends of both sides, but also witnessed their wonderful moment.
After she got married, Xiao Han completely changed the image of her former slovenly self. She knew that a man who loved you at the beginning, but under the baptism of time, he would also gradually change.
Now, washing her face, brushing her teeth and putting on makeup are the three things she must do in the morning, and in terms of marriage management, she will also properly maintain a certain distance from her husband.
Because she knows that this is the only way to make a marriage last. There are times when a failed marriage can make you grow up, and Han did learn a lot in that immature marriage.
More than a year into her marriage, she met her ex-husband and saw the look of surprise on his face, which made her feel that all the hard work she had done was worthwhile.
Didn't her ex-husband look down on her at first? Now it was obvious from his expression that he was incredibly changed.
Later, the ex-husband also greeted her: Long time no see ah, you now really become different, I regret ah, at first with you divorce.
But what's the use of regret, things past is past, there is no way to go back.
03
Pa Yang once said that divorce is the best way to solve the problem of wrong love and wrong marriage.
If you find that you have chosen the wrong person in a marriage, then I hope you can stop in time and never continue in a wrong marriage.
You have to realize that there are many good people in this world, and if you leave the wrong person, you will meet a more suitable one as long as you believe.
At the same time, I also want to give people in the marriage a wake-up call, no matter what kind of things you have encountered between you, in a marriage at the end of the time, to see whether the marriage has reached the point where there is no way to continue?
If there is indeed no way to salvage it, then a decisive end would be a relief for both of you.
But if there is a misunderstanding between you that has led to problems in the marriage, I hope that both sides will sit down and talk about it calmly. If you don't forget the beginning, you will always get the end.