Marriage cannot accommodate a third party, whether it is a lover or a mother-in-law. Quarrels between husband and wife are inevitable, but couples "quarrel at the end of the bed and quarrel at the end of the bed", the conflict can be quickly resolved, and even more feelings than before.
But for the children's marriage, if the mother-in-law intervention, not only does not help to solve the conflict, but also may add fuel to the fire, triggering greater conflict.
Shenzhen once had a "mother and child severed corpse case", a tragedy caused by mother-in-law and daughter-in-law quarrels. Female engineers flash-married phoenix male, marriage mother-in-law daughter-in-law conflict escalation.
The husband not only did not mediate, but also helped his mother to bully the daughter-in-law. In the end, the wife lost her mind and in her rage killed and dismembered her mother-in-law and her husband.
How did all this happen? What was the conflict between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law?
On May 21, 2013, a woman named Pan Yanfen walked into a police station in Shenzhen's Baoan district. Pan Yanfen came to report that her husband and mother-in-law had been missing for several days.
The case officer looked at the petite figure in front of him, the woman's appearance, a moment of pity between the heart of a big move, a weak woman encountered such a thing, is really poor.
After patient questioning, investigators learned that Pan Wenshi's husband is an engineer Xu Sheng. Her mother-in-law, Chen Xiuhua, was an old woman from rural Hunan who had just arrived in Shenzhen.
The mother-in-law and daughter-in-law had a fight because of their different living habits. The couple also had a big fight when the husband heard voices coming and kept protecting his mother. The husband left with the mother-in-law and they never returned home.
Pan Yanfen felt guilty and said: "It's really all my fault. I shouldn't have quarreled with that old man. Maybe they got angry and went back home to Hunan."
On the surface, this was a family conflict that led to leaving home, but investigators sensed that something was wrong.
In the face of the disappearance of her family, a soft woman was so calm, reported the case with fine makeup, and even once laughed and laughed with the police, which is really a bit unusual.
In the afternoon, investigators came to Pam's apartment and looked inside the room, but found nothing unusual.
Investigators then moved to the neighborhood to monitor the situation and found that only the husband and mother-in-law were at home, and there was no filming of the two leaving the house.
In this case, the disappearance is definitely not simple and the missing two may have been killed.
For this reason, investigators came to Pan Yanfen's home again and conducted a thorough search. When police opened the refrigerator, they found two skinned heads.
"What is this?" The officer asked Pan. Even a three-year-old could tell they were human heads, but Pan Yanfen still insisted: "These are chickens I just bought."
Finally, under constant questioning by case officers, Pan Yanfen admitted the bodies of her mother-in-law and husband. How did a weak woman kill two people and why was she so heartless?
Pan Yanfen, born in 1976, is from Qingyuan, Guangdong Province. After graduating from college, Pan came to Shenzhen and worked as a clerk at first, then as a sales engineer at a technology company.
While the work went well and the salary was high, Pan Yanfen always had a knot in her heart, and she could never find a suitable boyfriend. She was 30 years old and still single.
In 2006, a friend introduced Pan Yanfen to Xu Sheng, an engineer at a company. Xu Sheng came from the Hunan countryside, and with his own efforts, he worked as a technical director in a company and successfully settled in Shenzhen, a standard Phoenix man.
Pan Yanfen is 30 years old. She has seen her sisters around her getting married and having children, and she has a feeling that she "hates to get married". Although Xu Sheng has a successful career, he has never married. In addition, he is also a few years older than Pan Yanfen, and her mother has been waiting for her grandchildren.
Two unmarried older men and women, so together. In less than half a year, they got married in a hurry.
Although it was a flash marriage, after the wedding, the two had a good relationship until the birth of their daughter, and everything slowly changed.In 2009, Pan Wenshi gave birth to a daughter, which disappointed Xu Sheng, who wanted a son more than anything else.
After all, it was her daughter, and Xu Sheng loved the child. But when her daughter was only six months old, she was diagnosed with congenital heart disease.
In order to take care of her daughter, Pan Yanfen quit her job, and Xu Sheng, devastated by the blow, began to excuse herself from her busy work schedule and often ignored her daughter. Before the operation, it was Pan Yanfen who took the child alone to the hospital for a checkup.
Daughter's illness made Pan Yanfen exhausted, while her husband only worked, also made her feel sad and aggrieved.
During this period, Pan Yanfen's father was very sick and came to Shenzhen for an operation. And Xu Sheng will be two patients, leaving his wife to return home alone, because the grandmother is 90 years old.
