Question 2: How to let the elderly spend their twilight years in peace Can you please go to Baidu library to look up "how to filial piety to the elderly"? One of the most important things is: to put yourself in their shoes
Question 3: How to live in peace in the old age The road is far away from worrying about the end of the day. Youthful complacency are disdainful to talk about old age, or even outright deny the existence of old age (for themselves). "I intend to live until I'm 30 or 40, and then goodbye!" Sagan said so decisively. As it turned out, she tossed and turned until she was 69, in debt, bankrupt, sentenced to prison, and finally died (she was misdiagnosed with pancreatic cancer in 1978, and was so frightened that she wrote her autobiography ahead of time). Fitzgerald also said, with a bit of self-destructive pride, "No one should live past 30." He was more than a man of his word, and only lived to be 44.
Young people can't wait to die. Because of arrogance. Older people, on the other hand, want to live a few more days, even if they have to drag their sick bodies along. Probably because they have been forced to learn humility.
As Haruki Murakami said, writing novels was his way of healing himself. In fact, there is probably an element of self-healing in all creative endeavors. From the beginning of "Auntie's Postmodern Life", Ann Hui showed her anxiety about old age: Sichin Gao Wa finally left Shanghai, which she couldn't wait to return to, and returned to her scruffy old partner and rebellious daughter, nibbling on a piece of cake and setting up a stall in the freezing cold, with her hair all gray. It seems to tell the story of the fragility of old age and having to cling to once-abhorred family ties. By the time we get to "Days and Nights in Tin Shui Wai", the single and widowed elderly rely on a little kindness and warmth from their next-door neighbors, frying up a plate of green vegetables every day to eat with their meals. Then there is "Sister Peach", in which there is no blood relationship, but rather a bond accumulated over time, and the dignity of the self supports the elderly to pass through with ease. These three movies are the path to self-healing for Ann Hui after she passed 60.
Sometimes I think Benjamin Button was lucky. Sometimes I think Benjamin Button was lucky: he was born old, and he experienced the sadness of aging first. So he seems more humble and patient than any of his peers, understanding and listening. It is a pity that Fitzgerald did not write this novel well, probably because at the time he did not understand aging well enough.
I began to think about old age more and more often, probably because my relatives began to grow old. My mom once said to me worriedly, "If we go away, you probably won't even know how to do the funeral, right?" I immediately rebuked her for not saying such demoralizing things, but a pang of fear ran through me. My grandmother, who was my mother's adoptive mother, had been stubborn and eccentric all her life, and had wiped her own neck with a kitchen knife when she was young. Now she lies in bed, hoping every day for a miracle that will keep her from dying. Just the thought of dying brings tears to her eyes. She is unreasonable and unreasonable every day. To put it bluntly, she hates the fact that there is no medication in the world that can bring back old age. Her mother was tortured to the point of exasperation. Once when cleaning the dirt on the bed, she couldn't help crying and called me to complain. In the countryside, there is no such thing as hiring someone to take care of the elderly; each family's elderly are taken care of by their own juniors. So the village judges the success of an old man's life by whether or not he/she has loved ones to look after him/her when he/she grows old.
In the city, money can solve a few more problems: you can go to an old people's home, or you can hire someone to take care of you, but neither of those are good options. I've talked to people before about how the popularity of "Peach Girl" is not just about good cinematography and simple emotions, but also about the aging of society. People are beginning to feel the pressure of aging, and subconsciously they are frightened and need comfort, so it is easier for them to be interested in this kind of subject matter. People say, "Who thinks about aging when they watch a movie!" That's true, of course. But I still think: it's not that the audience is very conscious of the connection between the two, but that the atmosphere is slowly affecting everyone now.
