My name is Yan Huang, and I'm 57 years old. I come from Yinchuan, Ningxia.
I am an employee of a public institution. I have been working in a government department and just retired the year before last.
Originally, I thought that after I retired, I could finally live the life I wanted freely, but I didn't expect my husband who had been with me for many years to cheat. When I knew the news for sure, I felt that my whole world had collapsed.
Speaking of it, three years ago, I felt that my husband was very cold to me and didn't care much. However, I know it's not easy for two people to come along, so I've been trying to save this marriage.
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At that time, he came back from work late every day and always came home as drunk as a fiddler. When he got home, he was drunk, either scolding me or throwing things around and then throwing up all over the floor. After all kinds of tossing, he will sleep peacefully.
Every time, I will wipe my tears and silently help him clean up the mess.
The reason why I submit to humiliation is not that I am afraid of him or nostalgic for this marriage, but that my son just got married at that time, and I don't want to set a bad marriage demonstration for my son and daughter-in-law. I want to exchange my patience for my husband's change of heart.
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However, he still let me down.
I found that the more I cared about him, the more he ignored me.
The most outrageous time, he brazenly came to our house with Xiao San, only to see Xiao San standing in front of me in full makeup, glancing at me from top to bottom out of the corner of his eye, with a contemptuous smile on his mouth, as if to declare sovereignty to me.
Husband pulled mistress aside, then leaned over me and whispered:
"Yan, let's divorce! The person I love now is her! There is only affection between you and me, but there is no love at all. Don't blindly insist! Do you think it is necessary for a marriage like ours to exist? "
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Indeed, if I stay any longer, I'm really too mean to myself.
A week later, we went through the divorce formalities at the Civil Affairs Bureau.
He cheated in marriage, which was wrong in the first place. Of course, the house is mine, and after marriage, the property is half for each person.
After divorce, it's hard to be quiet alone in a big house of 109 square meters.
My son settled in Beijing after he got married. I was afraid that I would work hard at home alone, so I was asked to go to Beijing for a walk. I refused because I didn't want to bring my bad mood to the joy of my son's wedding.
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Every day, I watch TV and read newspapers at home. In my spare time, I will go to the nearby park to play Tai Chi, dance square dance and watch some old people play chess together. Although my life is a bit boring, I am also very quiet and happy.
In the past, a colleague of the company wanted to introduce me to his wife, saying that this man was about my age and had retired for several years with a high pension. In the future, you can live a good old age with these monthly pensions.
In this regard, I also refused, because at the moment, I am not in any mood, and I always feel that I have been hurt too deeply by my ex-husband. It will take me some time to get out of that pain.
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In this way, the days passed day by day, spring came to Qiu Lai, the sun rose and the moon set.
In a blink of an eye, I have been divorced for a whole year.
Facing the new year, I have too many feelings in my heart. I feel that I am only in my early 50 s, and living alone all the time is not the way. I have to find a wife to partner with me and walk with me for life.
Although I have this idea in my heart, I don't know where the future person belongs to me.
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One morning, after breakfast, I went to the nearby park as usual.
How lively this park is! Some old people's choirs are practicing songs, some play erhu, some adults fly kites with their children, and some sell my favorite candied haws. At this moment, my heart suddenly surged with surprise and emotion. It turns out that life can be so wonderful and rich!
I wandered alone for a while and was about to go home when I suddenly saw a group of men and women chatting happily in the distance.
Out of curiosity, I went straight over.
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Come and have a look, just know, the original park is a newly opened "blind date corner", which is specially prepared for some older men and women who have not found an object.
When you come to the blind date corner, men and women can communicate directly and frankly, or they can leave personal information and contact information, and then wait for their Mr. Right to take the initiative to take the bait.
I feel that this platform is very good and can solve the problem of finding a partner that many older young people are troubled by.
Of course, not only young people, but also old people can fill in personal information if they want.
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I think it's interesting. I also left my personal information and a photo when I left.
A few days later, I accidentally received such a message:
"Hello, madam! I'm a man from the blind date corner of XX Park. I got to know you that day and saw your photo. I think you must be an excellent person, so I really hope to get along with you further and hope you can give me this opportunity. "
His name, Luo Gang, and his contact number were attached to the short message.
