As a person who has drifted alone in his hometown in the past six months, he kept thinking about it, and talked to them from a first-tier city to learn more about their recent situation.
They have the initiative to choose, there is also a little passive helpless, but did not regret their choice, because any person in this world is not an independent individual, there are loved ones, there are still attached, and hometown and cut the constant sentiment.
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Shell (32 years old, male, in Beijing for four years, settled in his hometown for three years): work hard to earn money, I like the life now
When I was a teenager, I went to Beijing to read the Central Academy of Fine Arts is my goal
In high school when I was learning to draw, college entrance exams, repeat the exam, just to get into the Central Academy of Fine Arts, but by some coincidence I did not enter the Central Academy of Fine Arts. The Central Academy of Fine Arts, some regret to go to the Shandong Academy of Fine Arts.
The Central Academy of Fine Arts is a knot in my heart, and I am determined to get it. Four years later, I finally got what I wanted, and went to the Central Academy of Fine Arts to read a master's degree, and this time I finally came to Beijing, and at that moment, I even felt that I had no regrets in this life.
Many people are surprised that in these years I did not do and art design related work, after graduation in Beijing to do a period of time in the interior design decisively returned home, has been engaged in the financial industry, many people are surprised how to give up the study of many years of art, but also do not understand why so early to go back to their hometowns in third-tier small towns.
The Central Academy of Fine Arts is a goal that was once realized. I have no intention of staying in Beijing, I do not feel hope in Beijing, household registration, house is a big reality, that is not the place to fight for, or to do a lifetime of house slavery, can not do their favorite things.
? Some people ask me to give up my profession and do a job that has nothing to do with my profession, do I have any regrets. The first thing I'd like to say is that I don't think I'm going to be able to do that.
I can only grasp the present, I also like the present life. Learning to draw and paint, studying in the school that I want to study, then going home, looking for a job, making money, buying a house, buying a car, realizing financial freedom, I have realized step by step.
As a son of the family, I have the obligation to share the family, and I don't want my parents to work so hard. I can only rely on myself to struggle, to support the family, so that my parents live a better life, this is my own choice, but also the reality that I have to face.
Although I rarely paint now, I have learned photography, so I have not completely given up what I once learned, I will take a camera to take pictures in my spare time, and I will also take my parents out for a stroll. This time I feel particularly accomplished.
Every holiday season, you don't have to buy train and plane tickets early to go home like they do from abroad, and your parents live in a city, you can drive home to see them at any time, and use the money you earn to buy food for them, as a son, I am qualified, filial piety, and that's enough. In the future, maybe I will take my parents to the beach city, and occasionally go to the outside city for a few months, so that they can see the bigger world.
People are going to grow up, now I'm not the boy who used to study art, but I am a qualified son, a filial child. I'm not an idealist, I even think I'm a realist through and through. We have to face the real cruel and beautiful life. And this is life.
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Anjan (30 years old, female, three years in Shanghai, half a year back home): peace of mind is the place to return to, there are still a lot of things to do in the future
Last year, I was still in Shanghai, and about to usher in the thirtieth birthday, and my dear friend chatted with me: I feel that my life has reached the period of anxiety, anxiety is not thirty years old is still single, anxiety is thirty years old is still not living into an ideal appearance, not career success, and I have to go to the hospital to see the hospital. The first thing I want to say is that I'm not going to be able to do anything about it.
In August 2017, work, study, amateur and friends rehearsal drama, busy in Shanghai, my sister told me that my mother gave birth to a serious illness, for fear that I would be worried, serious, did not tell me, discharged from the hospital only dared to tell me in a distant place. In the past few years, I have been out of town all year round, and a lot of things at home are worrying my sister, I can imagine how hard it was for her during that time.
On the one hand, I could continue to promote my career and some things I want to do, and on the other hand, I miss and feel guilty about my distant family. It was a bit of an agonizing time.
I think of the saying, "You want to raise a child, but your parents are not here". The first thing you need to do is to get your hands on a new pair of shoes or boots, and you'll be able to get them to fit in the back of your head. Soon after my 30th birthday, I stopped obsessing about it and left Shanghai to return to my hometown with a sense of sadness.
I thought I could spend more time with my parents and do something for my family, but in fact, not only do I have to re-adapt to the urban living environment, but I also have to be criticized from time to time because of my marital problems, which is something I never thought of before I came back.
The first thing I've noticed is that I'm not a big fan of the new technology, but I'm a big fan of the new technology, and I'm not a big fan of the new technology, and I'm not a big fan of the new technology, and I'm not a big fan of the new technology, and I'm not a big fan of the new technology, and I'm not a big fan of the new technology, and I'm not a big fan of the new technology, and I'm not a big fan of the new technology, but I'm not a big fan of the new technology.
The other night I was washing my face, my mom stood next to me and kept trying to convince me to go see the blind date the next day, saying that the girls are too old to be so picky ...... In short, it's just that if you don't get married, you're going to end up in a miserable situation. I couldn't help but cry and yell because it felt like I was being forced to do something I hated. This feeling is even worse than not doing a good job at work and being scolded by the boss.