The cultivation of a person's whole life is reflected in aging: what is clear is always clearer, and what is muddy is more muddy. In the end, a person's life is measured in terms of your relationship with the people around you, and even more so in terms of your ability to cope with the world after a lifetime of accumulation. So far I've seen a better sample of a single elderly person than perhaps Agatha's Miss Marple: she has a nephew who respects her and loves her, a group of elderly friends, a special skill (crime solving), and lives a non-claustrophobic life in a quiet town (but we won't know how she takes care of herself when she's sick). Agatha herself lived to be 85, and spent her old age in a large family: husband, daughter, son-in-law, grandchildren, and her own sister's entire family (but strangely, both of her detectives died alone). In addition to the company of these people, she continued to write until 1975, when she killed Poirot, whom she had created, with her own hands, the beginning of her farewell to the world.She died at her home in Oxfordshire in 1976. That year ...... >>
Problem 4: How to let the elderly spend their twilight years in peace Now the standard of living as a whole has improved, coupled with the state and the various local *** have introduced the policy of old age, many of the elderly in the economy do not necessarily need to be borne by their children, as a matter of fact, the old people should be very happy oh.
However, some of the situation is not as we imagined: there are many older people become withdrawn, unwilling to go out, interest than before greatly reduced, temper became irritable or cold, crying for no reason, feel dragged down children, is a family burden, and even appear light situation.
What can be done to make the elderly really happy in their old age?
Put the old man in the heart
Do not think that more to the elderly to buy good food to buy clothes, gifts is to put the old man in the heart, the parents are old, more is the hope that the children can be accompanied by their own side, and the development of today's society, but the young people can not be accompanied by their parents so that the old people's sense of loneliness is more and more intense, the children can do to often contact with their parents, for example: Call their parents to listen to the old people to talk about the words of the heart, talk about some of the topics that can make them happy, people get older, there will always be a lot of feelings, and parents talk about the most is their own sons and daughters, don't mind the parents nagging, and learn to listen to, will only make the parents feel happy, they will be because you pay attention to them to pay attention to the family and the later years of life is full of hope.
Exposure to some new things
In the case of the elderly physical conditions allow, more travel with them is also a way to make them happy, but also, for example, you can take the elderly to see some of the life of the richly interesting movies, appropriate to take the elderly shopping, do not look down on these things, young people recreation time also take the elderly to entertain them, oh, so that they are exposed to some new things, can make the elderly think with the way of thinking of the family, the elderly will be able to get to the bottom of the problem, so that they will be able to get to the bottom of the problem. The old people's way of thinking can be made to move forward with the society, and at the same time also better understand the children's work and way of life.
Older people learn to self-explanatory
Children have left home to run their own future, the old people are of course lonely and lonely, but why let yourself be so lonely down it, will broaden their own way of entertainment, singing and dancing, reading and writing, playing chess and painting, fish and walking the dog, and then can not be and the old classmates, old friends, old neighbors to talk about a day is also a way of loneliness, there is a hobby, a hobby, a hobby, a hobby, a hobby, a hobby, a hobby, a hobby, a hobby, a hobby, a hobby, a hobby, a hobby, a hobby. The way, there is a hobby and will be accompanied by a habit, then the loneliness will slowly away from their own.
Today's society is highly competitive, so instead of letting your children worry about you, you should be a source of happiness in your family, and let your children come back home to refresh themselves when they are tired of working outside.
Question 5: How can the elderly spend their twilight years? How is the best jumping square dance usually an old partner to play chess and eat a meal quite happy
Question 6: Combined with the actual talk about how the elderly to spend their twilight years topic in different realms due to differences and discussion. Developed areas, *** more money, the elderly can be safe; less developed areas, *** not rich, the conditions of playing cards, the conditions of a little worse have to work; poor areas of the elderly still have to be considered the main source of the family's financial resources, or even absolute power 。。。。. Nowadays, the elderly have a saying: raising children to prevent old age, can not be relied on! Children are living just self-preservation, who has given parents a few points?
Question 7: How can the rural elderly spend their old age without savings? Obviously, you can't live in peace in your old age, you must accumulate wealth when you are young~
Question 8: How to live in peace in your old age with no children around you? Hello! You can send the elderly into the nursing home. To do old age. People are old, action is not convenient, some may not be able to take care of themselves, the old generation ate a lot of suffering, if the old still no one to take care of how poor ah.