There is a sadness in the world called mountain endless water endless, words to the mouth are all said. A week ago just added the WeChat group, chatting and chatting no one cared; only graduated soon after the old classmates, sent three words on a "oh"; ta did not reply to your message, but ran to others' friend circle to point out the praise ...... We are often confused with a problem. Why is it that someone and I were quite chatty, and then we ran out of things to talk about when we were chatting?
You are so full of crap that you don't want to listen to it!
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The unit's newcomer Zhang complained to me that he has a college friend who is very annoying, every day, regardless of the time to send a message to himself, sent at work, sent in the middle of the night, even sent to him in the early hours of the weekend. Xiao Zhang thought she had something urgent, the results of a return to the past, but she said she was bored, looking for someone to chat. Xiao Zhang is really full of fire, he said that in fact the beginning and students chat quite happy, we will be just graduated, talk about ideals, exchange of work. Slowly realized that she is not only a chatterbox or a whiny ghost, endless chatter some of the chicken skin things, they do not want to listen to, delete her is not right, ignore her not, had to excuse the work is busy, hurry to the end of the chat.
Other people send a selfie, accidentally be misunderstood as a show of wealth show love era, that student still everywhere whining, annoying, self-conscious high a never-ending. Even if you have been together on the knife mountain under the fire, worshiped the handle has been shot, your relationship can only be reduced to "we used to be very familiar with," in fact, other people only need to know that you live well enough, as for how you live in the specific no one cares about, and really want to maintain a good old friendship, on the usefulness of some of them.
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Other people reply so slowly, is not want to chat?
When chatting, there is often a situation that directly makes the atmosphere reach the freezing point, that is, sent over the message, others half a day did not reply. I've been there once before, I sent a message to the other side, the results of the next morning only to receive the other side of the reply. At that time, I thought to myself, "Is the other person busy at work? Or they didn't want to talk to me? But in either case, I had no choice but to shut up. If someone has something on their mind, how can I bother them? If someone doesn't want to talk to me, how can I have the cheek to keep talking?
We often say that there is no such thing as three, usually after the other party replies a few times late, the two sides basically have no chance to chat again. And for many long time no see old friends is more so, how many years no see, on each other's situation do not understand, it is likely that once or twice each other reply slow, you feel a little self-interested. For people who often reply late, speech concise focus is the main thing, do not find words, delay everyone's time, take you as a friend will always be a friend, not a friend, how to rely on close to useless.
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Don't you have not spoken, others do not want to care!
In this era where WeChat has become the main social tool, the operation of friendship does not just rely on chatting to complete, sometimes it is not the problem in the conversation that makes the chatting become stagnant, but before the conversation, some of your behavior has made the other party to have a resentment. Such as you an hour to brush the ten circle of friends, but also all the super clear big picture, not only affect the normal use of other people's WeChat, but also let those who use the flow to see the circle of friends hate to gnash their teeth! The other is not often contact with friends, do not send messages to the crowd, especially what "do not turn bad luck" "empty zombie friends", which will make others feel that you are boring and stupid.
Your circle of friends reflects your level of thinking, attitude towards life, want to run a good friendship, first learn to run a circle of friends. Don't let the friendship is not yet open mouth, die in the circle of friends.
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The circle of life is your circle of friends, chatting only words.
My mother WeChat friends, a clear color of the neighborhood square dancing old lady, every morning when you get up is to run on the square morning exercise, go home and hold the phone to chat on WeChat, who's daughter is not married, who's a good child learning; at noon to send their grandchildren to school, WeChat about the two old ladies play mahjong, small gambling, win money can also go home to do a braised fish; at night at home, while watching TV, the side and group In the evening, while watching TV at home, and the group of old men and women inside, talk about the parents of the East, the West, short, publicize who the supermarket promotions. It's just a little bit of a conversation, but it's a long conversation every day.
Your chatting is always at an impasse, perhaps because the other side and you are not in a circle of life, each other's interests are different, different experience, you say others do not care, others talk about you can not insert mouth. Only by accommodating life, friendship will soon dry up, want to make the chat pleasant and lasting, let your circle of life become your circle of friends, rather than entangled in a lifetime can not see the second face of the old classmates what to eat tonight.
In fact, you will be confused and someone's chat is not hot enough, perhaps because he is not important in your heart, but you are too stingy with each other a trace of the remaining contact, can not afford to put down this raw feelings. Instead of being entangled, we should invite our friends and colleagues to have a cup of tea and a meal, which is more practical.