Marriage is about emotion, not love.
Some people say that marriage is not because of love (halo)? Yes, or many people are, but some people are not. Jerry's marriage is not. The woman didn't love him at all, but she was moved by him and got married.
The marriage between Wang Xiaohai and Wang Xiaowei should not be love, but more touching. Wang Xiaohai said in About Us that he was shocked by the "double-row key goddess" for the first time and became her little fan brother.
Later, when he was performing a song on the stage, there was a man shooting with a small DV below. He looked intently and saw that it was the goddess in his heart. He has a little secret feelings.
He rented a basement when he went to Beijing for development alone. She came to see him, and when she saw such a situation, her sadness suddenly welled up in her heart and she shed tears. He thinks this man will be guarded by him.
What makes him more determined is that when he had an accident, the two of them went to the performance site by car together, but there was a serious accident. He was badly hurt, and she climbed over to see him regardless of her own injury, which moved him. Determined to protect her for life.
What moved her was that after two people quarreled, she practiced double-row keys for a long time, resulting in a waist injury. Wang Xiaowei said in an interview that the injury was so serious that his waist wouldn't listen to his brain.
Her home is only five minutes away from the hospital. But she didn't have the strength to go downstairs, let alone go to the hospital. And Wang Xiaohai felt strange, just like holding her, translating to the hospital step by step. That day, it was a long time.
Wang Xiaowei was very moved. During the treatment, Wang Xiaohai always took care of her and made her feel that he was a reliable person. The cooperation between the two was a great success, and the subsequent performance was also very smooth. Two people are made for each other.
In this process, the most important core is moving, not love. The difference between moving and loving is that when moving, there is not necessarily love; There will be emotion in love.
Touching is temporary, but love can last. Many people think that two people together for so long, just moved. They divorced after four years of marriage. Michael Chen divorced his ex-wife Xu Jing after two years of marriage, which shows that they are more moved than loved when they are together.
Love is giving, not possessing. Touching. Wang Xiaohai and Wang Xiaowei may also think that this person is ok, although some places are incomprehensible, but it is acceptable.
In this way, they entered the marriage. Marriage is the purgatory of love, and they are in the process of Du Jie. But I found that two people had some problems and couldn't tolerate them, so I chose to let go.
Personality disagreement is the main reason.
Wang Xiaowei has a strong personality. She feels that as an actress, she must work hard to achieve something. Her performance in double-row keys shows how hard she works.
Wang Xiaohai also said in the program that no matter whether Wang Xiaowei is angry or happy, he should use the keys to express his emotions, which may also be a good habit formed over the years. When she took part in the variety show, she practiced from morning till night in order to get good grades.
Wang Xiaowei said that he got up very early, sat in front of the double-row keys and practiced all the time, which often led to strain of the lumbar muscles and eventually hurt his waist.
Her obsession with music made her ignore Wang Xiaohai's needs. In the program, two people expressed different ideas on the topic of music. She is more professional, while Wang Xiaohai is more down-to-earth.
When two people have different musical concepts and different understandings of tracks, but neither of them thinks that they are wrong, and the combination is different in concept, they still insist on their own views, so they will argue and then become quarrels.
With the increase of participation in programs, quarrels will inevitably increase, and neither of them will give in, and the result is often that they break up in discord. They forget that this is work, not life.
In the life of husband and wife, there is not so much right and wrong, but mutual understanding and tolerance. This is the theoretical source that marriage is a test for two people. However, they are persistent. Because of personality reasons, both of them are very car-scrapping.
When two people have different understandings of music, it will rise to the problem of two people's personalities. Not only music, but also career. Wang Xiaowei is a career-oriented girl. She can give up many things for her career, such as having children.
On the other hand, Wang Xiaohai hopes that love will crystallize. He is worried that if Wang Xiaowei doesn't have a baby now, he may miss the best chance. In Things Between Couples, Chen Shu also focused on her career at first, but when she wanted to have children in middle age, she was a little overwhelmed.
When two people are entangled in the issue of children, there will also be quarrels. Wang Xiaowei thinks he doesn't know himself, while Wang Xiaohai thinks that if we have a career, we won't have a perfect marriage. What is the use of career?
It is understandable that two people have different views. But being in the glamorous entertainment circle may be another scene. Yang Mi and Angelababy appeared in the entertainment circle shortly after giving birth, which is an example.
