I am a high school teacher. I am thirty-five years old, male, and single.?
Last year with a new class, a girl showed me extraordinary love.
If we're talking about teacher/student love, it's definitely not to her level.
Add me WeChat, stick to me on all spring and fall trips, make a trip to the office, not to ask questions about the subject, just to chat with me. A candy and greeting card also often appeared on the desk, but I put them all away for her.
I also intentionally avoided her, but she didn't seem to understand me. ?
Why am I so sure? Because I once asked her to write a topic on the board, and all the students below were up in arms. She's a loudmouth by nature and can never hide her secrets.
It wasn't until this year, after the final exams, that she confessed her love to me. It was unexpected but reasonable.
I had a long talk with her. Something to the effect that she should study hard, get into a good college, get a job she loves, and I would get back together with her again and start as a complete equal.?
I laid out everything she had put on my desk in a box and gave it to her. She couldn't stop crying and all I could do as a teacher was comfort her.?
She already had a tendency to be isolated. I've heard boys in front of classrooms calling her a slut for seducing a teacher.
I found all the kids who were bullying her and had a good talk with them. Told them to treat her well and not to bring it up again.
Adolescent budding is normal and shouldn't be treated differently. They should have understood what I meant as well, they are big kids and know what's going on in their hearts.?
We have two school districts. The other campus had a teacher who was pregnant and needed someone to cover her shift. None of my coworkers wanted to go because that campus was far away.?
In the end, I chose to sub. Colleagues were puzzled.?
Only I knew why. The secondary reason was that there were more opportunities for advancement at that campus, and the main reason was that the girls would be embarrassed if they still stayed here, and I was also afraid that I would actually stay with her in case I couldn't control myself one day.
I can't live up to her green years. ?
She's supposed to study hard, right?
I, as an ordinary high school teacher, would like to say something to my students:
Do you like the teacher as a person, or do you like his gentle handsomeness when he writes on the blackboard, when he tutors a topic individually, and when he participates in an activity?
If it's the latter, think twice.
The teacher-student relationship is inherently unequal, and the man who shines so brightly on the podium has to deal with middle-aged indignities off it. He will have a hangover, he will swallow clouds, he will cry helplessly, he will swear, and he will even find people around him to vent to for no reason.?
Most of the teachers had families.
Please think about it, his wife has accompanied him for so many years through thick and thin, she is frail and weak, she has to bear the heavy housework every day, comfort the noisy children, deal with the complexity of the work, she can not be without him in her life.
A middle-aged man, a middle-aged man who is paralyzed on the sofa every day after work, a middle-aged man who occasionally washes dishes, a middle-aged man who can tutor his children's homework, is like a lighthouse in the storm. And now, there's a big, watery girl trying to steal her harbor. There was nothing she could do about it.
Since your teacher could abandon his wife, he could also wait until you turned yellow to find another love. Do you think that she was, back then, as magnificent as you were.?
Of course, there are single teachers.
As I said to the girl earlier, wait until you're out of the teacher-student relationship and you're both equals to each other before deciding if you want to commit your life to him or not.
Out of school, you can see his flaws more visually, whether they are flaws or not.?
Child, read seriously, he will be happy.?