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To tell the truth, I am very excited to receive such information, and I feel that God is opening the door for me.
The next day, I got up early to freshen up, and then went to the place Luo Gang and I agreed.
When we met, I was shocked. This Luo Gang turned out to be a very young guy!
When we sat down to chat, Luo Gang told me that he was 26 years old and his hometown was Zhengzhou, Henan. He goes to college in Yinchuan. After graduation, he didn't go back to his hometown, but he has been working here. Last year, he just started a short video company in partnership with a friend, and plans to broadcast live here.
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Hearing this, I nodded again and again and discussed the current live broadcast industry with him.
I said that Yinchuan belongs to the northwest region and is still relatively backward. Now the short video industry is on the rise. Doing this kind of live broadcast with goods will definitely make money, but the market in Yinchuan should still be blank, so you have a good prospect and a good eye!
I can see that Luo Gang was flattered by me, and her tender face looked a little flushed.
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After a lively chat, the air suddenly became a little solidified and we were all silent.
Luo Gang seems to see my mind, just break the silence:
"Elder sister, I know you will have doubts in your heart, that is, we are so different in age that you are married again. How can I have the idea of wanting to associate with you? "
I nodded, hoping that he could give me a reasonable explanation.
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Luo Gang began to speak hesitantly. I can see that when he said these words, he gave himself great determination:
"Elder sister, to be honest, I fell in love with you the first time I saw your photo that day. I think your temperament is elegant and your eyes are full of wisdom I thought at that time, such a woman is what I have been looking for in my heart.
But, I swear, I didn't know your age at that time. I thought you were only a few years older than me! Finally, I was shocked to see the age on the information. I didn't expect you to maintain it so well, so your mentality must be very healthy! "
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Luo Gang haven't say that finish, I interrupted him:
"Ronaldinho, stop it! We are not suitable at all. You are only two years older than my son. I can't find my son That must not make people laugh? "
Luo Gang shook his head and suddenly shook my hand tightly and said, "Sister, you don't have to care about other people's opinions. Our life is our own, not defined by others. In love, age is not a problem. I ask you to give me a chance, a chance to love you, okay? "
Looking at Luo Gang's sincere eyes, my heart seemed to melt and I was utterly confused. If you accept such love temporarily, you really need to overcome great psychological obstacles.
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However, I am still willing to give it a try, as Luo Gang said: Life is my own and has nothing to do with others.
From then on, Luo Gang and I started dating.
Luo Gang works in the company during the day and comes to accompany me after work. We went to the night market, had a barbecue and even went to KTV.
Singing, and on weekends, he will take me to a nearby farmhouse to feel the pure and primitive lifestyle of nature. Tired of playing, we will rest in the hotel, watch movies and play games.
With Luo Gang, I feel like a little girl, back to the time when I first fell in love.
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During this period, there were some problems in the company run by Luo Gang and his friends, and the capital chain was about to break.
I offered to lend him money several times, but Luo Gang flatly refused every time. He said that he would mind his own business and would never ask me for a penny.
Finally, through his efforts, he finally got the sponsorship of some brands, the funding problem was finally solved, and the company finally turned losses into profits.
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In fact, when Luo Gang insisted on dating me at first, several girlfriends around me advised me: Be careful that your pension money was cheated by him!
To tell you the truth, I have this worry, too. After all, my current economic situation is ok, and I can get a pension of five or six thousand a month.
But through my contact with Luo Gang, I found that he doesn't care much about money at all. As long as he has money, he will buy me clothes, jewelry and invite me to dinner.
And from this incident, I learned more about Luo Gang. Although he is very young, he is an ambitious and responsible person.
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Six months later, Luo Gang and I got a marriage certificate.
Because of our special circumstances, our wedding was not a big show, just hosted a few colleagues and friends. The form is a little simple, but we are eager for a happy life.
As for the future life, no one can predict, but at least, now we live in the present and cherish each other!
I also wish all lovers in the world are good, no matter rich or poor, no matter young or old, as long as there is love in their hearts, they will be treated well by God!