It is wrong to nibble on the old, and it is wrong to nibble on the young!
Especially emotionally, personality, parents can not rely on us for life !!!!
We should help our parents grow up and learn to be independent.
How?
First, we should educate our parents about frustration!
Lian Yue then said, the more incapable parents, the more stubborn, they desperately need someone to absolutely obey and believe in them, in order to soothe their own disillusionment.
Truly smart and responsible parents expect and encourage their children to challenge and excel.
If we want one generation to be better than the next, then the previous generation must be overthrown by the next.
How can the next generation go beyond when all they know is obedience?
Help our parents, be smart and responsible parents.
Don't obey them in everything!
Don't be afraid to disappoint them!
Disappointment is a normal part of life, so let your parents learn to accept it!
What if your parents are rolling around and crying?
Your attitude should be tough.
When we were young, our parents treated us how they wanted to be treated;
now they treat us how they want to be treated.
Never let your parents think that crying is useful (crybaby parents get candy).
Stop the crying the first time.
To tell you the truth, parents are bullies too.
In front of your parents, it's all about the aura !!!!
Believe me, there is no such thing as a parent who can't be educated, let them be frustrated a few more times and they will grow.
Second, let parents find their own life!
I hope parents can learn to be self-reliant and not pin their happiness on others!
Please note that children grow up to be someone else.
A better attitude than pinning 100% of your life on someone else is to realize that your children are not all you have, and that your life is more important.
Someone on Knowledge asked, those young people who are working in the north, Guangzhou, Shenzhen and abroad, what about your parents?
The answer with the highest number of likes was from a mom.
She said:
Young people take themselves too seriously. You're busy, go about your business, don't worry about what I do.
It is a legal obligation to spend money to support your parents, but not to spend time with them.
I am particularly disgusted by the commercials on TV that make the elderly with children out of the house look so miserable.
What does it mean to bury a person who has been busy all his life and can easily retire, and can only surround his children?
What do you mean, you can't do it?
I advocate that the elderly should have their own material pursuits and the spiritual world, and then jumping square dance is also a kind of enjoyment.
Simply want to give this mom a crazy call!
Cooler than Wang Ju!
If she participates in the creation of 101, I will brush her votes every day !!!!
Third, encourage your parents to get a job at 60!
I know, by this point a lot of people want to yell at me (get in line for a number).
Many people think that when their parents get old, they should stay home and do nothing.
A euphemism for a life of peace and quiet is to eat and wait for death.
The idea that parents are old is to treat them as weak and think that it is time to get out of mainstream society.
This is the biggest disrespect to parents.
Someone said to his mom, "Mom, you are only 70 years old, go to work.
At that time, everyone thought he was crazy, he had plenty of money, why let his 70-year-old mother go to work (you are now lining up to get a number to beat him, right)?
He said, in fact, you do not know, the elderly also need to be busy, also need a sense of existence and sense of purpose, also need a job, reflect the value.
Really, when I traveled in Japan, the feeling was particularly profound.
Japan's old grandfather, more than 80 years old, when the driver, when the department store manager, special professional, special style, special vitality;
Japan's old lady, more than 80 years old, and two or three girlfriends, wearing a wide-brimmed hat, wearing a small dress, to go to Ginza high-class restaurant to eat afternoon tea, especially have their own life, cute.
This kind of senior life is the coolest, most rock and roll life!
Let Chinese parents be cool and rock and roll!!!!
Don't give me any bullshit about filial piety.
Filial piety is a bad word.
It's not just obedience that's called filial piety;
It's not just mindless obedience that's called love.
Instead of filial piety, we should say love.
The greatest filial piety is to tell your parents about advanced concepts so that they don't lag behind the times.
Give back to your parents in this way.
Love your parents before you help them become independent and grow up.
Just like they helped us grow up when we were kids.