In the past, people's mentality is very healthy, can face up to the problem of their own age, in which age on what to do, never feel that the age of their own bring what kind of trouble.
But now people, the attitude of age is more and more important, especially women, watching their own age a little bit more, the psychological burden is also more and more big, the age of panic is also more and more serious.
Around me, many women who are married with babies are starting to enter such a stage, watching their children grow up day by day, the two moods inside will always be different.
Some friends feel happy, some friends feel very irritable, watching the child grow up day by day, the joy of parenthood gradually dispersed, the rest are irritable, not only to face the economic pressure, the inner heart of the pressure is the biggest.
Contemporary parents, around 35 years of age are basically faced with several situations.
A kind of late marriage and late parenthood, the mother is about 35 years old, the child is only 2, 3 years old, every day have to fight the spirit and play with the child.
A kind of early marriage, the mother is about 35 years old, the child is already about 10 years old, every day tutoring children homework physically and mentally exhausted.
There is another kind that is being pushed to have a second child, and at around 35 years old, it's not a bad idea to have a second child.
"In my 40s, I'm too young to dance, I'm a little old to have a second child, and I'm bored at home with my husband, so what can I do?"
In fact, not only do women in their 30s face the problem of "push", many women in their 40s also choose between having a second child and not having a second child.
A neighbor's sister told me about this, we have a big sister in the district, the family's eldest son just got into college the year before, the old couple is only 46 years old.
As soon as the child left, the family immediately cold a lot, usually when the couple stared at each other.
Later, the couple decided to have another child, only in the two mouths of 47 years old when the second child was conceived, as a high-risk maternal, which the hardships can be imagined.
And some time ago, the mother took her son to play downstairs when she encountered such a thing, let the mood hit rock bottom.
In the time with the baby, another big sister also brought the child over, the two children also play very happy, and the big sister also began to talk: you also bring your grandson out to play ah? The first thing you need to do is to get your hands on a new one, and then you'll be able to get your hands on one.
This sentence as soon as the exit let the mother feel embarrassed, raised his eyes and looked, people dressed clean and exquisite, temperament is very good.
And they are gray, hair randomly tied to the back of the head, because after giving birth to a child, the body is also very bloated, asked the age to know the two people the same age, the mother's heart is also a mixed feelings.
- The physical quality is getting worse
Everyone's physical state is from the peak a little bit down, like a balloon, to a maximum, the most complete shape of the fleeting, and wait until the peak period of time after the body began to decline.
So, older women or super-aged women, before the second child must be prepared psychologically, not only poor health, the experience of bringing up a child is not as good as it was before, the quality of the body will be the older the worse.
- economic pressure is too much
Now this society, technological development is also more and more rapid, people's spending is also more and more large, to buy more and more expensive things, in short, so things are beginning to rise in price, on the most stable wages.
So, if a two-child family wants to have a second child, they must first consider clearly whether the current economic income of the family can support the expenditure of two children, and during the pregnancy, with the baby, the mother does not work, no source of income, the husband can support the family.
- looks aging too fast
"Telomeres are the key to longevity", but after a girl gives birth, telomeres become shorter, and having a baby is a relative 4.2% reduction."
Simply put, every time a woman gives birth to a child, the number of bases in her body decreases by 116.
This is equivalent to accelerated cellular aging of 1 year, that is, to have a child women will be "10 years old", perhaps only 30 years old, but after the birth of a second child looks like 40, 50 or so.
The problem of the child's psychology, education, personality and other aspects of the problem, can be answered for you, I hope my advice can help you, so that every baby can grow up healthy.