A well-off family, the couple is usually busy with work, so the three-year-old baby to the grandmother to bring, the elderly have a habit of walking, and used to like to go to a square dance. But since taking care of the child, square dance is no time to jump. But walking is always possible, so after the evening meal will take the baby to walk a corner.
This day, I went to the park to walk, came back just encountered rain, the old man did not bring an umbrella, and the legs and feet are not good, can only come back in the rain, as a result, the baby on the night of the cold fever.
The couple was very upset, the son said to the old man: ? I'm so old that I don't want to take my baby out when the weather is bad! The child's resistance is poor, which is like adults so fine ah!
Grandma listened to the heart is not happy, but the baby is sick, but also self-blame.
But if this matter is put on the couple themselves, the two should go to blame who?
Sitting during the month, the grandmother personally told: we will be so care of the child
A young mother-in-law, in the month is the mother-in-law to take care of her, the mother-in-law think daughter-in-law married to the field is quite difficult, want to treat her as a biological daughter, so the care of the baby is very attentive.
The old man also devoted himself to spend effort to change a lot of diapers with cloth skin, the results of the young daughter-in-law was very unhappy: diapers so dirty, how can you give the baby to use it? Grandma replied: how can it be dirty? I was scalded with boiling water, and my own son was taken care of in this way to grow up, now is not quite healthy?
When giving the baby powdered milk, the mother thought that it was not okay for the grandmother not to follow the grams, and that the baby should not be held so much, making the grandmother look like a person who does not know how to take care of a child at all, as if she had never given birth to a child.
So grandma's daily life was disrupted, feeling a lot of pressure in her heart, being complained about all the time, and soon afterward even having a depressed mind.
Taking care of the child to elementary school, I thought it was liberated, grandmother: this is simply for me to give birth to a child.
Young couples have children but do not raise, which is very depressing for many elderly people. There is a young couple is open barber store, usually busy work, can not take care of the child, so the 7-year-old boy has been the grandmother to take care of growing up. The grandmother sometimes takes the child out on trips, but of course the time is limited.
The child is 7 years old and has not yet left his grandmother's home. By this time, the old man's legs were not as strong as they used to be, and his body was not as strong as it used to be. Grandma and Grandpa originally planned to buy a house in Hainan after retirement, settle there in the winter, return home in the summer, and then go on a trip to Europe to feel the humanistic atmosphere. You can also enroll in another senior university to enrich the second half of life.
But since taking care of this grandson, one of the old man's plans did not have the opportunity to implement, seven years have passed, and the body does not allow to fly again.
The experience of these three old people, let a person feel that the elderly life is not easy, young for their children to struggle, in their old age, I thought I could be able to leisure enjoyment, I did not think that also has been busy.
In reality, too many couples are busy working and need the elderly to bring up children. After all, life is very stressful, couples who do not go out to make money, the family's expenses will be seriously affected.
So the elderly with children, how to balance the relationship between the elderly, daughter-in-law and son?
Elderly people help to bring up children, young children to be grateful. Because it is not the old man must, but the old man is willing, so in ordinary life, the son and daughter-in-law should not be too much grudges, because the two generations of people's life and parenting concepts are certainly different, the need to understand each other and communicate, rather than quarrels and grudges.
Elderly people with children, do not rely on their own experience, think they have everything reasonable, because the times are changing quickly, must be scientific parenting, and elderly people with children do not be too serious, their own life is the most important, couples can not take the responsibility of the children to the old man, *** with the sharing of the correct way of getting along.