The sun was a little too hot at 10 am, and there were not many people in the park. Affected by this outbreak of the national epidemic, the park is now much colder, the congregation of singing, playing musical instruments, square dancing do not come. There are only a few old ladies flinging their Tai Chi swords in the large round square.
I was able to find a cool chair in the shade and put down my water bottle, snacks, and toys for my little one. She is not going to sit down honestly, she turned up and down, and began to wander around the chair. A moment to pick up a branch, a moment to climb the sculpture, mouth also kept babbling, anyway, like a puppy to spread the joy.
After playing for a while, I saw Auntie Liu coming this way from afar.
Still the same yellow cap, today wearing sports short-sleeved slightly cool, a hand-held mop, a hand holding a brush-like thing. Look at this battle, should be off work.
Touching the defense, our eyes contact, her old man with a smile on his face towards this side, I can not avoid, immediately dry back to a false smile, took the lead in greeting: "Auntie Liu, so early off work ah".
I secretly grumbled in my heart, thinking that it was over, and that an awkward conversation was inevitable.
We live near the park, and it's very unusual for us to run into Auntie Liu, who works in the park administration. Aunt Liu is in her 50s, and my family is considered a neighbor, my mother and she is especially familiar. Once upon a time, they were rivals at the poker table, and my mom told me a lot about this person's broken mouth. Now I don't have time to play poker, and I'm always comparing my children's things when I see them.
Auntie Liu is usually always smiling, and she can talk to anyone who comes along. I took the baby to play in the park, often see her either in the clean basketball court, is selling mineral water, or is chatting with people, there is no idle time, just like a gyroscope. I often marveled at her energy, and then think of my mother, that walk a few steps of the appearance of pain in the legs, really can not compare ah.
I've often wondered if people of my mom's generation are so enthusiastic and good at what they do. The first thing I'd like to say is that I don't know what to do, but I do know that I'd like to be a part of it, and I'd like to be a part of it.
In my opinion, Auntie Liu is not a bad person, but often makes me afraid to say what I can not say the secret.
One of them is that Auntie Liu likes to speculate on your personal affairs without any boundaries.
When we go out, we inevitably have to socialize and chat, but this kind of chatting is just pleasantries, and often doesn't involve personal issues that you don't want to expose. This is not the case with Auntie Liu.
Her favorite thing is to dig into people's privacy.
For example, your family's income, your husband's job and position, whether your mother's and mother-in-law's families are helping you with your marriage, and even whether your brother-in-law is getting married this year.
Then again, when you bring up your own child, she guessed that your mother-in-law is not helping again. There's no money to be given, or anything like that. And when your mother-in-law with the child, they told your mother-in-law that young daughters-in-law do not bring children, just focus on their own play blah blah blah.
Secondly, Auntie Liu likes to pull on other families and show off her own.
Before the child's marriage, she loved to compare her imaginary son-in-law with my mom. When my mom said that the son-in-law is too good, but let the mother-in-law do not know how to arrange, Aunt Liu said that she can be on the future son-in-law, son-in-law want to eat fried rice, will never give him a white rice. I am speechless, this can be compared?
After the child's marriage, she loved to inquire about the situation of other people's in-laws, in case of life is not so smooth, then the next is the main field of her play. The first time I saw this, I was able to get a good look at my daughter's in-laws, and I was able to get a good look at them, and I was able to get a good look at my daughter's in-laws.
After the birth of her child, her topic again becomes who is back at work and who is still playing at home.
Third: Auntie Liu is an irresponsible, broken-mouthed mother-in-law who not only inquires but also spreads the word indiscriminately.
You never know which of your neighbors you'll hear about your family's private affairs. You can't even help but shudder when you witness Auntie Liu gabbing with someone else and meeting her eyes as she glances at you from time to time.
Don't think I'm exaggerating, but Auntie Liu in the park is the one who can make your heart tighten at any time when you are relaxing.
Auntie Liu is not an isolated case, she represents at least one type of person: the nice lady in the park, the enthusiastic pundit, the broken-mouthed neighbor we can't get rid of.
Since we don't see each other's heads, what should we do?
The experience of many times of suffering makes me summarize at least a few points of experience to deal with such people:
Smile and say hello first when you meet.
As the saying goes, "The more the merrier, the more the stranger". Moreover, the face of such a broken mouth mother-in-law. You can't let her catch anything.
Manners with the show, the words do not participate in the discussion.
For other people's parents, do not participate in the discussion.
For their own privacy, uphold the principle of silence is gold, let her own unlimited awkward chat.
The heart does not agree with things, do not defend.
For the different concepts of parenting, do not make unnecessary arguments.
All this to say, the most want to say or a sentence: please, Auntie Liu! Nothing, tease the children, less prying.