There was a heated discussion in the daughter-in-law tea conversation in "Mother-in-law and Mother". Personally, I don't think the husband and wife's home is the mother-in-law's. The reason why I think so is to analyze this problem from a rational point of view, that is, when I go to my parents-in-law's house, they will feel uncomfortable and very different from their normal life. Then, by the same token, when my parents-in-law come to my home, I will also feel uncomfortable and feel that no matter what I do, I am not strong. I will be in this state, regardless of filial piety or not. Personally, I am very filial to my in-laws.
But filial piety comes first. When my in-laws come to my home too often, I will feel uncomfortable and my life will be seriously disturbed. However, I won't tell the elderly directly that I'm uncomfortable. I'll often bother my in-laws when they are at home, and let them know with practical actions that sometimes going to my son's daughter-in-law's house is really a problem for my son's daughter-in-law.
Is it discussed at the daughter-in-law tea conversation of "Mother-in-law and Mother"? Do you think the husband and wife's home is the mother-in-law's home? ? This topic, Alina Zhang said no, from a physical point of view, the home you live at night is your home. But Dong Xuan and Eva Huang think that the husband and wife's home is actually the mother-in-law's home, because everyone is a family, hoping to give her a sense of belonging and security. Chen Songling thinks that the husband and wife's home is not the mother-in-law's home. She says that the home is a very private area, and her mother-in-law is very welcome to come to the home. However, because each family has its own rules, the husband and wife's home is actually not the mother-in-law's home.
always think? Married daughter, spilled water? This sentence is problematic. To some extent, marriage is indeed a kind of alienation of individuals from family of origin, but this alienation should not only be girls, but also the alienation and growth of both men and women. It should not be taken for granted that the woman marries the man's family, but that two people form a new family. For a long time, as far as I can see, most marriages are where the woman leaves her family and marries the man's family, and everything takes the man's family as the priority. Even in today's increasingly open mind, it is still inevitable, which once made me feel very unfair.
Many mothers-in-law think that to marry a daughter-in-law is to marry a nanny and let her do housework, wash clothes and cook for a day, without giving her a hand. She thinks that her daughter-in-law is high. Looking at the daughter-in-law spending her son's money and living for free, she was particularly dissatisfied. When mother-in-law and daughter-in-law live together, there are many contradictions, and many mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationships are handled very well. Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law don't live together. Going back to see her mother-in-law at holidays produces beauty at such a distance, so the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is particularly good. After marriage, it is the best choice to live separately from your mother-in-law.
it is a happy thing for a mother-in-law to learn to let her son get married, which is the process of his growth and maturity.
after the son gets married, the mother-in-law should change her focus. Mother-in-law should have her own life circle, such as going to square dance and traveling with her father-in-law. The mother-in-law should be happy, and the son has his own family. Mother-in-law should change her mode of thinking and not use her own ideas to restrain her son's married life. After marriage, the daughter-in-law and son are a small family. If we encounter any difficulties, we should help them. Usually, we should not disturb their lives, give their children space, and do not interfere in their husband and wife affairs.