Pan Yanfen expressed her dissatisfaction, hoping her husband would not go back to help her take care of her father and daughter. But Xu Sheng, believing he would be scolded by relatives as "inhuman" if he didn't return to his hometown, eventually returned to Hunan.
After this incident, the couple's relationship began to deteriorate. It was not until the arrival of the mother-in-law that the marriage was completely pushed into the abyss.
After Xu's father died in 2013, her mother-in-law, Chen Xiuhua (陈秀华), moved from Hunan to Shenzhen, where her mother-in-law and daughter-in-law began living together.
Chen Xiuhua is an ordinary rural woman who favors sons over daughters. Ever since she arrived in Shenzhen, she has been urging her daughter-in-law Pan Yanfen (潘艳芬)to have a son.
But her daughter is sick and needs care. How could Pan Yanfen possibly have the energy to raise another child? So she wasn't always worried about having a second child.
Not only did her mother-in-law have a problem with this, but her husband, Xu Sheng, also complained. I thought my mother-in-law was here and could take care of the child. But things didn't work out the way they should have because her granddaughter was sick and Chen Xiuhua didn't want to take care of her granddaughter.
Every time my mother-in-law and daughter-in-law argued about this, Chen Xiuhua's mother-in-law would say, "You have a healthy child, can I help you take care of it?"
One time Xu Sheng had a stomach bug and was lying on the sofa moaning uncomfortably. And Pan Yanfen and her husband did not have feelings, see so, did not care too much, has been doing their own thing.
Chen Xiuhua saw her son uncomfortable, but the daughter-in-law does not care, immediately angry, she will daughter-in-law scolded, and slandered: "you are not outside someone, how so do not care about their own men, really no conscience."
The relationship between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law gradually filled with resentment and hatred.
On May 18, 2013, Chen Xiuhua and her son were chatting on the balcony when a square dance song came from outside the window. 4-year-old daughter heard the sound and also danced excitedly, so she looked for her grandmother to dance with her.
Pan Yanfen followed her daughter to the balcony, but she was unsteady on her feet and suddenly fell on her mother-in-law. The grandmother turned around and immediately scolded Pan Yanfen: "How can you be so cruel as to let your child hit me?"
Pan Yanfen quickly explained, kept saying "I did not". But her mother-in-law, Chen Xiuhua, still refused to let go, and she grabbed a broom and got on Pan Yanfen.
Pan Yanfen could not escape and was beaten several times. When the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law two entangled, her husband Xu Sheng joined the "battle", he has been on the mother side, questioned why his wife let the child hit the grandmother.
In the mother and child quarrel, Pan Yanfen defeat, full of depression nowhere to vent.
At 11 p.m., Pan felt pain in her body. She took a shower and found several bruises on her body. The injuries on her body, coupled with her past psychological repression, finally broke Pan Yanfen down, and she fell into a complete frenzy.
After taking a shower, Pan Yanfen picked up a pressure cooker from the kitchen and smashed it hard on her husband's head when he wasn't looking. After Xu Sheng hit him a few times, he lay on the ground and cried out in pain: "Why did you do this?"
Pan Yanfen said while hitting: "I didn't let the child hit your mother, you don't believe it." My life is boring. Let's die together. If I crush you to death, I'll jump off a building."
When her mother-in-law heard the noise, she went out to check. Pam immediately rushed forward and knocked it to the ground. In the end, Pam smashed her mother-in-law and husband to death.
After the murders, Pan Yanfen used all her strength to drag the bodies to the bathroom. Worried that her children would see her, she also prepared a urinal for her daughter to keep her from going to the bathroom.
Over the next few days, Pan Wenshi began separating the bodies, boiling large pieces in a pot to remove blood and water, then tossing them into the wild in black garbage bags.
Small pieces of broken bodies and guts were thrown into toilets and flushed down the drain. Because both heads were too big to handle for a moment and a half, they were simply put in the refrigerator.
After her mother-in-law and husband died, relatives and friends couldn't reach them, so they called Pan Wenshi several times to ask about the situation. Pan Yanfen said she didn't know where the two went each time they left home?
Finally, Pan Yanfen decided to turn back and simply report the case before stabilizing the relationship between relatives and friends, not realizing that the murder would eventually come to light. After a trial, Pan was sentenced to death and her daughter was raised by relatives.
It is because of the family conflict, actually caused such a tragedy, worthy of deep thought. When a mother-in-law and daughter-in-law clash, the wife could not have fallen into despair if her husband did not always side with her mother.
If the marriage is unsustainable, you can choose to divorce, why use extreme means to solve the problem, not only to destroy themselves, but also make friends and relatives suffer, the cost is too great to bear.