If there is time, their own children with their own or the best, if it is really no time, the mother-in-law does not choose to help, you can properly request the mother-in-law, let her help you, the mother-in-law will also understand.
First, there is a "measured" protestThe possessive mother-in-law, must have a measured protest. After all, your mother-in-law is your husband's mom, if you still cherish the marriage, you can not and mother-in-law to the point of incompatibility. Women and women are actually very good at communicating with each other, as long as there is a "heart"?
Second, the mother-in-law
Mother-in-law's childishness seems a bit unreasonable, but a good daughter-in-law should know how to pay respect to the elderly from the heart, and educate the children from the food to play to the old man to be courteous to three, which is not only conducive to improving the relationship between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and to cultivate the child's love is also very good. Gradually she will help you to bring up the child.
Three, do not force her
Many women think that their mother-in-law should give themselves a child, in fact, it is not so. As she gets older, she will inevitably have her own things she wants to do, and you have to understand her at this time, never force her, or it will start a conflict.
The first three years after giving birth to a child is an inflection point in a family's mother-in-law-daughter-in-law relationship. On the one hand, the new life has to learn to adapt to the world, Ta from time to time because of the loss of the mother's protection and upset cry; on the other hand just upgraded to the mother of the newcomers, most of them are also confused, do not know how such a mass of small meat, how to slowly grow up.
At this point, if the mother-in-law can lend a hand, that kind of snow feelings is undoubtedly the glue of the mother-in-law-daughter-in-law relationship, no matter how well they got along before, the future of the family naturally less respect for the elderly and love for the children of the warmth of the picture. But due to the existence of various subjective or objective reasons, not all mothers-in-law can help their daughters-in-law with children
Mothers-in-law do not take children, can reduce the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, "distance produces beauty" is to build a good mother-in-law-daughter-in-law relationship with the basic principles, but the child's arrival will inevitably break this balance. Previously, the two do not live together, there are any problems are "turn a blind eye, close a blind eye". If your mother-in-law is helping you with your child, she will have to live with you under the same roof, and the child will become a "drawback amplifier" between you and your mother-in-law.
She thinks you're lazy and can't serve her son as a cow, and you think she's old-fashioned in her concept of parenting and loves to control things. The two of them will start tearing each other apart at the drop of a hat, and the husband and child will be caught in the middle, and the house will be stirred up with a lot of chicken feathers and hurt people.
If your mother-in-law doesn't help you with your kids, you won't have these problems. It's her job to come and see the kids, but it's not her job to come. You have no expectations of her and she will not get involved in your life. We may never be able to be intimate with each other, but we won't be overly detached either, and it's good to maintain normal politeness and politeness.