Two months ago, one of my readers, a forty-three year old woman, wrote to inquire about her husband, who owns a private business. She and her husband met in college, and after graduation*** started their own business together, from a small workshop for two people to a company of more than two hundred people, which is a small success. And she in order to the company, put herself from 22 years old yellow hair girl boiled into a yellow face. Husband's former love has long since disappeared. Waiting for her to find out, her husband in the outside world to adopt a third party has been two years, the third party are pregnant.
The face of only five-year-old daughter and her hard-earned company, she really do not want to divorce, she just regretted themselves, these years, too infatuation, too much effort, in order to the family, it is left to take the life into the. But in exchange for what? She gritted her teeth, endured the pain, and this same bed **** pillow for more than twenty years of men did the divorce formalities, she told me that she was disgusted in her heart to make themselves difficult to accept such a reality. Divorce, she took her daughter will walk through the final journey of their lives.
When a woman is 40 years old and unhappy in her marriage, should she choose to divorce?
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Forty-year-old woman, if in accordance with the status quo of the family, catching up with her husband is a eat, drink, whore and gamble, all kinds of Lord, the woman, even if they do not have the ability to support themselves, but also can not live with such a man in a meteoric rise. Such a man, you do not want to divorce, but also by you, because almost every day he will give you the whole thing that you can not accept. What is the use for a woman to follow such an incompetent and useless man for the rest of her life? Divorce is miserable though, and you can't live with such a man.
Huanhuan is a real beauty, married to Lin Tao, all that year her mother was seriously ill, no money for medical treatment, she took the family heirloom, a food box passed down for more than three hundred years, to the pawnshop pawning, by the boss who runs the pawnshop persuaded that it was too much of a pity to pawn it off, so that it would stay in the family to pass it on from generation to generation. The owner was her current husband. At that time, Lin Tao has seen the food box, think when off too bad, also when not much money, plus, the girl looks beautiful and lovely, Lin boss is willing to give her help, so, Huanhuan in order to express gratitude, six and Lin Tao came together.
But fifteen years later, they divorced. The reason for the divorce was that Lin Tao had knocked up a girl who bought vegetables in a neighboring town. When she came to the door to ask for compensation, Lin Tao's wife took out all the family's savings, more than three hundred thousand dollars in cash, to let the girl abort the child, and finally basically settled this kind of thing that made her eat a fly like a hard thing to eat.
Thirty-seven-year-old Huanhuan, so sick, a week later, she made an important decision, with her daughter, net out of the house. And this moral man after the divorce formalities, with her daughter out of the mountains, leaving the heartbreak, to make a living in the big city.
Before leaving, Lin Tao kneeled in front of Huanhuan a nose, tears, and did not let Huanhuan hesitate, still determined to leave.
When a woman is 40 years old and unhappy in her marriage, should she choose to divorce?
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Forty-year-old woman, in accordance with conventional thinking, if the conditions are a little worse, their ability to live independently to check a little worse, themselves are not willing to divorce. Especially will not cook, will not wash clothes, do not want to give birth to children, when the decades of vase woman, know that they are old and colorful, is that the man does not learn, she also endured, because she knows that once she left, must be worse than now.
Financially independent forty-year-old woman, unhappy marriage, the probability of divorce is very high because she is between the strong and the weak this kind of people, are money to do support, most will take divorce. Only economically can not stand alone, the appearance of the woman can not be stunning a piece, will be humiliated to make do.
Forty-year-old woman, if the marriage is not happy, should be divorced, there is no standard answer, there is no fixed pattern. Each family's situation is different, whether to make do and maintain, or a clean break, a complete divorce, can not be generalized. Some people get divorced to be happier than they are now, but are they really happy when they remarry after divorce? The answer is not absolute. Marriage is like a business, you have to know how to operate, diligent management, in order to have the hope of a long time together.