01.
"If I could start over in life, I wouldn't want to settle for marriage." BFF Qin Xue said mournfully.
Qin Xue grew up with a very good character, her parents did not allow early love, not early love.
When she came out to work, her parents told her to hurry up and find a partner, and she did, and the blind date of the blind date, the date of the date, is not the right person.
Parents are anxious, urge her not to pick, almost on the line.
Qin Xue doesn't know what's wrong with her, but in any case, she's been on a blind date for less than half a month.
In the blink of an eye, the age of 32 years old, in a small town, 30 years old is not married, is an old girl, will be laughed at.
The parents didn't dare to talk to others for a long time, worrying that people would ask about their daughter, "How come your daughter hasn't gotten married yet at 30 years of age?
The parents felt ashamed and had to go home to put pressure on Qin Xue to introduce more friends and relatives.
Qin Xue's husband is a distant relative's colleague, in the local institutions, stable work, a fair income, divorced without children.
The two people met, there is no such thing as love, feel that the conditions are suitable, just make do.
02.
Qin Xue married, the family do everything by themselves, but also to serve the in-laws. The two men are not the same, but they are the same, and they are the same, and they are the same.
Qin Xue's husband is even more so, in addition to work, come home to Gao You lie, play the phone. The first time I saw him, he said, "It's a woman's job to do the housework, and I'm a big man who does the housework," he said.
One time Qin Xue cut vegetables cut hand, blood flow out, screaming, let her husband find a band-aid to her, called a few times are not willing to move, but also impatient, said: "What to scream, not just a little skin, you are pretentious, with a tissue wrap is not on the line?"
Qin Xue aggrieved to tears.
That time, she felt she had married the wrong person. It's better to stay single when you marry someone who doesn't love you, at least you don't have to be a cow or a horse and be hooted at by others.
Qin Xue body cold, menstruation will be stomach pain, her husband has never given her stew what brown sugar water. Hubby's own dirty underwear thrown in the toilet did not wash, let Qin Xue wash. Qin Xue said I am not comfortable, do not want to touch the cold water.
Husband was scolded again, saying, "What do I need you for if I can't do this kind of work?"
03.
Qin Xue's in-laws are very patriarchal. I've heard that the previous wife couldn't stand the fact that they forced her to abort her child, and she couldn't stand it any longer before she got divorced.
Qin Xue's first two are daughters, through acquaintances, in the hospital after confirming, mother-in-law softly let Qin Xue do away with. She also said, "My family has three generations, you must have a son."
The mother-in-law did not know where to get the abortion prescription, but forced Qin Xue to drink it. She was forced to drink it, and because it wasn't clean, she had to go to the hospital for an operation, which was another sin.
These are all the things that the husband acquiesces to. The first time I saw this, I was able to see the woman's face, and I was able to see her face, and I was able to see her face, and I was able to see her face.
Later on, when Qin Xue's body got better, her mother-in-law hurriedly urged her to get pregnant. The company's main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers," he said, adding that the company has been working on a number of projects in the past few years.
Since the pregnancy, Qin Xue's husband almost did not come home, God knows what he is doing outside, even if I know, will not recognize.
Never took the money home, defense Qin Xue with the same as the thief.
Queen's wife, who is a member of the family, has been a member of the family since the beginning of the year, but she is not a member of the family.
04.
Qin Xue Yuan itself is weak, the day of birth, hemorrhage, mother-in-law, one urged the doctor: "to protect the adults, must protect the adults!"
Husband, sitting in the corridor with his head buried in his cell phone, as if the birth is not his son.
Between husband and wife, indifference to this, passers-by are worse.
The good news is that Qin Xue's life was saved and the baby was born. The mother-in-law is still dancing and playing cards as usual, and Qin Xue's mother came to take care of her.
Qin Xue told her mother, "Mom, what's the point of living in a marriage like this, this is what you get for forcing me to settle for marriage."
Qin Xue's mom, who has a traditional mindset, said, "If you don't want to get married, you've already married, and you've already given birth to a child, so what else can you do? For the sake of the child, simmer down."
"I don't want to stay up, I can't see hope in my life, I want a divorce." Qin Xue uttered the idea of divorce, and her mother was shocked.
Husband and mother-in-law probably heard the mother and daughter talking and said explicitly or implicitly, "No one will stop you if you want to get a divorce, but my grandson has to stay."
So Qin Xue and in-laws divorce, the mother's family traditional thinking, think she has nothing to do, the child is born, and still so ignorant, advised her to stop.
Qin Xue felt alone and exhausted.
She said, "The child can be given to them, and when he grows up the child will surely understand that it's not that I don't love him, but that I can't compete with them."
Qin Xue cried. Qin Xue was depressed for a while after the divorce.
She said that if a marriage has no semblance of an emotional foundation, it would be better not to get married. To let those girls who are in a hurry to get married know that you can't marry casually. If you do, you're spoiling yourself.
Famous author Austen said, "Happy marriages are cemented by the exchange of affection, and if a man keeps his feelings to himself, he also pushes his wife out of his life."
When a man doesn't love you, he naturally doesn't communicate his feelings to you and pushes you outside of his life and emotions. You are like a lonely ostrich walking in a desert with no sky or earth, where is the place to go?
Perhaps you can only save yourself by escaping the siege of marriage.
Love yourself, start by not marrying just anyone.
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