The fact is that if you are really an elderly person, you need to put yourself in their shoes. It's easy to say, but not many people can really put themselves in their shoes, because they simply cannot. Because we are too young to understand the feelings of the elderly.
The old man's fear of cold is, in essence, really a fear of death, subconsciously at the bottom, not that he is subjectively really afraid of death. That is the instinct of the elimination mechanism of birth, old age, sickness and death, and at different stages of the reaction to the emotions are different, such as jealousy, discrimination, fear, may be a resistance to the mechanism of birth, old age, sickness and death of the new and the old.
The old man is most panicked about their own sense of loss of control over things, the loss of a sense of survival and importance, so afraid of the cold, cold and tasteless nature is no longer care about, do not care about the nature of the no longer important, no longer important in fact, the nature of the no longer important is that you are old, dead, no longer have a role to play. So old people are afraid of that.
Like the objective fact, if there is no efficiency, it is no longer important, the essence of human evolution is efficiency, no ability is the most inefficient, no efficiency will be eliminated, it does not matter. The nature of your work, study, etc., is just not the same, your lives and futures, are they more important than old people? If not, then you should give up your work, give up your studies and accompany the old man guess right. For example, you now want to take the university entrance examination, the college entrance examination, important, right? At this time, a person said, don't go to the college entrance examination, accompany her to go shopping, if you go, to give you 10 billion, you will still go to the college entrance examination? Since 100 million is more important than the college entrance exam, the chances of you succeeding in the college entrance exam and getting 10 billion are slim. It's obvious who weighs more than who. The college entrance exam or going home to see the old man? Of course we choose the college entrance exam...
In fact, what do you think it has to do with the elderly when you say that several generations are sitting together and buzzing? There is no big relationship, for example, you want to chat with your siblings about school, work, what handsome men, what beautiful women, and even a plate of "pesticide", jerking a hand, eating a handful of chicken, the chat room of the parents' generation. , are there, just not the same performance, such as the mid-life crisis, is to see new people come up, the fear of their own no longer important. Students are the same, like when you are in college, see elementary school students are starting to use the same type of cell phone you are now, and even make friends with men and women, play and have fun, your subconscious will always have a kind of envy and jealousy, feel that their own small can play so high, you can not come back ...
Only in childhood, the development of self-consciousness is not sound. Because of the weakness of power at a young age, being too small does not have a positive effect on your sense of importance and existence, for example, if a 6th grader bullies a 3rd grader, the 3rd grader will not feel superior to the 6th grader; the 3rd grader will not feel superior to the 6th grader.
So in effect the essence is a revolt against the nature of going to death, a desire to survive instinctively. Thus, humans, even all life, crave power! Power manifests itself in different forms in life, such as strength, money, and influence! Why is it that so many people, old and falling off the face of the earth, no longer able to enjoy life, hog the power and refuse to let go of it, becoming more and more despotic, even tyrants, the older they get! The essence is control, death against incompetence, a narcotic "drug" of self against death.
The fact is that if you want to alleviate this situation, you have to let the elderly get a sense of importance, a sense of control. Why old people like children, in front of children, the rights of the elderly to be heavier than adults, control adults, get the attention of adults, is not easy, the child is easier. And often the child is seen as a potential, a continuation of the life of the self.
How to do so that the elderly have a sense of authority and control, of course, the most direct is to live with him, with her, even if it says very little. If you can't **** things up, report from a distance more often, in fact, the same as a leader. Did not say that human nature is insatiable to fight against death? The leader is a corrupt official, you are just like reporting to the leader to give the old man a phone call. What's wrong with my work? Do you think that's appropriate? Are you not happy with my new girlfriend? How am I going to get along with her in the future? What should I buy at my husband's house? etc., even more than shushing works, in fact, we do not listen to ourselves, the problem is that you have to make each other feel. In addition can also,
First of all, to find their own old man itself on the technical expertise. For example: playing poker, chess, mahjong, singing, square dancing, calligraphy, painting, running a vegetable garden, raising flowers and so on. Come according to the old man's hobbies to arrange or lead the way for them to find the old man's interests can be avoided more and more lonely phenomenon.
Secondly, to let the elderly go out, make friends, will make friends, stroll in the park, etc., so that they can find their peers to chat with happy, so that the elderly will feel the outside world better than their own squatting in the home loneliness and loneliness strong.
Again, if the elderly walking inconvenience or remote rural areas, do the children's more with the elderly, often communicate with the elderly to talk, drive away the elderly loneliness drink loneliness. You can also buy a computer, so that the elderly often look at the news and colorful social life, you can also teach the elderly online landlord, playing poker, enough level and other games. No matter how to do children to keep the elderly healthy and happy mentality, so that the elderly feel no longer lonely in their old age.