It wasn't long before the table came to sugar candy's mother "spit" her daughter's voice. "Sugar every day at home to eat and lazy do not work, at home is not holding a cell phone is holding a computer. Do not fall in love and do not get married, two days ago the old Zhang introduced her to a young man, she did not even go to see a glance, but also said to love freedom, I like her so old she is four years old, she is free? She's being reckless. Oops, more angry there is it, last month also quit his job, a good job to say do not do not do, go home to eat and wait for death ......"
I looked at the sugar sitting next to me, she smiled bitterly, "I'm 28, my mother still does not give me 'face'."
Many of the parents who are used to teaching their children in front of the public are used to shouting at and criticizing their children, regardless of the occasion, and do not care about the people around them.
They have forgotten that children also have self-esteem, they have forgotten that children also have face.
01
Sugar previously worked in an enterprise, the salary is considerable. Some time ago the company suddenly wanted to send her out of the country, not to go to leave, she did not have the slightest hesitation, chose to leave. She said: "This job is really very tired, send me out is also someone behind the ghost. Anyway, long ago did not want to do, just take this opportunity to leave."
After leaving the office, I wanted to go home and relax, but I didn't realize that my own home first "can't accommodate" myself. The first thing you need to do is to get your hands on some of the most popular products and services in the world, and you'll be able to do that with the help of your own personal computer.
One time, Sugar accompanied his mother to the market to buy food, met a few old neighbors, stood on the street corner chatting. Sugar stood aside and looked at the cell phone, sugar mother seems to have finally caught the handle, the words turn, began to count up the sugar, "you talk about this child, away from the phone can not live, how do you than the State Council people are still busy, miss a glance you can still die? Sun big sister you do not know ah, she is at home every day what work are not doing, after the bath to get a ground water do not know wipe, change of clothes on the pot pile, such a big girl, stinky socks pants still have to I give her to wash, is the hand broken can not wash themselves? She is lazy ...... day by day," Sugar face reddened, took the dishes and turned his head away, heard her mother say louder in the back: "said her two sentences still do not like to listen to it, which sentence I said is not right?"
After returning home, Sugar called me crying, she was physiological period that day, stomach pain, and wanted to slow down and then wash the clothes. This is the only time she didn't do the laundry, and she was taken out by her mother in public to say that she had no face at all.
Pale explanation, only I was the only one listening. But in the eyes of others, she has been the mother's mouth of that delicious lazy, mixed up in the appearance of death.
02
I remember when I used to go to school, a P photo booth appeared in the mall. The scene to help you take a picture, and then the face P to a template you want, at that time in order to promote, the mall entrance issued a lot of free experience coupons.
A lot of people are once to see, feel the novelty, are to go to the crowd. One night, an elementary school student with that experience coupon want to try, but the scene out of the photo effect is not good, change a lot of templates are very contrary.
Perhaps the delay was too long, her parents waited a little impatient, "Forget it, so ugly or do not get."
"That's right, your face is just like a fake when you put it on, it's too ugly, just go."
The parents' voices attracted a lot of stares, and the little girl looked down in shame and sobbed. The father saw her crying, scolded sternly: "Crying what crying, not too ashamed?" The sudden rebuke made the little girl even more embarrassed, let out a cry. At this time there were more people looking at them. The child's mother was also a bit annoyed, pulling the little girl to go, while pulling and saying: "You do not wash your face every day, do not take a bath, sunburned and dark, and still come to learn others to take pictures. Your own ugly face still have the face to cry, quickly go!" The little girl retorted loudly, "I washed my face! I took a bath! It's not my fault I'm ugly!"
Her father turned on her, slapping her on the buttocks and telling her to get lost and go home. The child cried and was dragged out of the mall by her parents and disappeared beyond the curtains.
Will she grow up and forget about it? I don't think she will, it's an indelible scar on her heart. She might even suddenly remember that night one day, being called ugly by her own parents in full view of the public, being loudly scolded, being beaten by her father.
Perhaps most parents think that scolding their children in front of outsiders or publicizing their children's "ugly things" is a small matter of teaching their children. However, this is a small thing, suppressing the child's self-esteem, so that they can not stand up in front of the crowd, and become sensitive to the inferiority complex. Even so, the parents still do not feel that they are doing wrong, the child becomes so, because they "glass heart", owe blow.
May every child be treated with gentleness.