As a mother of a fourth-grade boy and a kindergarten boy, I suddenly found myself living in another country, because I am the one who never accompanies the child to do homework, the big-hearted mother.
I can't believe I had a fight last night because he asked me to correct his homework and thought he was annoying. However, my son is left to his own devices to grow wild and accidentally grow into someone else's child.
Can not be counted as a school bully, but also almost every school year to get (four-leaf clover teenager) three good students, is in the eyes of the teacher's excellent students, classmates will read in the eyes of the interesting characters.
Children with good grades must be accompanied by homework in every detail? I've seen a few examples of schoolboys around me, and it's not necessarily true.
My great aunt's son, when he was a child in rural Fujian on the kindergarten, because of business in Zhejiang, received the Hangzhou suburban combination of elementary school, because of good grades, the strength of their own exams in the city of junior high school, the midterm examination was guaranteed to Hangzhou Higher Secondary School (accidentally with Lu Xun did up alumni).
Later, the school bully weighed again and again, give up the college entrance examination, choose to go to Japan to study for the university. After hard work and study, last year got into the Meiji University in Tokyo, Japan, is also a hundred years of Japan's most famous school, is said to be ranked second only to the University of Tokyo.
A few days ago, the family "love each other family" WeChat group to share the good news that he got a lot of scholarships.
This is the first time I've ever seen a child with no one to do his homework with, and I've never seen a child with no one to do his homework with.
There is also a younger brother at home, currently in fifth grade. Year after year are three good students, good academic performance, good habits, homework quality high standard completion, is the teacher highly recommended learning model.
The two brothers are both proper schoolmasters.
So, the question is, we must want to know, the parents of the school bully and what are the gods?
I didn't expect it, but my sister and brother-in-law are both elementary school educated, and my sister only read the fifth book in elementary school, and my brother-in-law read the ninth book because of the many younger siblings in the family, half the time to study and half the time to take the younger siblings with the cows, and they only read the ninth book when they stumbled.
This is the first time I've ever seen a movie in which I've had a chance to see a movie in action.
Maybe he became a school bully just because his parents didn't go to school? Of course not! I thought about it carefully, the reason why the school bully can not make up class not accompanied by writing homework can become a school bully, the school bully father credit.
Although my brother-in-law has a low education, he is willing to learn and study, and he is doing a good job. After leaving society, he has been a castrator, a barber, a cook, and a shoe maker.
Later, we opened a company together and divided the work. He is responsible for managing the technical part. Because we need to use CAD software to do drawings, never touch the computer brother-in-law hard to let a designer friend to help him under a software, stayed up for two nights to learn the software.
Through their own research and refinement, a few years down the road, but also brought out a number of college students apprentice.
The school bully mom has no culture, but the mind is very good, living a simple and pure, love work, worship husband. Because of the limitations of the cultural level, she never worried about her son's learning problems. She is a mahjong fan, often playing mahjong at home.
In the eldest son of the junior high school, in a crowded rental house, calling friends crackling mahjong, the son opened the door to yell out: I'm going to take the test tomorrow, please do not play, okay!
The mother of the school bully was shocked by the conscience, and from then on, the gold basin washed his hands. The first thing you need to do is to get your hands dirty.
When the schoolboy was small, his brother-in-law brought more time, and after work every day, he often accompanied the children to do random graffiti, accompanied by the children to play chess, with them as playmates. Never socialize and rarely leave the house.
The schoolteacher's father loves to accompany children from the bottom of his heart and is extremely patient when accompanying them. There is a scene that impresses me, he smiles and holds his son, while walking and rhythmically teaching them to read the Tang poem: Spring sleep does not sleep, everywhere heard the crowing birds ......
Schoolboy father teach by example. Tell the children themselves have eaten the suffering of the uneducated, and fondly tell the children the importance of learning, the only way to change their destiny.
He did not teach his children homework, but taught his children to respect learning and honor the heart of learning.
Compared to the strict supervision of homework, the father of the school bully, "I can't help you to study, but I am willing to support you unconditionally" is more touching to the children. The two sons are proud to have such a father.
As a pseudo-student mom, I have never been a supervisor of my children's studies. The oldest loved reading since childhood, from the age of two every night will accompany him to read before bedtime, in elementary school because of busy work, every day home is after 6:00, the child greedy like to watch TV, always a school to finish the homework.
As soon as he saw his parents, he had two words: Dad (mom) sign! I'm going to go down to play.
Until now it is the same, fourth grade homework has become more. But he always finished a good portion of his homework when he was at school before the end of the school day, and it didn't take long for him to come back and finish his homework.
Of course, on the other hand, I was the obedient mom, and as long as the homework was done and written, I would let him watch TV, go to the play area in the neighborhood, or even go to a movie before 9:00.
My older son is very studious and has a wide range of interests.
The first thing I'd like to say is that I don't want to give up on my hobbies, but I'm not sure I'm going to be able to give up on my hobbies, so I'm just going to go back to my hobbies.
Of course, he will also ask me, asked me not to give him Saturday and Sunday interest classes, to give him crazy play. I'm not going to be able to do that, but I'm going to be able to do it," he said.
The son did not accompany the homework, the results are not bad, I summarized the main points are as follows:
1, teach the child to respect teachers, from childhood to cultivate the child's reading habits.
2, write homework is the first, write good homework can do their favorite things.
3. Tell him that learning is his own business and has nothing to do with his parents.
4, to give honor to the affirmation. Inside the home, a separate wall, XX honor wall, special posting awards.
5, often make up stories to tell him, mom and teacher often communicate, the teacher has high expectations of him.
6, set an example, in front of the child, do not play the phone, do not watch TV. Let the child often see parents who read books, beautiful.
In fact, there are many other things to pay attention to, just parenting first. Children are best at imitating, children will not follow what you say to do, but will certainly follow what you do to learn. Most of us are average parents throughout our lives, and we need to allow our children to grow up to be average as well.
I am a firm believer that the way you are is the way your child will be in the future, despite the different starting point.
Not accompanying homework is precisely the beginning of fostering children's self-discipline, children, writing homework is very tiring, but mom can not take on for you, but mom will be with you, love to learn, be a love of learning, grow into a little bit of progress every day, come on, work hard, and together to become the one you want to become yourself.