Wang Xiaowei thinks that career is more important, and the gap between their ideas is getting bigger and bigger, so their hearts are naturally separated. Two people's understanding of marriage is becoming more and more pessimistic, and finally they can only cherish each other.
The gap in ability is also a factor.
When Wang Xiaowei and Wang Xiaohai were together, it was said that Wang Xiaohai used Wang Xiaowei to increase his popularity, which led to Wang Xiaohai's About Us. In his article, he recalled the past of two people and thought it was love.
But netizens don't think so. In their cooperation, many people think that Wang Xiaohai's singing skills can be omitted, and Wang Xiaowei's performance in singing skills and double-row keys is completely competent.
Some netizens think that Wang Xiaowei only participates in variety shows with him to make him famous together, otherwise, with her title and achievements, she doesn't need him at all.
In his article, he said that their feelings were mellow, in other words, they paid a lot. In this relationship, there is no so-called utilitarian heart. It is the "old hat" love of two "stupid children".
He didn't face the problem directly. What he said is only the state of two people, not the ability gap between them, but the gap is the family status gap.
Many people think that girls should be beautiful at home and men should earn money to support their families outside. Lorla disagrees with this view. She believes that women who stay at home for a long time will be bound by the living environment and have no motivation to move forward.
Wang Xiaowei's ability can also support herself. After the divorce, her Shang Yan kept showing her strength. Wang Xiaohai, on the other hand, doesn't have so many opportunities to sing, and there is still a gap in strength.
It is difficult to communicate without knowing each other when there is a big gap in strength. For example, Wang Xiaohai will force Wang Xiaowei to do things she doesn't want to do, such as making her dance three rows of double-row keys while singing.
He knows that her waist is bad, and it is difficult to dance three rows. She is an ordinary dancer, not to mention her. This unreasonable request is really unacceptable. Is this love?
Two people's emotions are not on the same line. I don't know if you've thought about it, but I have. Two people are destined to go further and further. If Wang Xiaohai had been a little weaker, their marriage might have survived.
The gap between two people comes from family education.
Wang Xiaohai comes from a musical family. His mother is a music teacher and his father is a university professor. In such an artistic family, he was naturally influenced by music.
He sang in Shenyang People's Theatre when he was in primary school. According to newspaper reports, he has been running on the road of music. He likes music, but he has no professional education in music theory. Because he majored in accounting in college, he didn't give up his music dream. In order to dream, I went to Beijing and became a drifting north.
His dream pursuit process is more about finding a way out. If he thinks accounting is not good, he should try Beijing. If not, he will return to the base camp. Anyway, the rear is guaranteed.
Wang Xiaowei is different. Although she is a girl, she is very naughty. She mentioned in the interview that she was so naughty that she climbed onto the wall to play. At last, she broke her arm.
Her father is also a music lover, thinking about how to tie up the children, so he can't be so naughty. He bought an electronic piano according to her interest, and when she came home, she played the songs she learned at school. Self-taught, this may be a gift.
Before she went to middle school, she and her father were watching TV. On TV, there is a foreign player playing the organ, which is more classical. He played the effect of a symphony orchestra on the organ. She told her father that she would learn this.
The old man is also very powerful, so I asked around and found that there is this in the university, but the teacher said that there should be a foundation. She took her daughter from zero basic school to Shenyang Conservatory of Music and studied double-row keys.
In college, she is also an excellent performer, and has a double-row key solo concert. It was also at this time that Wang Xiaohai met her. Her process is more about interest than finding a way out.
Two people's different attitudes towards music are also caused by different family atmosphere. In Wang Xiaohai's daily life, music is caused by interest; On the other hand, Wang Xiaowei loves from the heart. It is this passion that has brought her to the present.
Although two people are separated, the education of their respective families will never stop. Every family pays attention to the growth of their children. Different parents choose different educational models. If you were a parent, which one would you choose?
Conclusion:
Wang Xiaohai and Wang Xiaowei have separated and developed separately. The miracle of September, which we like, is not combined. Anyway, they brought us a lot of great singers when they were together, which is enough.
The separation of two people is also a kind of fulfillment. Fulfilling each other's dreams is also a kind of beauty. Anyway, I wish them better in the future and cherish each other! Do you think it is possible for them to get back together?