Is it acceptance, is it put down, or is it that time will wash away everything.
A lot of answers are not and mind, until I saw Su Dongpo's sentence: "Looking back to the place, there is no wind and rain, but also no sunshine."
The first thing you need to do is to look at the past and see if you can find a way to get back to it.
In fact, it is a kind of forward, not indulge in the past, not entangled in the put down. The first thing you need to do is to get the right person, and then you'll be able to get the right person, and then you'll be able to get the right person.
The rest of his life is too fast, so do not let the previous entanglement disturbed you next mood to see the scenery.
01
Learning to let go is to know not to compare with others
When I was young, I was always tired of my parents comparing themselves with other people's children, and then when I got older, I realized that as long as I lived in a group, I couldn't avoid comparing myself with others.
Positive competition is desirable, blind comparison will lose their own lives, and even give birth to dark ideas, this world, no one sincerely hope that you can live better than him, and no one can tolerate their own life is not as good as others.
So life is not only for their own better, but also in order to fight for a breath, often over the anxious and entangled look.
I heard the story of the kingfisher:
Once upon a time, there was a bird in the primitive forests of South America, a bird with a green body and a circle of gray texture, like a circle of waves, and therefore named kingfisher.
Although this bird is beautiful, but it is busy every day in the nesting, so it looks listless, very tired.
The only thing that characterizes the nests of the kingfisher is that they are huge, and they are erected one by one in the trees, which makes for a spectacular scene. This bird is a small bird, but the nests they build are huge.
The researchers experimented by bringing in a kingfisher to observe the nesting process, and the bird stopped when it reached its own size. The researchers brought in another bird, and the situation took a sudden turn for the worse, with both birds frantically expanding their nests until one of the kingfishers died.
A comparing heart causes life to dry up, and without ever enjoying a comfortable and restful life, one loses one's heart in comparison. The nest is for shelter and to live with family, not to be bigger and better looking.
And how many people can realize this?
The world is your own, everyone else is a supporting actor. Instead of staring at others, we should examine ourselves. Learning to let go is the only way to truly live.
"Don't listen to the sound of the leaves through the forest, there is no harm in chanting and walking slowly. Bamboo stick and shoes are lighter than a horse, who is afraid? A straw raincoat is a life of peace."
You have to learn to walk forward, but also learn to release the storm behind you, sing and walk slowly, focus on your heart.
02
When you stop complaining, you know how to let go
Life without regret is the way, life without complaint is virtue. The first thing you need to do is to get a good deal of money, and then you'll be able to get a good deal of money for the money. Too much care will halve the joy of life, look down, everything will be relieved.
The obsession is actually a burden, and even a suffering, too much care has become a kind of restraint, lost too long will become a kind of pain. Give up, not to give up the pursuit, but let us face life with an open heart.
Auntie Chen's divorce is very bumpy, suffered a derailment of domestic violence also did not take the initiative to divorce, the key is still not open to their own, every day to find someone to complain, complaining about the man has no conscience, said their own a thirty-something woman can go where.
Later, because of the daughter's persuasion chose to divorce, no longer entangled with the dregs of the male, determined to return to their own lives, and now singing, square dancing, are very happy.
Neighbors say this divorce is good, Auntie Chen's up and coming are much better, and then she lived a carefree life, but also have their own craft, there is no shortage of men around the pursuit of men, but also with their daughters to get along with the joy. Auntie Chen stopped complaining after ushering in the real life.
At the same time, I've heard of another rich wife's life, suffered a derailment and refused to divorce, and kept a share of the family property and shopped every day. Listening to Auntie Chen's life now, thinking about their own can be, when it is the same encounter with her husband derailment.
In fact, we all know that it is impossible, a person let go of the past, release the former in order to meet tomorrow's good, and a woman in order not to give up their own women can only be more and more deep.
For couples to release is a kind of letting go, you and I are worthy of a better life, for couples to release is to let go of their own, you can live a better life, and I have nothing to do with it.
First love many are no results, many men have a strain of white moonlight in their hearts, many women have a vermilion mole in their hearts. The past will pass, and now the nostalgia is more just a kind of unwillingness, release is the best sacrifice to the past.
Complaining about men who want to change, complaining about women who are too poor to love the rich, is futile, leaving the people can not turn back, leaving the heart you will not want again. A forget it, a long forgotten, and finally become an unusual when.
The so-called real release, not the deterioration of feelings, fade, or do not love. And just another way to love, that kind of love does not hurt each other, and will not let themselves live in pain. A kind of release, silently happy with each other.
03
The best put down, is to learn to release
An old monk, he gathered around a group of devout disciples. One day, he instructed his disciples to each go to the south mountain to fetch a load of firewood back. The disciples hurriedly traveled to the river not far from the mountain, everyone was dumbfounded.
Only to see the flood water from the mountain rushing down, no matter how to cross the river to get firewood. The disciples were all a little downhearted. Only one young monk was frank with the master.
The master asked the reason, the little monk from the pocket out of an apple, handed to the master said, can not cross the river, can not play firewood, see the river there is an apple tree, I will be the only one on the tree apple picking. Later, the little monk became the master's successor.
There are endless paths in the world, and there are rivers that can't be crossed. Can't cross the river, turn around, can't fight the firewood on letting go, what's the use of hanging your head, always thinking about what's the use of the real release is not to let go, but to move forward and enjoy the scenery around you.
The best put down, is to learn to let go, a thought, heaven and earth are wide, everything has a different look.
Su Dongpo talented, with the talent of the prime minister, but in the old and new parties in the cracks were repeatedly suppressed, all the way from the foot of the sky to the barren land.
A deportation of Huangzhou, he laughed: "The Yangtze River around the Guo know the beauty of the fish, the good bamboo even the mountain feel bamboo shoots fragrant."
The second devaluation of Huizhou, he smiled: "Mouthful of lychee 300, do not quit long as Lingnan people."
The three deportation Danzhou, he is more and more calm and relaxed: "Who will make a public opinion in other years, Hainan miles really my hometown."
Other people are in pain, Su Dongpo has long been relieved, a "taste of mankind is pure joy" lamenting the most beautiful flavor of mankind is the bland joy, completely put down those political desire for fame and fortune.
All kinds of fame in the past are floating clouds, and now life is the real scenery, release is not just tell yourself to put down, but the heart wants to walk the road under the feet.
"Later, many people asked me a person stumbling on the road at night mood, I remembered but not lonely and long road, but the magnificent ocean and the sky shining starlight."
04
It is said in Sophie's World that everything comes from nothing at some point.
Love is, hate is, caring is, and releasing is.
Even if you can't let go, it's best not to stay where you are sad, the world is so big, you don't want to go and see?