I think of the saying that I'm tired of working in a big city and tired of being a human being in a small city. I'm not sure if I'm going to be able to do this, but I'm going to be able to do it, and I'm going to be able to do it. But she should know that now has long been not feudal era, the girl also have to rely on their own, rely on their own to fight want life is right.
Well, recently, my mom has not forced me to do it anymore, so maybe she was scared when she cried, or maybe our communication has worked.
Of course, a lot of times it feels good to be at home.
I remember the day I came back, the plane landed, pulling the suitcase out, my sister smiled and stood there to greet me. The first thing you need to do is to get a good deal of money to pay for the services you need. I do not deny the laugh. I don't know if it's good or not, but I recognize that there are people who send me back to Shanghai, and no one picks me up when I get there, and I'm often alone on the subway or in a taxi.
A few days ago, a cold, my brother sent me to the clinic for an injection, the evening back a little late, have not eaten, see the kitchen mom made a good meal put there ...... suddenly remembered that before the conjunctival hemorrhage in the eyes of Shanghai in the middle of the night afraid afraid to sleep, the next day to go to the hospital alone. The moment, feel at home really good, can eat the mom to do the meal really good.
Happy: Take your parents out to play, mom is already used to square dancing
Occasionally, you can go out with your family on weekends and holidays, and get together for a meal as a family. And mom and dad together near the suburbs, think they eat I pay for the feeling is really good.
Mom's body is now recovering well, already accustomed to square dancing, WeChat will also be used, often look at our circle of friends photos, cell phone to her installed jitterbug, but also by the inside of the hilarious content will be amused non-stop. Finally no longer just staring at me to find the problem of not finding a partner.
Now the state: frankly face, do not stop trying
Not sure where the future will be settled, if you stay in your hometown, maybe consider starting a business, a small store or anything else is possible, do something good and like to write ...... or maybe even go to Shanghai, it is not possible, what is the matter? I'm not sure if I'm going to be able to do that.
Some time ago, I grew a wisdom tooth, a little pain, a good friend said how you just grow ah, I have grown several years. I said, "Maybe my mind is just starting to mature now," he said.
Thirty years old, only began to really mature a little. But it's not too late, I think. There's still a lot of things to do in the future, and it still feels like a lot of good things are yet to come.
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Sai Wen (male, 31 years old, eight years in Guangzhou, settled in his hometown for two years): stable and well, will continue to live in his hometown
In Guangzhou, I have been studying and working for eight years, doing planning work. I've been living in my hometown for two years now, and I'm getting married and having kids.
When I decided to leave Guangzhou, I couldn't let go of the city I had been in for so long and the lifestyle I had gotten used to, but I had family and friends in my hometown, so I thought it was time to go home.
What age you are, what age you should be doing. The reality is that it is time to start a family, and the reality is in front of you. Confucius said: parents in, do not travel far. The first thing you need to do is to go back to your home, and then you can go back to your roots.
When I first came back home, there was a clear gap at first, because the concept of thinking and industry development are not the same, and I miss the friends in Guangzhou who have the same language, the kind of relaxed and tolerant environment, and the interesting work content.
I've been living in my hometown for two years now, and I've been slowly getting used to it and reintegrating into my current life.
It's not a matter of going back to a third-tier city to work and live, it's a matter of living and dying.
The world is changing fast, and if you don't learn, you'll fall behind. Being in the Internet industry, there are so many new things to learn.
A lot of people say they can't find a suitable job back home, but I don't think so. I don't think so. I'm working for an Internet company now, and it's very fast-paced, so you have to learn all the time, and you can get in touch with a lot of new things, so I don't think there's a big difference between working in my hometown and working in Guangzhou at the moment.
Although sometimes I travel to see Guangzhou food or can't help but think of the days when I lived in Guangzhou, I also feel that a city with a subway will be more convenient, because now driving to work on the road is often blocked for a long time. But nowadays the BRT in the city also makes transportation much more convenient, and the development of new districts and environmental renovation have given the city a new look. High-speed rail will be opened next year, when you want to go back to Guangzhou to see is also very convenient thing, hometown construction and development over the years is worthy of praise.
Now living in the hometown of the new district, many people even said that there has been a second-tier city feeling, although I feel that not so exaggerated, but now the hometown is indeed different from before, all walks of life are undergoing great changes.
There are more and more young people like us coming back from the first-tier cities, and I'm quite optimistic about the future. On weekends, I occasionally go to the theater to see a show, probably also because I have lived in Guangzhou, and in my free time I will look for food in the city as a great pleasure, and there is a lot of food in my hometown, which is tasty and cheap.
Of course, there are also some annoying things, we have to think about the gifts on New Year's Eve, and we have to send red envelopes to the children, which I hate, I don't have the time, I don't have the energy, and I don't like it, but it's unavoidable in the adult world.
Two years after returning from Guangzhou, I am now living and working steadily, and I don't have any regrets about coming back, and my relatives and friends are all around me, so it's easy for me to take care of them in my spare time. The first time I came home from work, I saw my lovely son, and I felt happy and satisfied.
Many things are uncertain in the future, but I'm sure I'll be living in my hometown.
In fact, no matter whether you have left your hometown, or went to a distant place and came back, or choose to leave in the future. The peace of mind is the place to return to. You feel contented inside, you can honestly face the life you should face, so, it's quite good.