On the one hand, it means that when you are working, you are surrounded by friends, and those friends are not gathered around you because of your charisma, but mostly because of your status, wealth, and the need for you to have a generalized friendship. Drinking friends are not real friends, after retirement when your utilization value is gradually lost, the door is cold, you will have a kind of people away from the sadness of the tea cooler, feel that they simply do not need any friends, in fact, it is better to say that in the self-congratulation, proving that your previous life is too impetuous.
On the other hand, it also shows that your inner cultivation is not enough, and you don't have enough charisma to make your friends always follow you. Or you haven't found a mentor friend who is worthy of following you for the rest of your life, and friends have been around since the beginning of time.
True friendship is hard to find. The first thing you need to do is to find a friend who has the same interests as you do, and who has both the internal and external qualities that make a friend a friend for a long time. Like the ancient Bo Ya and Ziqi, Bo Ya factor period of death, broke the strings, think the world can no longer understand the sound of his piano people. With such friends and soulmates, the bumps and turns of life will be warm and comforting, and great friendships are even rarer than innocent love.
If you don't have a good friend to talk to after retirement, and you are only limited to your own small family, your life may not be full, may not be colorful.
This is why after retirement many elderly people like to go to the University of the Elderly, like to travel the world with a partner, and even square dancing is not lacking because of the need for friends and socializing, only with the pace of harmony, the heart of the dance partner **** dance, in order to jump out of the most beautiful and most dashing dance.
Gentlemen's friendship is as light as water, after retirement, the heart put flat, quiet life, how many friends, as things happen, less socializing, throw worries, children and grandchildren happy, to enjoy life
I'm not retired only to find out that it is at work found that it's not what can be done friends, not by friends to play well, do not have a good relationship with the people will only consume their own, waste of time, and finally The first time I saw this is when I was in the middle of the night, and I was in the middle of the night.
Perhaps I was a child in my grandparents' home since I was a child, and at the age of thirteen, I was sent to study in another country, and at the age of fifteen, I was decentralized to earn my own living. I basically entertained myself and grew up to be a maverick. Then again, after the examination and allocation of work, also like to go alone.
It was all about playing all kinds of games by yourself, playing to the fullest, and feeling like you don't have enough time!
Also uneducated learned some skills: harmonica, electronic piano, erhu, guzheng can play, listen to the sound of humming music, singing, dancing can also play the wind and water, cutting and sewing, handmade DIY, painting painting decorative painting wall painting illustration painting comics, hook clothing, knitting can get out, work skills are also handy: PS, AI, Sai, PPT, printing, scanning and copying! ...... cooking I also have to pay attention to a color, smell and shape ......
To be honest, up to now I have not been able to find friends who can really share the same taste, and I can find one or two things that can play together is very good!
To be honest, I haven't found any friends who really stink, and it's nice to find one or two who can play together. So playing with a bunch of people is often boring, but I try to be accommodating to others so that I feel like relationships become a burden to me.
I'm not a person who does not do his job and play blindly, in the unit of the same age in the education, title, salary are considered high, the examination has been two college degree, four practice certificate. The work of the revolution is also a brick where the need where to move the type.
But I feel that the workplace does not like my kind of people: nothing can not be done, maverick, I do what I do, have principles, do not explain. I'm not willing to compromise and follow the crowd, and I'm not flattered by the trend.
So I often become the center of jealousy. A lot of people seem to want to find my shortcomings, find me not good at it, and then enjoy it. For example, "If I were as capable as you, I wouldn't be squatting here!" "I think this unit will turn around without you!" "I think XXX is doing better than you!" Of course, I have no qualms about disliking them, "I'm just like you, that's why I'm here!" "I think the earth might move faster without you!" "Did I say I know everything?"
Of course, most people are very impressed and appreciative of me, and behind the scenes they call me "X Talent Man". I'm not sure if I'm a good person, but I'm a good person, and I'm a good person, and I'm a good person. But for me, I just like to explore, problem solving can satisfy curiosity, others are sure not sure I am so.
I understand what state I am in: I don't like noisy environments, and when I interact alone with familiar people, I can talk a lot, but when it comes to public occasions, my tongue doesn't work very well. The first thing I'd like to say is that I don't think I'm going to be able to do it without a lot of help from my friends.
So, for me, being alone makes me feel very relaxed. Too much human interaction makes me feel uninterested, consumed, and tired.
Only a few years after retirement, I also found a good job, the complexity of the workplace relationships make me feel like reliving the nightmare, and then I had no choice but to quit my job and return to the independent time. Then I declined the boss's repeated invitation, to be honest, the boss thought I was doing a good job, I also feel the ability to swim.
But I can't tell you why: I just don't like dealing with people, I just like to be quiet and independent and do what I like.
I think, only no self, interest in the lack of interest, not strong enough inside, environmentally dependent people will not be able to mix without friends.
Loneliness and independence are not the same concept. Loneliness is the passive detachment from the group, while independence is the self-initiated away from the noise and clamor.
Loneliness is not necessarily a form of dementia. Nowadays, information is pervasive, communication channels are ubiquitous, and as long as you don't stop learning, exploring, and thinking, you're not an isolated being. On the other hand, if you do not choose to interact indiscriminately, you will find that you lose a lot of valuable time, affecting the life of the world quietly appreciate the world, carefully find the beauty of the surrounding.